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https://blogs.cuit.columbia.edu/rightsviews/2019/01/27/sterilization-of-people-with-disabilities-acknowledging-the-past-and-present-history-rhetoric-and-effects-of-a-harmful-practice/

https://theconversation.com/forced-sterilization-policies-in-the-us-targeted-minorities-and-those-with-disabilities-and-lasted-into-the-21st-century-143144

https://disabilityphilanthropy.org/resource/eugenics-and-disability/

I thought it would be good to add some articles for reference because I know not everyone is familiar with what went down. I keep seeing people say that there should be rules about who can reproduce, usually targeting the poor and mentally ill. Y’all, we already tried that and it was horrific.

Somehow everyone is surprised when you bring up what happened in America, I wish it was more common knowledge that disabled people genuinely did not have reproductive rights and it’s still an issue. Our bodily autonomy and agency is often forgotten.

No, I am not going to be flattered by someone yelling “nice tits” out of their car at me. That is clearly rude to do. Honking at me is loud and annoying. Asking for my number repeatedly and arguing with me about rejecting them is not a compliment, it’s ruining my mood and taking up my time.

It’s just not a compliment and I’m not the weird one for not taking it that way, they’re the weird one for harassing me in the first place.

A teenager tried to get my (27f) number and when I told him I’m too old for him he said “age is just a number, haven’t you seen young Sheldon?”

Does anyone know wtf happens in young Sheldon that might make this statement make sense? I didn’t want to stop and ask him what he meant because I didn’t want to encourage him but I’m haunted by the statement.

I’m really fascinated by people who think that because they have a personal preference it must mean everyone else secretly has the same preference.

If you don’t know what I’m talking about I’ll give an example. Right now I’m watching a dude on Instagram fighting for his life in the comment section because he is insisting that men do not actually like women with large breasts, and that’s men who claim to like women with large breasts are just porn brained so they’ve turned their back on their natural preferences (???). Anyway, despite the fact that the comment section is full of people who think that’s a dumbass thing to say he’s still absolutely certain that other men are lying about their preferences or are overly influenced by porn and it couldn’t possibly just be something they naturally like.

There’s just something really bizarre about the way some people will convince themselves that the way they feel is the one true way to feel. I’ve had people tell me as a fat woman that nobody is going to find me attractive unless I lose weight, but my girlfriend actually has a preference for big girls. But for some reason that doesn’t count because most people don’t prefer that.

I’ve also had people tell me to my face that my partner doesn’t fit their preferences and then act like that’s supposed to mean something to me. In high school I dated a girl who had very dark skin and for some fuckass reason some boys would make a point to mention that they “would never date someone that dark” so why would I, as if their personal preference should have been taken into account when I was selecting a girlfriend.

Anyway, I just don’t understand why it doesn’t seem to occur to them that attraction is a very individual thing and we all experience it differently. Part of me feels like they can’t actually be so dumb they don’t understand that not everyone experiences the world exactly the same as them but on the other hand it really feels like some of them are.

For those of you who read this far, have you ever had someone try to tell you there was something about you that nobody would want only to find out later that actually lots of people love that thing? I’m a woman who doesn’t shave and I’ve had people tell me nobody is going to like me if I don’t shave, and y’all that is simply incorrect.

Especially literally right after I say that she’s my girlfriend. It’s mainly older people in my family who do this, I’ll say “I hung out with my girlfriend yesterday” and I’ll get hit with “oh, how is your friend?” and I try to be understanding about it because most of my relatives are over 60 but it’s starting to get really irritating.

I’m pretty sure they don’t do this to my heterosexual cousins but tbh I’m not even sure if it’s because I’m gay or if it’s because I’m so much younger than them (27) and they just don’t take me dating that seriously, but that isn’t really much better because that’s still infantilizing given I’m closer to 30 than 20. I kind of hoping that it’s just because the relationship is so new, we’ve only been together 3 months, but I dated a girl in high school and my mom would refer to her as my friend even though it lasted all four years of high school. My little sister is in a relationship with a boy and she never has to fight for him to be called her boyfriend even though she’s in high school and they’ve only been dating a year. He gets taken seriously but I feel like my girlfriend does not.

I’m eventually going to have to say something but I feel kind of bad because of the age thing. My grandma is 91 and I feel like I should just be grateful she accepts that I am in an interracial relationship with a transgender woman at all even if she isn’t using the right terms, which I really really am, but it still gets to me a bit. I feel like I’m never taken as seriously as heterosexuals are.

Not really sure why I’m asking, I guess I’m hoping to see something relatable.

I left my last relationship because I was pretty sure he was cheating on me which turned out to be true, my aunt ended up seeing a post his affair partner made that she tagged him in about their baby announcement. We broke up 2 weeks before and she was 6 weeks pregnant, and also they got married 5 days after we broke up. I ended up contacting his new wife, who was absolutely horrified. She didn’t leave him though because she wants her baby to have a father, but from what she told me he’s already cheated on her 3 times even though they’ve only been together 5 months.

Anyway, that’s my drama, spill yours please.

This is a very general question, I just want to read some interesting answers. The “thing” can be a personality trait, a physical feature, your job, something you’ve been through, a hobby, etc.