u/Common_Reaction7151

I am already active on dating apps and this sub-Reddit seemed interesting to me. And i want to test and see if this thing actually works, lol! If not fine by me.

I am 32F, divorced and no kids. I work in marketing and writing is one of the main tasks that I do. I have a pretty healthy lifestyle.

I don’t smoke or drink anymore. I am a certified yoga instructor and i have been getting deeper into spirituality.

Not actively looking to have another marriage but if this jodimilan helps me find someone who have had almost fair share of traumatic relationships and a well emotionally regulated person - i will be amazed!

I’m 32, living in a new city, and I’m still carrying wounds from a childhood where my mom was just… absent. Not physically always, but emotionally as well. I’m the middle child, and her world revolved around my elder sister and younger brother. I grew up feeling invisible in my own home.

My sister was physically and emotionally abusive for years. It was traumatic. I’ve cut her off completely and I don’t regret it.

Now my mom wants to reconnect. But here’s the thing — her habits haven’t changed. The conversations are surface-level. She keeps pushing this “we’re family, let’s be one” narrative, and it makes me feel nothing. No real warmth. No acknowledgment of what happened. Just… let’s move on and pretend. And I can’t do that.

I’ve been trying to cope and make peace with all of this, but lately I feel really lost. Part of what scares me is what happens if I meet someone new and he sees how broken these family dynamics are? How do I explain this? Will it push people away?

I’m not looking for anyone to tell me to forgive and forget. I just want to know how did you heal from a mother wound? How do you grieve the mom you never had? And how do you stop it from bleeding into your present life?

Any real, honest experiences welcome

I’m 32, living in a new city, and I’m still carrying wounds from a childhood where my mom was just… absent. Not physically always, but emotionally as well. I’m the middle child, and her world revolved around my elder sister and younger brother. I grew up feeling invisible in my own home.

My sister was physically and emotionally abusive for years. It was traumatic. I’ve cut her off completely and I don’t regret it.

Now my mom wants to reconnect. But here’s the thing — her habits haven’t changed. The conversations are surface-level. She keeps pushing this “we’re family, let’s be one” narrative, and it makes me feel nothing. No real warmth. No acknowledgment of what happened. Just… let’s move on and pretend. And I can’t do that.

I’ve been trying to cope and make peace with all of this, but lately I feel really lost. Part of what scares me is what happens if I meet someone new and he sees how broken these family dynamics are? How do I explain this? Will it push people away?

I’m not looking for anyone to tell me to forgive and forget. I just want to know how did you heal from a mother wound? How do you grieve the mom you never had? And how do you stop it from bleeding into your present life?

Any real, honest experiences welcome.

I don’t know how many people have this similar experience but lately in my life I have realised my life just gets better and better when I cut toxic people off.

Every time I have gotten out of a bad relationship my life bumps up and gets 10x times better and so beautiful. And just soon after that I realised all that crashing was really not necessary!

My health has got better, I workout every day. I literally keep upscaling myself. I have read a lot of books, I started my own Substack and there’s so much more side quests and hobbies left for me to take up and enjoy!

If you are feeling right now that you are going nowhere or this relationship was the only thing you had. Wait for some time. Invest in yourself and trust me it just keeps getting better.