u/Conscious-Positive37

TLDR: some recent drama happened in my current company where 3 girls and ganging up against me with bullying and I reacted firmly to their harassment and attitude so they want to HR all 3 of them
Management moved me to another desk, bigger desk as I was top performer but those ladies still either dropped a comment, spread to the whole company that my previous team hated me, like quite literally everyone think and believe in their narrative, one day someone says, did they kick you out from your previous team? Another day someone else says; watch her how she behaves when my current team is happy with me.

So i was sick of all this nonsense drama of 3 girls trying to ruin my reputation where everyone loved me, i went out to consider offers and i got 3 . So i am like sick of this gossip screw it i am leaving. It impacted my mental health. And i also commuting 4 days a week so i am like screw this commute and mental load

Now i gave my resignation to my manager it dropped like a bomb, all directors, VP and general manager said they want to make me stay and they can arrange 1-2 days commute that i have a future here they value me and i am one of the best and etc. in the last one week, i had 5-6 hours meetings texts and another final meeting with general manager.that they want me to cut the noise and dont get distracted and they will work on fixing this environment and they asked for details to fix bullying

I love the leadership but they didnt do to my complaints anything before they kept saying ignore the noise. I went many times, they just moved me to another team thinking it will change but it didnt

So now with this dynamic they really want me to stay should I leave or stay? I never stayed after giving a resignation - i dont know if it will be better or should i just start fresh?

TLDR: some recent drama happened in my current company where 3 girls and ganging up against me with bullying and I reacted firmly to their harassment and attitude so they want to HR all 3 of them
Management moved me to another desk, bigger desk as I was top performer but those ladies still either dropped a comment, spread to the whole company that my previous team hated me, like quite literally everyone think and believe in their narrative, one day someone says, did they kick you out from your previous team? Another day someone else says; watch her how she behaves when my current team is happy with me.

So i was sick of all this nonsense drama of 3 girls trying to ruin my reputation where everyone loved me, i went out to consider offers and i got 3 . So i am like sick of this gossip screw it i am leaving. It impacted my mental health. And i also commuting 4 days a week so i am like screw this commute and mental load

Now i gave my resignation to my manager it dropped like a bomb, all directors, VP and general manager said they want to make me stay and they can arrange 1-2 days commute that i have a future here they value me and i am one of the best and etc. in the last one week, i had 5-6 hours meetings texts and another final meeting with general manager.that they want me to cut the noise and dont get distracted and they will work on fixing this environment and they asked for details to fix bullying

I love the leadership but they didnt do to my complaints anything before they kept saying ignore the noise. I went many times, they just moved me to another team thinking it will change but it didnt

So now with this dynamic they really want me to stay should I leave or stay? I never stayed after giving a resignation - i dont know if it will be better or should i just start fresh?

TLDR: some recent drama happened in my current company where 3 girls and ganging up against me with bullying and I reacted firmly to their harassment and attitude so they want to HR all 3 of them
Management moved me to another desk, bigger desk as I was top performer but those ladies still either dropped a comment, spread to the whole company that my previous team hated me, like quite literally everyone think and believe in their narrative, one day someone says, did they kick you out from your previous team? Another day someone else says; watch her how she behaves when my current team is happy with me.

So i was sick of all this nonsense drama of 3 girls trying to ruin my reputation where everyone loved me, i went out to consider offers and i got 3 . So i am like sick of this gossip screw it i am leaving. It impacted my mental health. And i also commuting 4 days a week so i am like screw this commute and mental load

Now i gave my resignation to my manager it dropped like a bomb, all directors, VP and general manager said they want to make me stay and they can arrange 1-2 days commute that i have a future here they value me and i am one of the best and etc. in the last one week, i had 5-6 hours meetings texts and another final meeting with general manager.that they want me to cut the noise and dont get distracted and they will work on fixing this environment and they asked for details to fix bullying

I love the leadership but they didnt do to my complaints anything before they kept saying ignore the noise. I went many times, they just moved me to another team thinking it will change but it didnt

So now with this dynamic they really want me to stay should I leave or stay? I never stayed after giving a resignation - i dont know if it will be better or should i just start fresh?

I am starting a new job on June 1st- today is April 28th technically in more than a month

but my New prospective employer have asked me twice if I have given my current employer my notice.

After background check and the employment letter is signed and done.

and apparently the new employer announce weeks in advance about the new employee- isn’t this odd?

The tricky part is this new employer is a competitor in one of the categories to my current employer hence I am hesitant to announce before 2wks notice because they might even walk me out due to competition AND there are other people in this new employer who knows my current co workers

Question1- why the new employer would even want to announce weeks in advance? This is the first time i hear this in 13yrs of my career. I worked with many big companies this was never asked twice month in advance- Is this common??

Question 2- how can i tell this new manager that i will only tell them 2 wks in advance and tbh i dont want this announcement to go weeks earlier.

Hope someone with some HR experience can help on the above with their perspectives