i've inherited my families old car and my little sister is upset that i plan on washing off the window crayon drawings her and a friend did a few years ago. does anyone have some ideas on what i could do to preserve it?! (not keeping it soz 😭) was thinking spray paper with water and stick it on?? no clue 😓
i'm going to use cellophane, does anyone have any ideas how to make it textured like actual glass? i was thinking maybe craft glue but i dont want to wreck my window. i know theres stained glass paint??? but its a bit out of budget for me
mine keeps breaking! i've been using crayola 😭 i know... but it's accessible and for most pieces it's been fine but ive noticed recently my things snap very easily, even not thin pieces. i've posted previously in this sub about a thin and complicated project i was doing and someone suggested mixing pva glue in would make it stronger, i wouldn't mind this when attempting the project again but i don't want to have to do it everytime... or maybe im not storing it properly? or using it properly? i'm self taught, i took a three month clay class in 2023 but it was ceramic. it's wrapped tightly in the thin plastic bag it came in and in the tub it came in also however the lid doesn't snap close?! it's still moist and soft though!
>!TLDR:!< three years and we aren't compatible anymore (life style and his new behaviour) we've always been rocky, usually fixes itself but always circles back. do we break up? how? i'm so scared. i don't want to hurt him or my family.
I (F19) and my boyfriend (M18) have been together since we were both 15. our three years is next month. it's always been a little rocky and have taken three breaks (the longest being a month i think- we've been together consecutively for a year and a half now tho and never seen other people or been no contact) he is neurodivergent (i am also but in a completely opposite way) we've been through many stages together and he's grown a lot as a person, but the same issues are present (lack of communication mainly) as well as new issues (or ones i'm only now noticing) >!!!! i want to clarify im being brutally honest here because it's anonymous and i need advice... im not a total bitch i promise....!<
>!1)!< he forgets to ask questions about me or my day, for example we called for thirty minutes the other night and he was way more focused on zelda, his cat, his face and taking 15 minutes to explain his dream to me and didn't ask about my first shift at my new job or anything! so i feel like there's a lot of stuff he's missing out on. to clarify i ask him about his day and all his interests! i've basically watched and played all the games and films he loves because of how much i know by now. and i always remind him about plans he's made 😭 and check in on games he hasn't mentioned in a while to see if he's finished it ect.
>!2)!<he's often quite mean though i assume unintentionally.
>!A)!< i feel as though he always wants to prove me wrong when we are having an opinion based discussion or even if im sharing a fact i learnt.
>!B)!< something specific (but similar less dramatic situations happen too) i was sick one night and instead of comforting me like usual ("c a n i get you a bucket?" "do you need some medicine?" "do you need me to go outside?" filling up my drink bottle, rubbing my back and holding up my hair) he silently got me a bucket, and i asked him if he could sit in the living room for a bit. he asked to use my vape before he left (i'm dry heaving at this point) and then when he came back in he didn't say a single thing and went on his phone.
>!3)!<i went through some stuff when i was little and haven't wanted to be intimate for a month or so and hes always been understanding of me going through these phases but it feels like maybe less so now... hes constantly flirty and touchy and when this happens and we're already having a good time (laughing, joking ect.) and i say 'can u move ur hand' or 'please stop' he seems to get upset and we stop talking to each other. we've spoken about this before and he says he's not upset about my boundary he just feels a little hurt but it makes ME feel like we can't have fun together without it leading to something more. he says he's just 'forgetful' but i feel like my boundaries should be important enough to not forget... i also think this is hugely a me issue more than him and me taking things too personally. but i also overthink this like, a m i not attracted to him anymore? kissing him feels like a chore a lot of the time.
>!4)!<he's also very paranoid, ive tried to encourage him to see a counsellor and he agrees but the idea just gets buried. to expand on the paranoia, it's includes delusions (irrational very specific fears e.g had a headache and was scared if he fell asleep he'd have an aneurism in his sleep) as well as thinking i might be cheating on him. i've given him no reason to think this and after a discussion ive told him im happy to reassure him but he needs to try work through these ideas on his own (idk if that was ok to say but that's exactly why i think he should be seeing someone trained to help!) an example of this was when he had bought a different brand on condoms than usual (wanted more money to spend on alcohol 😐) and i had an allergic reaction to it, on top of that he had gone on holiday briefly a few days before this and had *an itch* but it turned out to be because a change in soap. but he asked me if i cheated on him and given him something and no matter my reassurance he was so suspicious, in a way that he didn't really believe himself he just was super anxious and couldn't stop thinking about it. since this discussion it hasn't happened again actually though (2 months?)
>!5)!< lastly, and i don't mean to be judgmental i swear, we're going in very different directions in life right now. Ive got a new job and start university soon, he is unemployed and doesn't have a plan or any hobbies. i dont know if its because im already frustrated with him or if im lowk just a bitch but his life style and values really stress me out/turn me off. he sits in his really messy room and plays videos games from 2pm-3am (sleeping the rest of the time) and spends all his dads money on take away and alcohol (drinking alone mostly) i thought maybe that was just the phase of "yay i'm 18 i can drink" like all of my friends and i had, but he turned 18 in november. he rarely hangs out with his friends (they often ask me if he's ok) and only really leaves his room when he goes to buy junk food, alcohol or stay at my house. his dad is so generous but my bf was raised so different to me and they just barely talk, oscar never shows any gratitude, his dad bought him a car in full! and he still keeps avoiding booking a driving test and constantly asks his dad to pick him up (even when a few months ago his dad was avoiding driving because of a mild back injury). his health and lack of individuality just really makes me anxious.
>!PROS!< i know ive made him sound rlly bad but i dont know how to explain enough that he really is a sweet boy and i love him very much, he's very considerate or at least can be, i can be myself around him and we laugh a lot and have our own inside jokes, he gets along really well with my two little sisters (they have their own inside jokes, my sisters constantly ask me to invite him over or let him stay the night, they hang out when i leave for work and he's stayed over the night before). and we don't fight, i just get upset and talk at him.
>!SO THE MAIN ISSUE!<
were just not really compatible anymore...and i don't see a future with him. i love him so much but i know sometimes love isn't enough. after three years it's just so hard to not soldier through the discomfort and pretend it's not happening like i have done so many times rather than deal with the stress of knowing we need to break up, the pain of a break up and knowing im going to hurt him, but i feel like i already am by how short i am with him and unaffectionate.
i also dont want to hurt my little sisters, now more than ever they're so close to him and my parents both really like him too, he's been on every family holiday and stayed at my house so often over the past three years he used to basically live here.
>!HOW TO??!< the breakup is so stressful and i know he deserves to be broken up with in the gentlest way possible but i know we need to be no contact after. if we break up while he's here, my family is here and it'll be hard to get him to leave. his room is too messy so he won't let me come over (then id be able to leave whenever), and over text after three years is brutal... it's what i want to do and i know id be able to get my words out best that way but im his first gf and not a total asshole so i just cannot do it over text (plus last time he showed up at my window crying and so we got back together (age 16)). call is the next best? but i dont know. i think the kindest and best is to go to a park together but im just so scared and its stressing me out so badly.
d0 i just wait until this feeling goes away??? i dont know what to do :-(
TLDR: three years and we aren't compatible anymore (life style and his new behaviour) we've always been rocky, usually fixes itself but always circles back. do we break up? how? i'm so scared. i don't want to hurt him or my family.
I (F19) and my boyfriend (M18) have been together since we were both 15. our three years is next month. it's always been a little rocky and have taken three breaks (the longest being a month i think- we've been together consecutively for a year and a half now tho and never seen other people or been no contact) he is neurodivergent (i am also but in a completely opposite way) we've been through many stages together and he's grown a lot as a person, but the same issues are present (lack of communication mainly) as well as new issues (or ones i'm only now noticing) >!!!! i want to clarify im being brutally honest here because it's anonymous and i need advice... im not a total bitch i promise....!<
>!1)!< he forgets to ask questions about me or my day, for example we called for thirty minutes the other night and he was way more focused on zelda, his cat, his face and taking 15 minutes to explain his dream to me and didn't ask about my first shift at my new job or anything! so i feel like there's a lot of stuff he's missing out on. to clarify i ask him about his day and all his interests! i've basically watched and played all the games and films he loves because of how much i know by now. and i always remind him about plans he's made 😭 and check in on games he hasn't mentioned in a while to see if he's finished it ect.
>!2)!<he's often quite mean though i assume unintentionally.
A) i feel as though he always wants to prove me wrong when we are having an opinion based discussion or even if im sharing a fact i learnt.
B) something specific (but similar less dramatic situations happen too) i was sick one night and instead of comforting me like usual ("can i get you a bucket?" "do you need some medicine?" "do you need me to go outside?" filling up my drink bottle, rubbing my back and holding up my hair) he silently got me a bucket, and i asked him if he could sit in the living room for a bit. he asked to use my vape before he left (i'm dry heaving at this point) and then when he came back in he didn't say a single thing and went on his phone.
>!3)!<i went through some stuff when i was little and haven't wanted to be intimate for a month or so and hes always been understanding of me going through these phases but it feels like maybe less so now... hes constantly flirty and touchy and when this happens and we're already having a good time (laughing, joking ect.) and i say 'can u move ur hand' or 'please stop' he seems to get upset and we stop talking to each other. we've spoken about this before and he says he's not upset about my boundary he just feels a little hurt but it makes ME feel like we can't have fun together without it leading to something more. he says he's just 'forgetful' but i feel like my boundaries should be important enough to not forget... i also think this is hugely a me issue more than him and me taking things too personally. but i also overthink this like, am i not attracted to him anymore? kissing him feels like a chore a lot of the time.
>!4)!<he's also very paranoid, ive tried to encourage him to see a counsellor and he agrees but the idea just gets buried. to expand on the paranoia, it's includes delusions (irrational very specific fears e.g had a headache and was scared if he fell asleep he'd have an aneurism in his sleep) as well as thinking i might be cheating on him. i've given him no reason to think this and after a discussion ive told him im happy to reassure him but he needs to try work through these ideas on his own (idk if that was ok to say but that's exactly why i think he should be seeing someone trained to help!) an example of this was when he had bought a different brand on condoms than usual (wanted more money to spend on alcohol 😐) and i had an allergic reaction to it, on top of that he had gone on holiday briefly a few days before this and had *an itch* but it turned out to be because a change in soap. but he asked me if i cheated on him and given him something and no matter my reassurance he was so suspicious, in a way that he didn't really believe himself he just was super anxious and couldn't stop thinking about it. since this discussion it hasn't happened again actually though (2 months?)
>!5)!< lastly, and i don't mean to be judgmental i swear, we're going in very different directions in life right now. Ive got a new job and start university soon, he is unemployed and doesn't have a plan or any hobbies. i dont know if its because im already frustrated with him or if im lowk just a bitch but his life style and values really stress me out/turn me off. he sits in his really messy room and plays videos games from 2pm-3am (sleeping the rest of the time) and spends all his dads money on take away and alcohol (drinking alone mostly) i thought maybe that was just the phase of "yay i'm 18 i can drink" like all of my friends and i had, but he turned 18 in november. he rarely hangs out with his friends (they often ask me if he's ok) and only really leaves his room when he goes to buy junk food, alcohol or stay at my house. his dad is so generous but my bf was raised so different to me and they just barely talk, oscar never shows any gratitude, his dad bought him a car in full! and he still keeps avoiding booking a driving test and constantly asks his dad to pick him up (even when a few months ago his dad was avoiding driving because of a mild back injury). his health and lack of individuality just really makes me anxious.
>!PROS!< i know ive made him sound rlly bad but i dont know how to explain enough that he really is a sweet boy and i love him very much, he's very considerate or at least can be, i can be myself around him and we laugh a lot and have our own inside jokes, he gets along really well with my two little sisters (they have their own inside jokes, my sisters constantly ask me to invite him over or let him stay the night, they hang out when i leave for work and he's stayed over the night before). and we don't fight, i just get upset and talk at him.
>!SO THE MAIN ISSUE!<
were just not really compatible anymore...and i don't see a future with him. i love him so much but i know sometimes love isn't enough. after three years it's just so hard to not soldier through the discomfort rather than deal with the stress of knowing we need to break up and the pain of a break up and knowing im going to hurt him, but i feel like i already am by how short i am with him and unaffectionate.
i also dont want to hurt my little sisters, now more than ever they're so close to him and my parents both really like him too, he's been on every family holiday and stayed at my house so often over the past three years he used to basically live here.
>!HOW TO??!< the breakup is so stressful and i know he deserves to be broken up with in the gentlest way possible but i know we need to be no contact after. if we break up while he's here, my family is here and it'll be hard to get him to leave. his room is too messy so he won't let me come over (then id be able to leave whenever), and over text after three years is brutal... it's what i want to do and i know id be able to get my words out best that way but im his first gf and not a total asshole so i just cannot do it over text (plus last time he showed up at my window crying and so we got back together (age 16)). call is the next best? but i dont know. i think the kindest and best is to go to a park together but im just so scared and its stressing me out so badly.
do i just wait until this feeling goes away??? i dont know what to do :-(
i’m trying to make myself, i have micro bangs but i can never find any hairs!!! any suggestions? my hairs curly (not ringlets tho) and maybe two inches (??) past my shoulders. i usually have it in a high bun or two platts (that end up just reaching my shoulders so quite small) but also sometimes down. my bangs r a huge part of my appearance so any suggestions would be great!!!!!
TLDR: micro bangs (preferably wavy hair) cc suggestions!!!
TLDR; complicated shapes with wire and air dry clay, keeps cracking and resisting to combine (?) advice pls!!
i've been trying to make some complicated shapes with air dry clay by using wire. the last time i found the wire tended to move whilst the clay dried so this time i secured it with paper string all over and hot glue in certain areas. the clay won't blend (?) with the wire though! it's almost like a tube, hence why it cracks i assume. i also wet the clay and paper string slightly as i moulded the clay onto it and that helped a wee bit. i'm going to go back in with some slip and hopefully that helps but tips r appreciated!!