Still in love with her, but I might be letting it slip away by doing nothing
About a year and a half ago, I met a girl through work abroad. From the moment we got to know each other, I felt a connection that I honestly haven’t found with anyone else since. I’ve dated other girls since, but none of them have made me feel the way she did.
The complicated part is that she had (and still has) a boyfriend. What’s confusing is that she never really mentioned it around me because she knew I liked her and it bothered me. she always seemed to encourage the connection between us. We got very close. We’d hug all the time, hold hands in public, she’d act very affectionate and romantic, and many more. One night after going out together, we were even close to sleeping together, but we were both exhausted and nothing happened.
Because of all of that, I’ve never really felt “rejected” in the traditional sense. It always felt like there was something there that circumstances got in the way of.
Another thing that confused me was how jealous she seemed. I once went for coffee with another female colleague, and she apparently told that colleague she needed to distance herself from her afterward. That struck me as really odd.
Eventually she had to cut me off because she moved back to the city we both are now to her boyfriend, she told me something along the lines of, “Maybe we’ll be in contact again when the time is right, like 2 years maybe?". I have no idea if she meant it or if it was just something people say.
Since then, she’s viewed my LinkedIn profile multiple times, which seems random considering we don’t really talk anymore. On the anniversary of the day we first met, I also got two no-caller-ID phone calls. I have no proof they were from her, but the timing definitely made me wonder.
About a year ago, I texted her, and she never replied.
So now I’m stuck wondering: do I leave it alone and let her reach out if she ever wants to, or should I send one final message? Part of me thinks I’m reading too much into everything, but another part of me feels like there were too many mixed signals for there to have been nothing there.
Has anyone been in a situation like this? I’d appreciate some honest opinions.
P.S. This post is also a tiny bit of a karma bait, so if you enjoyed reading it or have any advice, I’d really appreciate an upvote. 😅