u/ClueLazy834

I’ll be walking outside, not even in a crowded area, glance at them and look away, and they will turn around and spit so close to me it feels almost intentional. First time it happened, I just thought it was bad timing, but now it’s clear there’s a pattern.

This morning I passed and they spit so close it flung up and hit my arm a little. Not enough for me to call police and say it’s assault but it was disgusting and weird, and this person was not homeless or mentally ill but on their way to work or school.

I’m a white female and every time it’s done by only males of another race. 100% feels like I’m being targeted for who I am in the city, like how dare I be here or something. Like what the hell?

I’m on a CyberPowerPC, AMD Ryzen 5 5600G. Can’t remember the graphics card right now but I’ve had this happen once before with another graphics card so I think it’s unrelated.

I was gone for a few days and someone in my house unplugged the HDMI connecting my monitor to my desktop to use it for something else.

I got the HDMI back and connected it to the CPU and booted up the computer, it wouldn’t show any signal. I realized I had it on the GPU previously, so I unplugged and connected it there, still no signal.

-I’ve rebooted both desktop and monitor everything multiple times
-Unplugged and let it sit for 30 minutes
-I’ve tried multiple HDMI cords and they all are working on other devices
-I’ve tried a DisplayPort cord, still no signal there
-I’ve tried CPU and GPU again and again multiple times

Last time this happened and I had to bring it all the way to a computer shop, and they made me come in and did something quick that fixed it. They said the computer was “confused” about where to send the signal…not sure what that means.

I called them again and they said I can just bring it back. They wouldn’t even tell me how to do it over the phone because I think they want to try to sell me some maintenance and upgrades there. I don’t want to haul it back there.

I’m sure I can fix this on my own with some guidance. Please help.

Every job I’ve been at, there’s a ton of pressure on me to have my photo, full name, email, and other identifying information on the website, listed with the building address we work in every day.

I have to opt out every time because I’m a stalking survivor and the offender is constantly trying to find me online and send threats. I’ve had police, FBI, and lawyer involved and no charges have been made, it’s ridiculous how I’m supposed to just wait for it get worse.

It’s incredibly embarrassing going through the story each time with HR, they never just accept “I want privacy” as an answer and look at me like I’m crazy even though I have a legal documented case. Other employees will ask why I’m not up on there yet or why my LinkedIn doesn’t list my current job, and I have to just say I don’t like to be online.

The amount of cybersecurity incidents we have from everyone’s information being public is crazy. I’m constantly having to report that someone is impersonating a manager and we receive emails from jobseekers who were scammed by people pretending to be one of our recruiters.

There is also a physical safety concern. The internet and easy access to information encourages harassment and assaults of people at companies caught up in conspiracy theories and controversy. The blackrock and insurance CEO shootings come to mind.

So when are companies going to finally step away from showing off their employees and realize privacy is what protects us all on multiple levels?

I was groomed online into the alt-right. I unfortunately used my real name to say red pill edgy things in private chats. It’s been many years since I left that. Most of people involved are deleted and gone, I definitely am, and even the server is gone. I have moved on and am living by a kinder, more rational philosophy.

However, there is just one person from my past who won’t leave me alone. I have been harassed and stalked solely online for over half a decade. I figured out quickly he is mentally ill and disabled, and has a small criminal history of harassment towards someone he knew IRL.

He is irrationally angry I stopped e-dating him and has sent mixed threats to harm me physically, attack a school I no longer attend, and named one of my recent jobs, claiming he had screenshots of my old bigoted messages and would expose me.

These threats are never followed through and are sporadic, but it causes me so much anxiety and I’m paranoid he will show up where I’m at one day.

I have gotten the FBI involved, hired a lawyer who got him to sign an affidavit, however he has received no charges. I was told the DA wasn’t going to pursue a case and was advised to not do a restraining order by the special agents that investigated him! It makes no sense to me, as I’ve seen people go to federal prison for the same kind of online threats he makes. He still is just free to keep tabs on me.

It’s been a year and I haven’t received any new harassment, which is good. But last time, he went a couple years without contacting me.

I can’t live like this. I feel like I have no option but to change my name and go into hiding.

I do know everything about this guy. I have collected his address, his family and friend’s addresses, as well as every news outlet in his small town. The list is about 15 people.

If he returns to harass me, would it be a bad idea if I sent copies from an e-address of all his threats with a professional letter outlining what he has done to me? I even thought about buying a billboard advertising a site that details what he did.

I need ideas. I’m so sick of this and I just have a feeling it won’t stop, so I want to just scream to the tops of my lungs that this guy is bothering me. I’m tired of hiding.

I have quite a bit of family from out of town wanting to come. Trying to plan the best I can before the date.

I requested 2 more tickets in my rsvp - how likely am I to get those at the grad fair? And how hard would it to be get 1 more after the grad fair, either from the school or another student?

Thanks!