u/CommonOption8539

Hi! I’m planning to see Pretty Lights (first time, woo!) this coming weekend for my birthday in Port Chester. I’m curious, does he usually make each day significantly different from one another? Like is Saturday the more energetic day and Sunday is more chill/come down? Or are all three days expected to be the same level of energy?? When he’s played three-day shows in the past do they usually differ significantly?

Anyone live near Riverside Cemetery and hear the dog barking and rooster crowing ALL DAY LONG???? I’m pretty certain it’s the house of the people who live at the actual cemetery, but not 100% sure. I work from home and it is incessant and driving me bonkers.

Hello! Looking for recs for restaurants that serve great pasta but also have vegan friendly options?

This is for a birthday so wanting it to be a little fancy but doesn’t have to be anything crazy
Ty!!

Hi - I bought a Saatva Classic Luxury firm 14.5 mattress about 8 months ago. I have a severe herniated disc and was told I need a firm mattress. I felt it was quite firm initially so after a few weeks I got a 3 inch latex topper thinking that would help but it hasn’t. I wake up every day with massive back pain, muscle tightness, and general fatigue and thought my back just must be getting way worse…but then I spent two weeks in random hotel and Airbnb beds and felt much better (not pain free by any means, but not crippled first thing in the morning which is how I feel with my Saatva)

My bedframe is an antique Polish made wood frame (it’s beautiful) and it has 4 slats and a bunkie board. I’m wondering if there could be something wrong with the frame and it’s not supporting the way it should be?? Or if the mattress is just way too firm for me.

I’m 6’1” and 135 pounds, my husband is 6’5” and 220. He doesn’t mind the bed, but also doesn’t love it.

I’m not sure what to do to improve it…tonight I’m considering sleeping on the couch because it is like sleeping on cement

I bought the mattress from a Facebook marketplace reseller who removed and resells returned trial mattresses so I don’t have a warranty and can’t exchange.

Hello, long time listener first time caller.

I, like most ND’s, have lived a very nonlinear unorthodox life. After high school I didn’t go to university like literally everyone else in my life. I moved out of state and pursued a career in the entertainment industry. After about ten years with some successes and many failures - I found i deeply loved writing and film but kept finding myself pigeon-holed into assistant and other low level positions. But what I really wanted to do is write and direct and have my hands in the creative side.

So, being unsure as to how best to navigate pursuing this and finding my real place in the industry, I decided to go to college and get my degree. Now, in my 30’s I’m a student at one of the most prestigious universities in the world but I’m still struggling so much to find my place.

Again like basically all of us, I’ve had a very tumultuous job history. Sometimes I’m a star employee, and others I struggle immensely to keep up with the social necessities and adhering to a 9-5 schedule even when there is no work to be done (but you still have to drive into the office and sit there, and yes this is at a major entertainment studio)

I have “low level needs” and mask quite intensely, but I also crash really intensely and I’ve never done well in arbitrary hierarchical structures.

Now, at school I recently interviewed for an internship with a production company that is completely in line with my type of work, specifically run by two alums from my school. The first interview went so well, incredibly well even. I then was set up to talk in person with the director about the project.

Here is where things get messy.

1. We met in person at a busy coffee shop. This completely threw me off because my auditory processing is so awful I cannot really have important conversations when other people are talking around me. Plus the added layer of music on in the background is even more difficult.

2. During the interview I mentioned the specific role that the first interviewer told me about for the internship. The director then told me “that’s not how we’re going to break up roles” so that totally threw me off because they seemed to be on very different pages so I had no true grasp on what it is they were wanting from me.

3. The original job posting was also totally different to what each of them mentioned they were specifically looking for. So now I’m a total mess and confused.

4. They asked me what area im interested in being in - so I tell them, but I elaborate and say I’m not picky and am happy to work in any area of the production. Literally. But I say I’m interested in also learning more about a specific area and would like to be in proximity to those conversations if possible but this isn’t a deal breaker if it’s not possible.

5. I accidentally drank a smoothie that had tons of B12 in it, and if any of you also have Slow COMT then you know how terrible b12 can be. So essentially I felt like i drank 3 coffees and was wired and extremely over stimulated.

6. During the interview, I’m an over stimulated mess and had some trouble communicating over the noise - so we step outside to get away from the noise.

Then the conversation gets good and I was super open and honest with them about my interest in the project and my career in general, and they were in return and we chatted for over an hour. I thought it ended up really well. We even hugged at the end.

2 days later, the head of the project emails me and tells me I got the position and they’re so excited for me to be on the team. Hooray (I thought!!)
So I accept the position and wait for the contract. She then emails me and asks to talk on the phone again.

So we get on the phone and she tells me that the director relayed that I was completely disinterested in the role and now they need to find alignment” - so I explained my perspective and that I mostly was so excited to be working on a project that is so aligned with my interest and find mentor-like guidance within the specific field im in. (This is an internship only for the summer)

This completely set her off. She became so irritated and said “the word mentorship gives me an allergic reaction and i have no extra time to be thinking about you and this role so this is not the right fit” and fired me before I could even start.

I feel so bamboozled (and disrespected to an extent) of course I’m looking for mentorship and since when is that a bad thing? This is an internship and she’s an alum from my uni. But I also know that the role is a job and has expectations, I was just also hoping to connect with people who are doing what I want to be doing because I don’t really know how to get there from where I am.

I know it’s only an internship but I wept over it for two days. I feel like they kicked me right in the groin - but I still don’t even know what they actually wanted from me. And this is such a recurring theme for me. I’m supposed to magically know what people want even when they don’t seem to know or can’t articulate it properly, yet I’m expected to be able to??

In my interview experiences I almost always get to the final round. I meet with the CEO or the founder or director or something. And sometimes I get the job, but so so so often there’s some random nitpick thing that they’ll say to explain why they didn’t select me and it’s always personality related or something small that I said. I have noticed that if I interview with men, I usually get the job. If i interview with women, I don’t. I’m a woman.

This all just makes me so sick inside and I never want to deal with people ever again. I worked so hard to get into the school I’m at and thought it would open so many doors, but here again I’m kicked in the nuts and I just hate my brain sometimes. I’m so smart but cannot win at the personality contest.

Hi - I’m junior college student but am a bit older than traditional college age. I have real world experience in the field I’m studying, and am in school now to further develop my skills and really bring my work to the next level. I applied to a summer internship to work on a project that is being filmed in my area (I’m in the media field and am trying to stay vague). When I had the first round interview, they mentioned a few distinct intern positions - which were all totally different from the job description that I applied to. But I didn’t think much of it and just rolled with the conversation.

I then ended up meeting the lead creative of the project that I would be working on and expressed to them that I’m interested in the creative side and would like to learn more about that, but that I’m happy to be involved in any area of the project. Given that I was told there were three distinct positions they were hiring for, I expressed which one I wanted. The lead then responded and told me that “the roles won’t be broken up like that” - so of course I was confused but just rolled with it again and said I’d be happy to take any role/responsibilities etc.

I then chatted with the first person I interviewed with again and she said that she was worried we were misaligned. I mentioned that I was interested in the one specific role because the person I’d be working with is doing the “thing” I want to be doing so I’d like to learn from them and have mentorship, but would again be open to whatever role they need help in. It’s only a summer internship so I didn’t feel really attached to needing it to be exactly aligned, I just wanted the experience in general.

They then offer me the position. I accept. Then a week later they call me and tell me they think it’s not properly aligned and that me wanting mentorship “gave her an allergic reaction” she then went on to express how little time she has and was wasting way too much time stressing about me and this position…all interactions were very very positive before this.

I’m just so confused. I thought internships were literally about mentorship and learning??? Also it’s an alum from my university and was posted on our alumni network website.

It’s 8:47am on a Saturday. For the past 30 minutes my neighbor (down the street) has been non stop leaf blowing. It is the most horrendous vile noise. Yesterday, my literal next door neighbor leaf blew all of their leaves into MY YARD and out into the street. WHATDOIDO?! They are such a sound menace and now I have to be responsible for my neighbors leaves as well 😭😭😭 I just want peace and quiet on a weekend morning

Edit: thank you all for your candor. This has been an exemplary display of logical fallacies and harrowing unfounded ad hominem attacks. Here’s to a gas blower ban and it’s wonderful to hear that no one is ever disturbed by noise, what a superpower!