u/Conscious-Aside-6783

Throwaway account because my in laws are on here a lot. All names have been changed. I (39f) have been married to by husband (40) for 14 years. When we first married, my FIL was married to Karen who has since died. Before her death, FIL and Karen had been divorced for 5+ years. One point of hurt has been FIL allowing Karen to create a wedge between my husband, FIL and our children (ages 10, 9, 4). Karen and her daughter Jill (35) did awful things such as report husband and I to local DCF, which led to stressful investigations through the years, all of which were eventually dismissed and labeled as “malicious reporting.” We know it was Karen and Jill because husband’s sister Amanda admitted they were bragging about it. Amanda never cut off contact with Karen and Jill through the years because she likes to be friends with everyone and despite this, husband and I allowed Amanda to be part of our kids’ lives. FIL ended up divorcing Karen but we didn’t know he still had contact and a relationship with Jill. Fast forward to yesterday and our 4th of July picnic at FIL’s property. Who shows up but Jill. Husband and I were horrified and floored since FIL knows Jill and Karen actively tried to destroy our family by having our kids removed by DCF. We took our children and immediately left. Were we overreacting for leaving and would we be overreacting if we cut off all contact with them considering they choose to allow Jill to be part of their family?

TLDR: ex stepmother in law and her daughter lied to DCF and tried to have my kids taken away. Her daughter is now showing up at family events with my children. Should I cut off all of my in laws who associate with this female?

Throwaway account because my in laws are on here a lot. All names have been changed. I (39f) have been married to by husband (40) for 14 years. When we first married, my FIL was married to Karen who has since died. Before her death, FIL and Karen had been divorced for 5+ years. One point of hurt has been FIL allowing Karen to create a wedge between my husband, FIL and our children (ages 10, 9, 4). Karen and her daughter Jill (35) did awful things such as report husband and I to local DCF, which led to stressful investigations through the years, all of which were eventually dismissed and labeled as “malicious reporting.” We know it was Karen and Jill because husband’s sister Amanda admitted they were bragging about it. Amanda never cut off contact with Karen and Jill through the years because she likes to be friends with everyone and despite this, husband and I allowed Amanda to be part of our kids’ lives. FIL ended up divorcing Karen but we didn’t know he still had contact and a relationship with Jill. Fast forward to yesterday and our 4th of July picnic at FIL’s property. Who shows up but Jill. Husband and I were horrified and floored since FIL knows Jill and Karen actively tried to destroy our family by having our kids removed by DCF. We took our children and immediately left. Were we overreacting for leaving and would we be overreacting if we cut off all contact with them considering they choose to allow Jill to be part of their family?

TLDR: ex stepmother in law and her daughter lied to DCF and tried to have my kids taken away. Her daughter is now showing up at family events with my children. Should I cut off all of my in laws who associate with this female?

Throwaway account because my in laws are on here a lot. All names have been changed. I (39f) have been married to by husband (40) for 14 years. When we first married, my FIL was married to Karen who has since died. Before her death, FIL and Karen had been divorced for 5+ years. One point of hurt has been FIL allowing Karen to create a wedge between my husband, FIL and our children (ages 10, 9, 4). Karen and her daughter Jill (35) did awful things such as report husband and I to local DCF, which led to stressful investigations through the years, all of which were eventually dismissed and labeled as “malicious reporting.” We know it was Karen and Jill because husband’s sister Amanda admitted they were bragging about it. Amanda never cut off contact with Karen and Jill through the years because she likes to be friends with everyone and despite this, husband and I allowed Amanda to be part of our kids’ lives. FIL ended up divorcing Karen but we didn’t know he still had contact and a relationship with Jill. Fast forward to yesterday and our 4th of July picnic at FIL’s property. Who shows up but Jill. Husband and I were horrified and floored since FIL knows Jill and Karen actively tried to destroy our family by having our kids removed by DCF. We took our children and immediately left. Were we overreacting for leaving and would we be overreacting if we cut off all contact with them considering they choose to allow Jill to be part of their family?

TLDR: ex stepmother in law and her daughter lied to DCF and tried to have my kids taken away. Her daughter is now showing up at family events with my children. Should I cut off all of my in laws who associate with this female?

Throwaway account because my in laws are on here a lot. All names have been changed. I (39f) have been married to by husband (40) for 14 years. When we first married, my FIL was married to Karen who has since died. Before her death, FIL and Karen had been divorced for 5+ years. One point of hurt has been FIL allowing Karen to create a wedge between my husband, FIL and our children (ages 10, 9, 4). Karen and her daughter Jill (35) did awful things such as report husband and I to local DCF, which led to stressful investigations through the years, all of which were eventually dismissed and labeled as “malicious reporting.” We know it was Karen and Jill because husband’s sister Amanda admitted they were bragging about it. Amanda never cut off contact with Karen and Jill through the years because she likes to be friends with everyone and despite this, husband and I allowed Amanda to be part of our kids’ lives. FIL ended up divorcing Karen but we didn’t know he still had contact and a relationship with Jill. Fast forward to yesterday and our 4th of July picnic at FIL’s property. Who shows up but Jill. Husband and I were horrified and floored since FIL knows Jill and Karen actively tried to destroy our family by having our kids removed by DCF. We took our children and immediately left. Were we the a-holes for leaving and would we be the A-holes if we cut off all contact with them considering they choose to allow Jill to be part of their family?