u/CazadorHolaRodilla

It seems like such a lower effort, lower cost, lower commitment, less invasive way to solve this problem that most men go through. Women use artificial stuff all the time (e.g., wigs, padding, makeup, drawn on eyebrows, etc.) to make themselves more attractive and it is totally acceptable yet wearing a wig/toupee as a man doesnt seem to have much acceptance (take for example Trump who wears a toupee and it is something he is often mocked for doing). Am I missing something?

A little over a year ago I (31M) got divorced. We were together for 9 years and married for 7. Admittedly I got married too young and there was some religious expectation (which I am no longer a part of) that played a role in my decision. Regardless of the religious aspect, like many other people I had that feeling of “I just knew” she was the one. Even when I first met her, I had this weird feeling that I had already known her and one of the first things I said to her was “I know you from somewhere right?”

When we met, she was ambitious (working full time while starting up a double major), health conscious, very active, wanted to have kids, and very loyal. But by the time we got divorced, she was a college dropout, gained 50 pounds, financially irresponsible, did not want kids, and (worst of all) a cheater. I had always told her from the start that my number one goal in life was to never get divorced and well, last year I failed at that goal.

With that being said I do want to get married again and start a family but I feel like I can never truly trust my instincts again. Even if I get that feeling of “she is the one”, how can I trust it given the fact that I have already been through this and was incorrect?

A little over a year ago I (31M) got divorced. We were together for 9 years and married for 7. Admittedly I got married too young and there was some religious expectation (which I am no longer a part of) that played a role in my decision. Regardless of the religious aspect, like many other people I had that feeling of “I just knew” she was the one. Even when I first met her, I had this weird feeling that I had already known her and one of the first things I said to her was “I know you from somewhere right?”

When we met, she was ambitious (working full time while starting up a double major), health conscious, very active, wanted to have kids, and very loyal. But by the time we got divorced, she was a college dropout, gained 50 pounds, financially irresponsible, did not want kids, and (worst of all) a cheater. I had always told her from the start that my number one goal in life was to never get divorced and well, last year I failed at that goal.

With that being said I do want to get married again and start a family but I feel like I can never truly trust my instincts again. Even if I get that feeling of “she is the one”, how can I trust it given the fact that I have already been through this and was incorrect?