Basically I got into an accident and took it to the closest shop near me. The guy was saying that the only reason to do an initial estimate with the insurance was to see if you needed to pay the full deductible or not, but since the damage was going to be more than my deductible, but visually it didn't look like it was going to be totaled from the outside, it didn't make sense to do one. Determining the actual amount of the cost would require a teardown which they would do before completing the repairs. The place was a gerber body shop near me.
Basically I got into an accident and took it to the closest shop near me. The guy was saying that the only reason to do an initial estimáte with the insurance was to see if you needed to pay the full deductible or not, but since the damage was going to be more than my deductible, but visually it didn't look like it was going to be totaled from the outside, it didn't make sense to do one. Determining the actual amount of the cost would require a teardown which they would do before completing the repairs. The place was a gerber body shop near me.
At first, I thought it might be a tripped breaker and was going to go to the circuit breaker and reset it. But then the power went on by itself again, from my research that typically doesn't happen from a tripped breaker. Its not flickering though, it stays off for a solid 30 minutes or so. Its gone on and off a couple of times throughout the day as the rain has went on. Any idea what might be causing this / what to do next? I was reading that an outside outlet getting moisture from the rain could cause something like this, but it usually trips and stays off when that happens. The outside outlet also has a cover and is under the porch and is pretty dry so I dont think thats related.
Two years ago, my wife cut off her family because her dad was an abusive narcissist (verbally, physically, even strangled her) and everyone else was siding with him and making excuses for him and she couldn't take it anymore. To help heal, she turned to Christianity which I thought made sense and would be a good way to help her. We were both non-religious at that point, although I grew up Lutheran and thought that now might be a good time to come back to the Church.
Only problem is we didn't go to a local church; she wanted to learn about Christianity on YouTube first instead. It was fine for a few months and was pretty standard stuff. Of course, YouTube quickly started recommending to her a completely different version of Christianity than the one I grew up with, honestly it seems like an entirely different religion at times.
This version consisted of all dreams being visions from God and taking place in the spirit realm, dream interpretations that classified people in your dreams as wizards, sirens, or warlocks, and spiritual attacks against said wizards and warlocks (with prayers ending with 'Die, in the name of Jesus', a sentence that honestly feels like an oxymoron and a far cry from the Jesus I grew up with who said to love your enemy). It also extended outside of dreams to all walks of life as there was a video with some random person who could twist pretty much anything to be demonic. I was doing research and most of this seems to come from Africa and Pentecostal versions of Christianity.
Quickly, it started consuming all aspects of her life. She spent several hours a day doing research on the dreams she had, watching African dream interpreters on YouTube telling her what they meant, and praying to cancel out anything they deemed demonic. YouTube videos started saying that certain foods are unclean, so she started changing her diet too. I started getting worried and tried to get her to go to a real church instead of the church of YouTube influencers as these were not the teachings of Christ that I knew, but she refused and said those versions of Christianity were 'lukewarm', citing Revelation 3:16.
It got even worse, as she scheduled an appointment to consult with one of those influencers about her dreams, and because one of the dreams (allegedly) predicted the future, during that appointment they told her she was a Prophet and a Chosen One (turns out that's another rabbit hole of the radical YouTube Christians who think that some people who had issues with their family are special Chosen Ones by God, drawing parallels to old testament bible stories as justification)
Then, it started extending to me. She said that my lifelong friend who was agnostic was demonic and I had to cut him off (citing the 'unequally yoked with non-believers' verse and a dream she had). She had a dream about my mom's dog biting her, and the dream interpreter had a YouTube video from a few years ago that said that was witchcraft, so she wanted me to cut her off too. (she never really got along with my mom which is a whole different can of worms). Naturally, I refused. I can see where this is going, even if I listened to her, eventually she would probably have a dream about me that has a YouTube video saying its demonic and then she'll get rid of me next, leaving me completely isolated and alone.
Now, we are having arguments every time I hang out with either my friends or family, but I'm not going to stop and give in. They are getting more frequent and this is probably not sustainable for the next 40+ years of marriage and I'm fearing divorce is on the horizon, but I'm hoping there is some way to turn this around. Any advice?
>!For context, I have level 9 on damage and defense, 4 trinkets (vascular syrup, primed vial pouch, lance glove, and twill weave), and completed 4 areas so far. I am currently on the Astral Quarry boss trying to use the hammer and have been attempting it for over 3 hours now and have probably died over 30 times.!<
>!I have memorized the bosses movements and know when to attack. The first phase is easy, but there are so many different hazards in the second phase to keep track of (multiple enemies, sometimes two of the boss, those endlessly expanding diamonds) that I gradually keep getting my health chipped away. I'm really bad at keeping track of multiple things on the screen at once and tend to get 'tunnel vision', which really doesn't help here. The attacks are so frequent that it's hard to find windows to heal and I keep getting my plasma depleted and wasting vials.!<
>!After 3 hours I finally barely got past the second phase with barely any health and no vials only to see there was a THIRD phase and after I died there I got so defeated. Died another 5 times on the second phase and I am completely checked out on this boss and considering just temporarily turning on the no damage modifier to get past it.!<
>!Seeing people say the boss was easy and that they first tried it just makes me realize how absolutely terrible I am at video games compared to some of y'all lol. It feels like I am a small plebeian among video game gods.!<
I'm looking at working for a small company (~50ish people), the work is interesting and the people seem nice from my interviews. It's not a startup as its been around for 10 years and is profitable and has no external funding. Only a few glassdoor reviews to go off of but they seem positive.
They seem to have at least 1 of everything so there wouldn't be as much 'wearing several hats' as in other small companies (there is a PM, QA, and UX on the team). The nature of the project would not require any perpetual on call shifts either.
Only weird organizational issue is that this specific team would just be me and 1 other dev (~12 devs in the company split across various projects), and the PM for it is also the hiring manager + does a bit of QA himself since he has a lot of technical knowledge in the domain.
So, it sounds fun, but I'd say the main issues are growth opportunities (there aren't any staff, architect, etc. positions, only software engineer -> senior, and I would already be a senior). And also it might not look as good on a resume as larger, well known companies. Anyone work for companies like this and have experiences?
For context, I've been doing full stack AWS / Node.js / Python / React work for large companies for a while. I haven't had much issues getting interviews and offers, and I'm assuming its related to the tech stack I've been using. There is some instability at my current job as it was bought out a couple years ago and there is now an integration with the larger parent company (layoffs, decommissioning redundant parts of the system, probably getting a pay cut next month to 'align comp with parent company salary bands'...) so I have been on the job hunt for a while. I've been picky and rejected a lot of job offers over the past ~6 months due to various red flags like 50+ hour work week requests, being owned by private equity with bad Glassdoor reviews, non-profitable early-stage startups, having a really bad commute and a pay cut, etc. but finally found a job that didn't have any significant red flags.
It's a small (<50 people) financially stable company that has been doing government contracting for 10+ years, everyone seems nice, its 100% remote, work life balance sounds good, and is a decent pay bump. I would be working on a long-term project that is military training simulation software. Its full stack (front end leaning) work with Node / Nest.js / Vue.js, and from what I've heard there's a lot of interesting things they're working on, and a huge amount of work road mapped for it. It sounds really fun!
Only problem is that the app runs 100% locally because the people using it are in environments that are offline.
So basically, my main concern is that I wouldn't have any cloud or high scale experience in this role due to the local behavior of it. And also, there wouldn't be lots of the other challenges of a SaaS product as its basically more like a browser game with lots of front-end heavy work. I've had experience with cloud-based SaaS in the past, but I'm worried that my skills would atrophy and also most employers seem to only care about what you've done recently.
Thoughts?
For context, I have ~8 years of experience doing full stack AWS / Node.js / Python / React work for large companies. There is some instability at my current job as it was bought out a couple years ago and there is now an integration with the larger parent company (layoffs, decommissioning redundant parts of the system, probably getting a pay cut next month to 'align comp with parent companies salary bands'...) so I have been on the job hunt for a while. I've rejected a lot of job offers over the past ~6 months due to various red flags like 50+ hour work week requests, being owned by private equity with bad Glassdoor reviews, non-profitable early-stage startups, having a really bad commute and a pay cut, etc. but finally found a couple jobs that didn't have as much red flags. Both offers pay exactly the same and are a ~10% pay bump from what I currently make.
Job 1:
Pros: A small (<50 people) financially stable company that has been doing government contracting for 10+ years, everyone seems nice, its 100% remote, work life balance sounds good (no on call due to the nature of the app). I would be working on a long-term project that is a military training simulation software. Its full stack work with the same type of tools I've used before, and from what I've heard there's a lot of interesting things they're working on, and a huge amount of work road mapped for it.
Cons: The app runs 100% locally because the people using it are in environments that are offline. I wouldn't have any cloud or high scale experience in this role due to the local behavior of it. There wouldn't be lots of the other challenges of a cloud-based SaaS product as its basically more like a browser game with lots of front-end heavy work. Extremely small team on this project so not a lot of people to learn from or positions to be promoted to.
Job2:
Pros: A large financially stable tech company (1000+ employees) in the energy space that's 30+ years old, 100% remote. Team also seems nice. Working on a new API / data ingestion pipeline that utilizes data that wasn't being leveraged in a legacy platform (GraphQL APIs on AWS with Node.js / Python). More positions to potentially be promoted to (team has leads, architects, etc.).
Cons: The company has been owned by a private investment firm since 2017 (from what I've gathered it's not the same as private equity as this company is more of a 'family investment office' and intends to own companies' long term instead of flip them), since then there has been a global expansion with offices in the Philippines and layoffs / reorgs / frequent CEO changes and acquiring smaller companies. Health insurance is expensive as well.
Thoughts?
For context, I have ~8 years of experience doing full stack AWS / Node.js / Python / React work for large companies. There is some instability at my current job as it was bought out a couple years ago and there is now an integration with the larger parent company (layoffs, decommissioning redundant parts of the system, probably getting a pay cut next month to 'align comp with parent companies salary bands'...) so I have been on the job hunt for a while. I've rejected a lot of job offers over the past ~6 months due to various red flags like 50+ hour work week requests, being owned by private equity with bad Glassdoor reviews, non-profitable early-stage startups, having a really bad commute and a pay cut, etc. but finally found a couple jobs that didn't have as much red flags. Both offers pay exactly the same and are a ~10% pay bump from what I currently make.
Job 1:
Pros: A small (<50 people) financially stable company that has been doing government contracting for 10+ years, everyone seems nice, its 100% remote, work life balance sounds good (no on call due to the nature of the app). I would be working on a long-term project that is a military training simulation software. Its full stack work with the same type of tools I've used before, and from what I've heard there's a lot of interesting things they're working on, and a huge amount of work road mapped for it.
Cons: The app runs 100% locally because the people using it are in environments that are offline. I wouldn't have any cloud or high scale experience in this role due to the local behavior of it. There wouldn't be lots of the other challenges of a cloud-based SaaS product as its basically more like a browser game with lots of front-end heavy work. Extremely small team on this project so not a lot of people to learn from or positions to be promoted to.
Job2:
Pros: A large financially stable tech company (1000+ employees) in the energy space that's 30+ years old, 100% remote. Team also seems nice. Working on a new API / data ingestion pipeline that utilizes data that wasn't being leveraged in a legacy platform (GraphQL APIs on AWS with Node.js / Python). More positions to potentially be promoted to (team has leads, architects, etc.).
Cons: The company has been owned by a private investment firm since 2017 (from what I've gathered it's not the same as private equity as this company is more of a 'family investment office' and intends to own companies' long term instead of flip them), since then there has been a global expansion with offices in the Philippines and layoffs / reorgs / frequent CEO changes and acquiring smaller companies. Health insurance is expensive as well.
Thoughts?
For context, I have ~8 years of experience doing full stack AWS / Node.js / Python / React work for large companies. There is some instability at my current job as it was bought out a couple years ago and there is now integration with the larger parent company (layoffs, decommissioning redundant parts of the system, probably getting a pay cut next month to align comp...) so I have been on the job hunt for a while. I've rejected a lot of job offers over the past ~6 months due to various red flags like 50+ hour work week requests, being owned by private equity with bad Glassdoor reviews, non-profitable early-stage startups, having a really bad commute and a pay cut, etc. but finally found a job that didn't have any significant red flags.
It's a small (<50 people) financially stable company that has been doing government contracting for 10+ years, everyone seems nice, its 100% remote, work life balance sounds good, and is a decent pay bump. I would be working on a long-term project that is a military training simulation software. Its full stack work with the same type of tools I've used before, and from what I've heard there's a lot of interesting things they're working on, and a huge amount of work road mapped for it. It sounds really fun!
Only problem is that the app runs 100% locally because the people using it are in environments that are offline.
So basically, my main concern is that I wouldn't have any cloud or high scale experience in this role due to the local behavior of it. And also, there wouldn't be lots of the other challenges of a SaaS product as its basically more like a browser game with lots of front-end heavy work. I've had experience with cloud-based SaaS in the past, but I'm worried that my skills would atrophy and also most employers seem to only care about what you've done recently. Would this be a silly reason to turn down a job that otherwise seems great?
I do have other interviews lined up with other companies that are a bit closer to what I'm wanting but am feeling like I'm playing Russian Roulette each time I turn down a job.