u/Cheeks7527

I've been working in Tech for the last 10 years, doing Workday for 7 years.

I've enjoyed the perks - remote, flexible PTO, large budgets etc but the expectation to work long hours constantly, including weekends is wearing on me.

I've been at my current employer for almost a year and a half, they're a large tech company, and I'm feeling incredibly burnt out. I'm not enjoying the highly political and competitive environment. I want to do my job, get paid and log off.

At the risk of being identified, I don't want to explicitly list out all of the recent issues I've had. Today I fully crashed out in a way that's highly abnormal for me, to the point that a close friend of my expressed concerns about my well being and I am now considering going on leave.

I have received great feedback from my colleagues and my boss herself has told me I'm exceeding expectations. I'm just not happy and exhausted. I am feeling unheard and I'm willing to take a pay cut to restore my own mental peace.

Would switching industries help? I have only worked in Tech and banking.

What's it like in other industries? Is this just what working in Workday is like and I need to get a grip?

Edit: I am also open to moving into a Workday or HR Product/Project Manager role.

I had a good 1:1 with my manager today. She said that I'm doing everything expected of me in my role and she said all the feedback about me has been glowing and positive. I am grateful.

I've been at my current job for a year and she wants to talk about career progression. She said she can't promote me because I'm not taking charge/being proactive in certain situations.

This is valid because honestly I do my job and log out. I care to do good work but I don't have ambitions to climb the corporate ladder to leadership. Being promoted one level would be great because of the compensation but these days all of my ambition is tied up in the money. I don't have the same drive I did in my 20s because capitalism has burned me out.

Her feedback was absolutely fair and I'm thinking through how I can be more proactive/take initiative. I'm going to schedule monthly career progression meetings with my manager. I document my work already. I reached out to two friends who are really good at taking charge and I've reached out to a colleague on my team who I trust to schedule time to get her input.

Has anyone else received this feedback? What steps did you take/can I take to do better?

This might be stupid. I'm 33F and I've never been in a relationship. I'm actually pretty okay if this doesn't happen for me, I'm not convinced it will for a few reasons. I have a good career, live alone, have an advanced degree, solo travel, have a ton of friends and hobbies. I trust that I will be okay being alone.

However, if I did get into a relationship I feel like I would have a lot to catch up on. My parents had an awful marriage and I never really saw healthy relationships until my friends started getting married. I'm also in therapy and do talk about this with my therapist.

But I was wondering from this group, what books, podcasts, and other resources have been helpful when learning about healthy relationships?

Do you have questions that you ask new people that depending on how they answer, tells you everything you need to know about them?

Disclaimer: No I have never stopped talking to someone because of how they answered one question and I'm not advocating for that. But more so looking to understand what are questions folks ask new people to learn more about them/their character.

With this condition do Spin classes make it worse?

I've never taken one but a new studio opened near me and I'm thinking of trying it out. I just don't want to make my pelvic floor more angry

For any of the women who have lived or currently live alone what supplies do you keep on hand just in case?

I keep cold medicine on hand for example. It's easier to have around then having to go get it myself when I'm not feeling well.

Hi All,

I bought the anal dilators from Intimate Rose ages ago and finally decided to use them.

I've had vaginismus my whole life. I used to have anal sex but that stopped being possible a while ago as well. I struggle with remaining motivated to keep up with dilators in general.

I once had a PT who explained everything is connected so I want to start working with the anal dilators first, work my way up and then transition back to the vaginal ones.

Has anyone had a similar experience? What worked/didn't work? Any suggestions/tips?

Yes, I know tech moves fast but JFC. I've been at my current employer for almost a year but nothing is documented, people make decisions in a vacuum, communication is awful, and no one respects actual sprints.

Of course, things come up but every single project is a swirling mess. I try to make suggestions, help with documentation, propose ideas but nothing gets very far. Everyone is burning out and it's insane to watch.

I feel as if we slowed down and just got properly organized from the beginning, things would go so much smoother.

I am exhausted and trying to have a life outside of this job is so difficult because I can never get out of here.

I'm really only here for the salary.