u/ChallengeDizzy40

Hi- I just wanted to see if I’m out of line here.

We have a grandparent (in law) that lives 15 minutes away. On Saturday the baby was sick with a lower fever (99-100) (gradually improved throughout the day). We kept it lowkey and I told my husband I don’t want visitors. His father showed up to drop off some food for us that he had picked up the day before (very nice and I acknowledge that) his father frequently does come by unannounced or with 5-15 minutes notice, esp now that he knows the babies schedule. He means well and does bring us food alot of the time. This time he had called 45 minutes prior a few times but my husband did not see. We knew from the day prior he was going to stop by to drop off food.

However- the baby had woken up and because she had a lower fever I just didn’t want visitors. He wants to see her and is excited And wants to hang out with her but I told my husband it just wasn’t a good day for visiting. When my in law showed up he was upset my husband hadn’t answered the phone, and my husband told him that it wasn’t a good day for visitors he just got alittle annoyed and left as he had plans.

For context we have had another issue with the baby was sick a few months ago with a higher fever and he wanted to come by and he got upset and told us we were ridiculous as babies in daycare are always sick. And then he ignored us and was mad with my husband. And it’s true she is- but she doesn’t always have a fever.

Anyway- he’s now ignored 3 calls and a text from my husband (my husband calls every night always )

We called on Sunday to ask if he wanted to visit as the fever was gone and even though she was snotty she was feeling somewhat better- and we knew he wanted to see her. But he ignored that call during the day- and ignored the evening call.

Am I wrong? Should I have just let him in to visit for 20-30 minutes? I know it’s not a huge deal but I feel like it’s a really simple boundary and it’s frustrating bc he criticizes a lot of the decisions we make.

Hi- I just wanted to see if I’m out of line here.

We have a grandparent (in law) that lives 15 minutes away. On Saturday the baby was sick with a lower fever (99-100) (gradually improved throughout the day). We kept it lowkey and I told my husband I don’t want visitors. His father showed up to drop off some food for us that he had picked up the day before (very nice and I acknowledge that) his father frequently does come by unannounced or with 5-15 minutes notice, esp now that he knows the babies schedule. He means well and does bring us food alot of the time. This time he had called 45 minutes prior a few times but my husband did not see. We knew from the day prior he was going to stop by to drop off food.

However- the baby had woken up and because she had a lower fever I just didn’t want visitors. He wants to see her and is excited And wants to hang out with her but I told my husband it just wasn’t a good day for visiting. When my in law showed up he was upset my husband hadn’t answered the phone, and my husband told him that it wasn’t a good day for visitors he just got alittle annoyed and left as he had plans.

For context we have had another issue with the baby was sick a few months ago with a higher fever and he wanted to come by and he got upset and told us we were ridiculous as babies in daycare are always sick. And then he ignored us and was mad with my husband. And it’s true she is- but she doesn’t always have a fever.

Anyway- he’s now ignored 3 calls and a text from my husband (my husband calls every night always )

We called on Sunday to ask if he wanted to visit as the fever was gone and even though she was snotty she was feeling somewhat better- and we knew he wanted to see her. But he ignored that call during the day- and ignored the evening call.

Am I wrong? Should I have just let him in to visit for 20-30 minutes? I know it’s not a huge deal but I feel like it’s a really simple boundary and it’s frustrating bc he criticizes a lot of the decisions we make.

Hi,

Going on a 4-5 hour flight plus a two hour drive soon. I want to bring around 40oz of frozen breastmilk with me.

I have a 8L calpak insulated cooler. How would you keep 40oz cold for around 10hours?

How do I dissolve a few tsp of citric acid to put in the fabric softening tray? I don’t want to make a big batch I just want to do one load. I have a top loader machine

We do have hard water- however- I have friends who live in the same city and their clothes are soft and not stiff.

My babies clothes are mostly cotton and they’re all getting completely stiff and ruined after a few washes- and idk what to do.

I tried washing soda but that’s not helping. I do washing soda and a vinegar rinse and it’s not Much better! I have made sure to use the minimal amount of detergent. Can you even reverse the stiffening of the clothes? We also tumble dry everything low. This is also happening to my clothes- but I really notice it with the babies clothes

We have a top loading machine. Could it be a problem with the machine?