u/Correct-Sky2502

Hey everyone!
I always wanted some insight into this dream Maybe you all can help ?
See when I was about five or six I had this recurring dream where I was sitting outside an ice-skating rink. In the dream, I was just standing there while watching a girl with blonde hair, light skin wearing a pink suit what seem to be a full-blown ballerina outfit ice-skating, and performing some beautiful movements on the ice. I would love watching her…
it would bring me peace. What’s crazy is that I was a little kid living in Guatemala. To my recollection, I had no knowledge of what ice-skating was, what an ice-skating rink would look like specially what the outside of the rink would look like.
It wasn’t until my pre-teen years that I had a full understanding of what I was looking at but by then the dream became less frequent and I was sad. Like I longed for the sight of that Ice skater… well I got to see her one more time… and for the last time. So when I was around 11 in Guatemala there was a huge mosquito outbreak and Dengue fever was spreading everywhere. It eventually got to my village and guess who got that? Yeah you know it, THIS GUY.
At first It was your usual fever, cold sweats, shivering and aching muscles but when it got to its peak is when I got my reunion. Before I lost consciousness I hallucinated dark hands coming out of the corners and edges of the walls and the room gradually became darker and darker and then I saw her.
This time though I was like 15 feet away from the edge of the ice rink… so I try taking a step to approach her. And I hear odd noises that would get louder the harder I tried but Im stubborn so I kept pushing and the noise got louder and louder and then it stopped. Right then a giant tarantula like spider jumped in front of me got close to my face and yelled “¡NO!” “¡NO!” “¡MIA!” “¡ELLA ES MIA!” (no, no, mine! She is mine!)

When I tell you I literally pissed myself. It’s not an exaggeration when I say the size of that thing was gargantuan face the size of the front of a bus, I could see the hairs on its face and it’s giant slimy fangs and the shine of its two middle eyes because that bastard was too close for me to see it’s other eyes… I woke up after that but I was still sick so I woke up to shadows and spiders crawling all over the walls yelling deliriously the shadows and the spiders! They’re here!
I might be being a bit dramatic but I genuinely believe I was as close to death as I ever was… thankfully (spoiler alert) I survived and made a full recovery within days.. things lead me to the USA where Ive lived here for as a citizen for 18 years and a veteran for those wondering 🙄

Well anyway that’s my recurrent dream. I still miss watching her from the sidelines I wish I could remember her face
What do you all think it means?

Hey everyone!
I always wanted some insight into this dream Maybe you all can help ?
See when I was about five or six I had this recurring dream where I was sitting outside an ice-skating rink. In the dream, I was just standing there while watching a girl with blonde hair, light skin wearing a pink suit what seem to be a full-blown ballerina outfit ice-skating, and performing some beautiful movements on the ice. I would love watching her…
it would bring me peace. What’s crazy is that I was a little kid living in Guatemala. To my recollection, I had no knowledge of what ice-skating was, what an ice-skating rink would look like specially what the outside of the rink would look like.
It wasn’t until my pre-teen years that I had a full understanding of what I was looking at but by then the dream became less frequent and I was sad. Like I longed for the sight of that Ice skater… well I got to see her one more time… and for the last time. So when I was around 11 in Guatemala there was a huge mosquito outbreak and Dengue fever was spreading everywhere. It eventually got to my village and guess who got that? Yeah you know it, THIS GUY.
At first It was your usual fever, cold sweats, shivering and aching muscles but when it got to its peak is when I got my reunion. Before I lost consciousness I hallucinated dark hands coming out of the corners and edges of the walls and the room gradually became darker and darker and then I saw her.
This time though I was like 15 feet away from the edge of the ice rink… so I try taking a step to approach her. And I hear odd noises that would get louder the harder I tried but Im stubborn so I kept pushing and the noise got louder and louder and then it stopped. Right then a giant tarantula like spider jumped in front of me got close to my face and yelled “¡NO!” “¡NO!” “¡MIA!” “¡ELLA ES MIA!” (no, no, mine! She is mine!)

When I tell you I literally pissed myself. It’s not an exaggeration when I say the size of that thing was gargantuan face the size of the front of a bus, I could see the hairs on its face and it’s giant slimy fangs and the shine of its two middle eyes because that bastard was too close for me to see it’s other eyes… I woke up after that but I was still sick so I woke up to shadows and spiders crawling all over the walls yelling deliriously the shadows and the spiders! They’re here!
I might be being a bit dramatic but I genuinely believe I was as close to death as I ever was… thankfully (spoiler alert) I survived and made a full recovery within days.. things lead me to the USA where Ive lived here for as a citizen for 18 years and a veteran for those wondering 🙄

Well anyway that’s my recurrent dream. I still miss watching her from the sidelines I wish I could remember her face
What do you all think it means?

Hey everyone!
I always wanted some insight into this dream Maybe you all can help ?
See when I was about five or six I had this recurring dream where I was sitting outside an ice-skating rink. In the dream, I was just standing there while watching a girl with blonde hair, light skin wearing a pink suit what seem to be a full-blown ballerina outfit ice-skating, and performing some beautiful movements on the ice. I would love watching her…
it would bring me peace. What’s crazy is that I was a little kid living in Guatemala. To my recollection, I had no knowledge of what ice-skating was, what an ice-skating rink would look like specially what the outside of the rink would look like.
It wasn’t until my pre-teen years that I had a full understanding of what I was looking at but by then the dream became less frequent and I was sad. Like I longed for the sight of that Ice skater… well I got to see her one more time… and for the last time. So when I was around 11 in Guatemala there was a huge mosquito outbreak and Dengue fever was spreading everywhere. It eventually got to my village and guess who got that? Yeah you know it, THIS GUY.
At first It was your usual fever, cold sweats, shivering and aching muscles but when it got to its peak is when I got my reunion. Before I lost consciousness I hallucinated dark hands coming out of the corners and edges of the walls and the room gradually became darker and darker and then I saw her.
This time though I was like 15 feet away from the edge of the ice rink… so I try taking a step to approach her. And I hear odd noises that would get louder the harder I tried but Im stubborn so I kept pushing and the noise got louder and louder and then it stopped. Right then a giant tarantula like spider jumped in front of me got close to my face and yelled “¡NO!” “¡NO!” “¡MIA!” “¡ELLA ES MIA!” (no, no, mine! She is mine!)

When I tell you I literally pissed myself. It’s not an exaggeration when I say the size of that thing was gargantuan face the size of the front of a bus, I could see the hairs on its face and it’s giant slimy fangs and the shine of its two middle eyes because that bastard was too close for me to see it’s other eyes… I woke up after that but I was still sick so I woke up to shadows and spiders crawling all over the walls yelling deliriously the shadows and the spiders! They’re here!
I might be being a bit dramatic but I genuinely believe I was as close to death as I ever was… thankfully (spoiler alert) I survived and made a full recovery within days.. things lead me to the USA where Ive lived here for as a citizen for 18 years and a veteran for those wondering 🙄

Well anyway that’s my recurrent dream. I still miss watching her from the sidelines I wish I could remember her face
What do you all think it means?

Hey everyone
Im 32M I lost my cat Magic to total organ failure about two years ago on his birthday April 15 2024. I know it’s been a few years but I miss him dearly and every so often Im inundated with the memories of that day.
Replaying my guilt and wondering if there was anything I could have done, How he died in my arms and the way it felt when his body was no longer alive. Like his fur and weight all felt the same but the room go so much bigger and I felt so much smaller… but the one thing that has tortured me for so long is where did he go?
Now I don’t ask out of some selfish desire to have him around, in fact I deeply hope that he is in heaven with god and the angels being happy and healthy. But I dread the thought that there’s even tiniest possibility he’s stayed there… Im tortured by the notion my little buddy is alone in that cold sad room without me or someone to keep him company and comfort him if he’s scared… I can’t fathom the thought I brought him in to be saved and he didn’t go home with me. Ever since that day whenever I think of him my pinky and my ring finger on my left hand hurt. Like they’re being crushed or bitten and I don’t know if that’s a spiritual sign or a physiological sign manifesting in a physical way. Either way I hope hearing your thoughts and stories can help me get better understanding. Is there anything I can do to help with my grief? Is there a chance my buddy is stuck in some unhappy place?

Hi everyone I (32M) and my Girlfriend (31F) have been together for 5 years now. As a bit of context my girlfriend was previously in a few abusive relationships before me. Be it physical or emotional she has dealt with it all… so she had a lot on her shoulders when we started dating. She’s grown a lot and has made a great deal of improvements in life including being sober for close to a year now. (This will make sense I promise) Through the years we’ve both dealt with our parents giving us the occasional rude comments and unwarranted criticism.
I can handle it better but my girlfriend internalizes it and it builds up. Usually because of the alcohol she could numb it out but since it was affecting our relationship we spoke about it and she realized it was getting out of hand and quit on the spot. We saw improvements and she felt better and even lost weight which made her really happy! however without her emotional buffer she’s been having to readjust to dealing with repressed anger and my mom has made some comments that hurt my girlfriend and although it wasn’t intended they cut deep.

My girlfriend acknowledges there’s no way to for my mom to know what her insecurities are but she can’t help but to be hurt and between her and my mom the cultural differences and generational differences are big. My mom is a 56 years old Latina with a big heart and no filter so she makes comments like “you have too many Pets get rid off them” “nothing is going to grow in that garden” “you won’t be able to raise a child if you have pets” and little micro aggressions like that. And those things I understand might seem minor but with someone with confidence and self esteem problems that stuff builds up and because my girlfriend is trying to not explode she builds it up and guess what… she blew up. She came home angry from work crying over the fact my mom’s comment basically implied she couldn’t be a good parent because of all the animals we have at home. We do have a lot but we love animals so we rescued 2 dogs 4 cats and two guinea pigs lol but my house is big enough for all of them and we agreed that’s enough (my mom is responsible for 2 of the 4 cats we have btw)…

Anyway my girlfriend could barely speak. Her, my mom and my sister in law(26F) were planning on going on a lady’s trip for a few days and the anxiety of her being on a trip with my mom was getting to her. She was worried she would blow up in front of her and ruin things for them so before they took money and time off she thought she should cancel. She was not in a good mindset to have that conversation and she had been feeling I wasn’t doing enough to talk to my mom about past issues so I told her I was going to speak to my mom about the situation. Now before I get into the talk we had I have been speaking to my mom about everything that comes across as the problems arise but aside from yelling at her and putting hands on her which I would never do. I have done everything I can. She listens and to my knowledge she does what I ask.
Anyway I met up with my mother yesterday and brought up some of the thoughts my girlfriend was having and she had a lot to say. She defended her self, denied some things and a knowledges others one thing she did say repeatedly that upset me was that my girlfriend had mental problems and she needs to grow up,( I know she doesn’t know everything but that felt like a cheap shot regardless) but she did admit to certain comments and situations that were brought up and I agree with her on the fact that my girlfriend is holding on to things that happened years ago but I explained to my mom that everyone is different and just because her and I are capable of letting go it isn’t true for everyone. That just because something doesn’t hurt us doesn’t mean it doesn’t hurt other people. She told me that if she offended my girlfriend she apologizes and if she wants to cancel the trip that’s ok but she hopes she can go. We went on a walk gave each other hugs and kisses and I drove home.

I spoke to my girlfriend and explained everything we argued about some things but it was a semi productive conversation. She asked if she can cancel the trip because she still wasn’t comfortable going I suggested speaking to my sister in law at least which she did. They talked and vented about how all our mothers are intense and she was understanding of the situation and canceled the trip. All good right? Nope. My mom just called me as I was typing this out saying the was livid with me for just taking my girlfriends side and talking to her about it. Basically told me my girlfriend just ruined her their relationship at least for the moment and she’s done humiliating her self to keep the peace. She said she hasn’t come to the house because she walks on eggshells and it’s true I realize I always go to her and I feel horrible about that which I will try to remedy. She said she’s no longer willing to talk to her 1 on 1 because she will lose her patience.
Now in the spirit of fairness my girlfriend has been rude to my mom a few times and my mom did let it go so it’s not like my girlfriend is a saint and hell I can be a lot too and I’m working on myself the best I can so I acknowledge this is all a bit toxic..

I know if both parties had a full understanding of each other’s situations they would be more understanding but I can’t out my girlfriends trauma and sobriety to anyone that’s her truth to share and I can’t say anything without possibly hindering the progress she’s made..
so everyone… I don’t think trying to get them to sit down and talk would help but maybe Ill wait until they cool off and then think about my next move any suggestions or follow up questions are welcomed and appreciated thank you for your time and understanding reading this mess