u/ChampionshipApart112

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Is he in a bassinet in this story?????

I feel like she’s mentioning so much the past couple days on things that we talk about here. The pool and now the hair transplant that we all said sucked lol. 😂

I saw this on my Facebook and can you imagine her applying for this, she be laughed out of the casting so fast lol 😂

Is it just me or does she seem to be holding this over his head a lot lately lol? I feel like she keeps mentioning it over and over again.

1st comment: nobody asked. 2nd comment: what did you expect when you never call them by their proper names?

I was trying to Google something and came across one of her old posts from like six years ago and I was scrolling through the comments and it doesn’t appear She was always a comment deleter..these are absolute gold lol 😂 this is all from the same person

I never knew about the wands until the heart came out, I was sick in the hospital around the time it came out, so I got the heart but got the wand for the second release, but this was a little disappointing that I can’t keep them both unlocked at the same time. I was hoping I could keep the wand and the heart each on a different purse because I like to keep my regular card locked all the time so I can control when money comes out and it’s been super convenient to be able to keep my tag unlocked all the time and not have to pull my phone out to unlock or lock something. I put them on like those badge keychains with the extendable string so I can pull it to reach the credit card machine

I don’t know much about Florida bugs but this person’s comment isn’t wrong lol. I wonder if it’s because her house is so damn dirty.

“Making this the quickest trip because I can’t control my kids” there, fixed it for you.

We shall see if she even does the right things to try to help the baby. 😔

I really need to talk about this somewhere. I’m super upset and super bothered.. This is kind of a long story. I tend to blab when I use voice text lol. Saturday was my husbands celebration of life, we were separated when he died last year. I left him. I wanted the best for him, but just not with me and I still deeply cared about him so I’ve taken his death much harder than I expected to. He was an alcoholic in liver failure with deep psychological issues. Now that I’ve had a few days to process Saturday, The behavior by his ex-girlfriend there and throughout the last 4-6 months really really peeved me off and this girl is super bothered by the fact that I was his wife when he died and i think it shows lol. So he hasn’t been with this girl in like eight+ years and I think they were together for a total of about two, aside from maybe a month that they started to see each other again right after I left him. We were together over three times as long as they were. From what she has told me all he did was cheat on her and treat her like crap for almost all of those two years. Within weeks of me leaving, she was coming and staying at the house I paid for with him because he was gonna need to move and needed a new place to live. That right there tells me all I need to know about her, rather than making sure our marriage was definitely over She just felt the need to move right in on him but that’s beside the point. From what she has told me she wasn’t able to provide him that place to live and then he ditched her very quickly for somebody else who he remained with until his death.. I don’t understand how she can’t see right there that he was just using her. Unfortunately that’s the kind of things he would do. This girl caused a lot of problems at the beginning of our marriage because it was right after they had broken up and she used to message me and harass me all the time and claim he was cheating on me with her. I drove with her to get his belongings from his current girlfriend not long after he died and when I brought it up in the car, she seemed to know nothing of what I was talking about and said they used to see each other occasionally, but it was platonic and it was just so he could see their dog. She also told me back in the first year of our marriage that he cheated on me with somebody else, but again I brought it up and she claimed to not know what I was talking about. This 1000% affected the rest of our marriage because yes, he did some questionable things but now I sit here and wonder how questionable some of these things really were because I had that thought influencing me the whole time and either she just didn’t wanna be a grown-up and fess up to it now or they were all lies that she told me. And this was after I was trying to be a bigger person and apologized to her because we were together and married right after they broke up so I told her that I was very sorry if our relationship ever hurt her and I meant it. Then after his phone made its way to me I paid $300 getting it fixed and found out via his email that he had a storage unit. I had to prove his death and that I was his legal next of kin to be able to gain access to it and after I did that she called and paid for it so the storage unit gave her the combination when they should never have given that to her. I almost wonder if she called and pretended to be me. We had made plans to go together and then one day, strangely enough after I posted a screenshot of some lady I don’t know telling me that when he used to tell her memories of his better days, that they usually always involved me, I randomly got a fb comment on that very specific post in fact saying she “went without me and took all the good stuff and his jerseys out for his family and was just waiting to find out if his dad wanted anything else left in there or if the rest was just garbage”. Um excuse me?? did you not think his WIFE may have wanted something? There may have been things in there that were either 1: mine because I left him with a house full of belongings that I paid for or 2: things that may have looked like junk to somebody else that may have had sentimental value to me. She tried to turn it like she was doing me a favor because she said that she knows I told her that I hate driving in the winter and this was after I went out of my way to go pick her up to take her with me the first time we grabbed belongings from his girlfriend. I immediately cut off contact with her because I was so upset so I was a little nervous about having to see her on Saturday. I think she overstepped so many boundaries doing this. I tried my hardest not to flip out on this girl and just started avoiding everybody in his family because I didn’t want to add to their grief or stress and tell them that I was so upset about this. I suspected she deliberately did that because she wanted to take stuff for herself because she hadn’t should have never gone up unsupervised without a member of his family being there. I had already said I wanted most of his stuff to go to his family, but I would have at least like that option on anything else and I don’t doubt she took a lot of stuff for herself, and for some reason, she thinks she has more right to keep anything of his than his own wife. After Saturday, I know I’m right about that because she said she had a Red Sox jersey She was going to mail to me. Exactly what she said to me was “I didn’t want to bring all his stuff with me because I didn’t know if you were going to be here”. We’ll see if I actually ever get this in the mail lol. She messaged me midday today to tell me she dropped it off. Then when they were letting people speak, she got up and she started her speech off by saying she was “ one of the many women in his life”. We all know how he was, his family included, but I just didn’t think that needed to be said out loud at an event like that. It was tacky. She also interrupted when his sister was talking and giving her speech something about how she was jealous that he had his sister‘s name on his chest and not hers, like WTF? Well me and him had matching tattoos so she can suck on that lol. So then it was hysterical. My mom got up and spoke and referred to herself as his mother-in-law and me as his widow, and she got up immediately and walked out and left the room. Lol. My mom deliberately laid it on thick for her benefit because she immediately took a non-liking to this girl because she saw how she was acting. She didn’t come back until my mom was done speaking and then thanked my mom and told her what a nice speech it was. My mom regrets not saying “ well you got up and left and didn’t hear any of it so how would you know if it was any good?” 😂 my mom admits she’s old-fashioned and whether or not we were ever going to manage to work anything out and stay married, my mom believes marriage is forever and still believe that would be a possibility one day. So my mom admits that seeing her act that way in front of his widow just really ticked her off. she also signed his guest book as “ love of his life” and walked around there like she was a grieving widow, which I told my mom was going to happen meanwhile I was just trying to keep a low profile and keep to myself. She also tried to claim to my mom when my mom told her that he had spent the last two years of his life calling our house weekly begging me to take him back, which is true. I have copies of the messages to prove it, and she claimed the last month of his life, THEY had been trying to work things out, but she’s forgetting I have his phone and the only thing I found in there was a message from her about a week I think before he died, saying if he didn’t call her and get in touch with her she was gonna call his father. He hadn’t deleted the message and his phone wasn’t even locked so it doesn’t even appear that he was even trying to hide it from his current girlfriend. 🤷‍♀️ I get being sad that a former partner died, same reason it makes me sad, but I start to feel like her behavior goes over into flat out obsession and for somebody she claimed treated her like crap anyways and supposedly cheated on her over a dozen times in two years, she even claimed he moved in one of the girls to their apartment and claimed it was just because she “needed a place to stay and that she was just a friend”. Before I left, I said goodbye to his sister and asked her about sprinkling ashes, and she said the X was trying to make plans to do it up where him and I lived out of state because that was a special place for him his whole life which is how we ended up there and his sister kinda had this look on her face like she wanted to say more or roll her eyes, but then didn’t elaborate. Probably because this ex also basically paid for the whole celebration of life. This girl shouldn’t be planning anything, let his family make those decisions! hopefully the jersey I receive in the mail is the one I’m thinking it is, which was a grey Red Sox one that he wore a lot when we were together because it was one part of a matching set that I bought for us. We also had some T-shirts that were matching sets and that’s why I say something like that may have looked like a junk T-shirt to somebody, but may have been more meaningful to me. Or he may have had other gifts that I had given him over the years because I did get one of those back from his girlfriend. Even though she paid for the storage unit, we never would have found it if it wasn’t for me paying to get his phone fixed because his current girlfriend said that everything in there he lost due to non payment. His current girlfriend, wasn’t there, I was told she was planning a different event on her own, but then his ex told me Saturday that when she had asked her recently about it, probably trying to score an invite, his girlfriend said “ they’ve already grieved him and don’t wanna reopen wounds” but her odd behavior since he’s died is a whole different conversation. This package is supposedly coming in the next couple days because it was supposedly mailed out today, and I think after I receive it, I’m just going to block her from being able to contact me at all moving forward. I was the one who reached out to her and told her that he died at all because I thought she would want to know, but now I’ve just come to regret that decision and I just wanna put all this behind me and look towards the future. What has really made me feel like I’m going off the deep end today is this post that she suddenly put up on her Facebook today a few hours after she messaged me, she even pinned it to the top and I can’t help it but Read it and feel like it’s passive aggressively directed at me. Maybe I’m wrong and I’m overreacting and it’s not but it sure sounds like it. I am not gonna turn his memory into a pissing match and disrespect it. I’m not going to presume to guess what he truly wanted, he had many deep rooted issues that caused him to be the way he was so I think half the time he didn’t know himself. He’s gone and he’s not coming back so none of that matters at this point. The only thing I put up on my page was some pictures of the event and the small jar of his ashes that his family gave me and saying how nice it was and again saying like I always do that even though it didn’t work out between us, I wanted the best for him and that now I can start working on putting that chapter behind me. I tried to be very respectful in what I said to not upset anyone else including her.. I just know what I see in his phone and what she says do not match up with each other. I don’t see how they were trying to work it out together when he died, but the message I found in his phone said she was gonna call his father if he didn’t get in touch with her, which made it sound like they hadn’t talked in quite a while. It wasn’t deleted from his phone and his phone wasn’t even locked so it doesn’t appear He was trying to hide it from his current girlfriend. There were no call logs between them. In the 10 years, she claims they were “on and off”, she’s failing to mention that 8 of those years he was married to me and we were actively together six of them, and the final 21 months of his life he was with the girlfriend he had when he died. Am I a jerk if I just block this chick from contacting me ever again and am I overreacting or is my anger justified? I feel like she’s also tarnishing the memories that me and his girlfriend have had of him over the past 10 years, which when combined is way more than her memories with him and acting like our marriage meant nothing. I checked today and this was not just some casual post she made. I looked at her edit history because I noticed it kept changing and she edited this 37 times over the course of seven hours, so she absolutely want to make sure what she said was very specific. And seen, I don’t know if I already mentioned that she pinned this to the top of her page lol.. I don’t think I’ve ever seen someone edit a post quite that much. Some additions were parts like “he knew where he wanted and needed to be before he died“ lol 😂 and again, what I seen in his phone is different so I don’t think either of us should speculate and I know that the messages couldn’t be on Facebook messenger because she told me that he had her blocked and that if I could get into his Facebook to unblock her, which I couldn’t because it wants to text a code to his cell phone, which is no longer active and can only be used on Wi-Fi. I really did try to explain this as simply as possible, but if just anything else I can answer or clarify, please let me know! Part of me also wants to mention it to his sister and warn her to take what she says with a grain of salt so she cannot further manipulate his family, but I don’t want to add to her grief, and his sister hasn’t liked or commented on her post and it’s been almost 24 hours so it’s possible she don’t buy it either. I was debating only reaching out if I saw her react or comment to it but I am so on the fence 😔

I love how she’s not good at checking and deleting the Facebook comments lol 👀 ☕️