22M Salafi Moroccan living in Paris
DESCRIPTION
السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته
My name is Abu Umar i am 22 years old (born in 2003). I am a Moroccan brother living in Paris.
First of all, I want to say that I am undertaking this step to find the one who will become my wife, the rare pearl who will bring me gentleness and serenity, who will stand by my side through hardship and joy, in this life and the next, and I hope to find her, إن شاء الله.
For me, marriage is an immense commitment before Allah ﷻ, a mercy and a mutual support toward good. My wish is to build a stable and peaceful home, founded on fear of Allah, attachment to the Qur'an and the Sunnah, loyalty, tenderness, and modesty.
ABOUT ME
I am naturally smiling and cheerful, الحمد لله. I always try to see the good in every situation and to maintain a good opinion of Allah ﷻ.
Those close to me describe me as someone rather wise, capable of being light-hearted and joking, but also serious and pragmatic when the situation requires it. I am gentle, caring, and protective toward those dear to me, and I place great importance on loyalty, respect, and stability in relationships.
I am passionate in everything I undertake. I invest myself wholeheartedly in the projects that matter to me, and I intend to put this passion and determination at the service of my marriage. I wish to be a devoted and attentive husband, and I will do everything I can to make my wife happy, at peace, and respected. I don't claim to be perfect, no one is, but I am someone who loves to progress, correct myself, and move forward. I wish to be a husband who takes on his responsibilities, protects his household, listens to his wife, and does his best to be a source of serenity in her life.
BACKGROUND & ORIGINS
I was born and lived in France until the age of 6, then I grew up in Casablanca from age 6 to 17, which deeply shaped my outlook, my family attachment, and my points of reference. I then returned to France for my studies, where I currently live in Paris, with 2 years remaining before I complete them.
الحمد لله, I have followed the Salafi methodology since I was 14, and I wish to build my marriage and my household upon the Qur'an and the Sunnah, according to the understanding of the pious predecessors.
In terms of languages, I speak fluent French (without an accent), as well as Darija. I also have an advanced level of English, around C1, as well as a good level of classical Arabic, particularly in religious texts, and a B2 level in Spanish.
Physically, I have brown hair, a brown complexion, and dark black eyes. I am 1m75 tall, with an athletic and slim build, and I wear a beard slightly longer than a fist's width.
I am chaste and never got married and i search for a chaste women that never got married too
BACKGROUND & PROJECT
I am currently in my first year of a Master's (M1) in AI & Big Data through a work-study program at an engineering school, and الحمد لله I hold several certifications in Data Science. I chose this field because it is one of the most promising in the Middle East, particularly in Saudi Arabia, and it will allow me to offer my wife a stable and dignified life, while keeping the flexibility needed to devote myself to the study of religion.
But I want to be honest from the start: this career is a means, not an end. My ultimate goal is neither luxury nor status. If I seek a good professional situation, it is to live with dignity, to provide properly for my household, and to study my religion in peace.
My true goal remains the acquisition of religious knowledge, in order to draw closer to Allah ﷻ and, if He allows it, to serve His religion.
The Prophet ﷺ said:
« مَنْ سَلَكَ طَرِيقًا يَلْتَمِسُ فِيهِ عِلْمًا، سَهَّلَ اللَّهُ لَهُ بِهِ طَرِيقًا إِلَى الْجَنَّةِ »
"Whoever takes a path seeking knowledge therein, Allah makes easy for him a path to Paradise." (Sahih Muslim, n°2699)
This is the path I have chosen, and it is around it that my entire life revolves.
My medium-term plan is to go to Saudi Arabia after my Master's, in two years إن شاء الله, to study Fiqh at a recognized Islamic university, ideally up to the Doctorate level, and then return to settle permanently in Morocco to do da'wah. All my family is in Morocco, and having grown up in Casablanca, this return will be natural. I therefore wish for a wife who accepts to accompany me in this journey, not as a spectator, but as a partner, the one with whom I wish to build, be patient, and move forward toward Allah.
My ultimate goal in returning to Morocco is to dedicate myself to da'wah, calling people to Allah ﷻ upon the Qur'an and the Sunnah according to the understanding of the Salaf as-Salih, and to serve the religion to the best of my ability.
In the event that I am not accepted into the university, I plan to work in the Gulf in my field, AI & Data, study with the scholars, and then perhaps return to Morocco or settle elsewhere depending on where Allah facilitates and where I can best serve the religion.
MY VISION OF MARRIAGE AND MY ROLE AS A HUSBAND
Allah ﷻ said:
« وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا لِّتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُم مَّوَدَّةً وَرَحْمَةً »
"And among His signs is that He created for you from yourselves spouses that you may find tranquility in them, and He placed between you affection and mercy." (Surah Ar-Rum, verse 21)
It is this sakina, this mawadda, and this rahma that I wish to build. I consider that the husband must be a protector and a responsible figure, but also a source of gentleness, security, and serenity for his wife. Manhood, for me, is not reduced to authority; it manifests in patience, gentleness, generosity, protection, and tenderness.
The Prophet ﷺ said:
« خَيْرُكُمْ خَيْرُكُمْ لِأَهْلِهِ، وَأَنَا خَيْرُكُمْ لِأَهْلِي »
"The best of you is the one who is best to his family, and I am the best of you to my family." (Sunan at-Tirmidhi, n°3895)
I know the rights of the wife. I know they are immense: good character, provision, presence, listening, tenderness, protection, and fairness. I do not see my wife as someone who simply accompanies my project: she has her rights, her feelings, her needs, and her own path. I wish to build a relationship in which each helps the other to draw closer to Allah.
MY DAILY LIFE
Having lived alone in France for five years, I have learned to manage a household: cooking, maintaining a home, and handling daily tasks. We will be able to move in together quickly after the marriage إن شاء الله.
I am passionate about seeking knowledge, reading, poetry, and sports. In daily life, I am a simple person, content with little and avoiding unnecessary conflicts.
الحمد لله, I live about a 15-minute walk from a mosque and I try to go there for the five daily prayers as much as possible. The mosque holds an important place in my life; I try to stay attached to congregational prayers, beneficial gatherings, and pious brothers, because one's environment has a great influence on the heart and religious stability. It is also at the mosque that I met many brothers whom I now consider members of my family.
WHY I WISH TO GET MARRIED
I wish to marry young, first to protect myself from fitna, and especially because I want to build a life early with a wife with whom I can grow, evolve, learn, and build something solid. My dream is to found a large family in the fear of Allah ﷻ, a family where the Qur'an, the Sunnah, modesty, gentleness, and knowledge occupy a central place.
Allah ﷻ said:
« وَالَّذِينَ يَقُولُونَ رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوَاجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّاتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ وَاجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِينَ إِمَامًا »
"And those who say: 'Our Lord! Grant us from our spouses and our descendants the joy of our eyes, and make us a leader for the righteous.'" (Surah Al-Furqan, verse 74)
This is the supplication I make and the home I seek to build.
WHAT I AM LOOKING FOR IN A WIFE
The Prophet ﷺ said:
« تُنْكَحُ الْمَرْأَةُ لِأَرْبَعٍ: لِمَالِهَا، وَلِحَسَبِهَا، وَلِجَمَالِهَا، وَلِدِينِهَا، فَاظْفَرْ بِذَاتِ الدِّينِ تَرِبَتْ يَدَاكَ »
"A woman is married for four things: her wealth, her lineage, her beauty, and her religion. So choose the one with religion, may your hands be free of dust." (Sahih al-Bukhari, n°5090 / Sahih Muslim, n°1466)
This hadith shows that religion is the central criterion, the one that must take priority over everything else. So it is above all a pious, chaste, modest woman attached to the Qur'an and the Sunnah that I am seeking.
However, I also believe that physical attraction is an important element for a marriage to work. I am looking for a woman whose beauty pleases me, just as I hope to please her. The Prophet ﷺ encouraged looking at a potential spouse before marriage, and I find this to be a wise and necessary Sunnah. I believe that a successful marriage is built on both religious compatibility and mutual attraction, so that the couple can find tranquility and happiness together.
The Prophet ﷺ also said:
« خَيْرُ النِّسَاءِ الَّتِي تَسُرُّهُ إِذَا نَظَرَ، وَتُطِيعُهُ إِذَا أَمَرَ، وَلَا تُخَالِفُهُ فِي نَفْسِهَا وَمَالِهِ بِمَا يَكْرَهُ »
"The best of women is the one who pleases him when he looks at her, who obeys him when he commands her, and who does not oppose him regarding herself or his wealth in matters he dislikes." (Musnad Ahmad, n°7421)
And as Ibn al-Qayyim رحمه الله said in Rawdat al-Muhibbin:
« اِعْلَمْ أَنَّ الْجَمَالَ يَنْقَسِمُ قِسْمَيْنِ: ظَاهِرٌ، وَبَاطِنٌ، فَالْجَمَالُ الْبَاطِنُ هُوَ الْمَحْبُوبُ لِذَاتِهِ، وَهُوَ جَمَالُ الْعِلْمِ وَالْعَقْلِ وَالْجُودِ وَالْعِفَّةِ وَالشَّجَاعَةِ، وَهَذَا الْجَمَالُ الْبَاطِنُ هُوَ مَحَلُّ نَظَرِ اللَّهِ مِنْ عَبْدِهِ، وَمَوْضِعُ مَحَبَّتِهِ »
"Know that beauty is of two kinds: outward and inward. Inward beauty is that which is loved for itself: it is the beauty of knowledge, reason, generosity, chastity, and courage. And this inward beauty is what Allah looks at in His servant, and the object of His love." (Rawdat al-Muhibbin, chapter 19)
This is precisely the balance I am seeking: a beauty that delights the eye, a piety that nourishes the soul, and a gentleness that soothes the heart.
PROFILE SOUGHT
I am looking for a woman who is a born Muslim, between 18 and 24 years old. I prefer an Arab woman, whether from the Maghreb, Sham, or Khaleej, but I am not closed to an Eastern European sister (such as Bosnia, Russia, Albania, or others). What matters most to me is her piety, chastity, modesty, gentleness, and obedience within what is proper. A woman whose heart is anchored in the Qur'an and the Sunnah according to the understanding of the Salaf as-Salih, who maintains good relations with her family and preserves her honor and that of her husband. I especially wish for a wife who loves to learn.
Her current country of residence does not matter to me, whether in Europe, the UK, the Emirates, Saudi Arabia, Morocco, Algeria, or elsewhere, as long as she is willing to follow me wherever I go. A sister from the Sham or the Khaleej would be simpler, but it is already hard enough to find a pious wife, so I really don't pay attention to the location.
I currently live in Paris, where I am finishing my studies. I would travel to marry her wherever she resides, after which she would come to live with me in France if she wishes until I complete my studies. What matters most is that she agrees to accompany me afterward in my plan to go to Saudi Arabia, then in my return to Morocco where I intend to settle permanently and dedicate myself to da'wah, or to settle elsewhere depending on where Allah facilitates, إن شاء الله.
The path of knowledge requires effort and patience. But as Allah ﷻ said:
« وَابْتَغِ فِيمَا آتَاكَ اللَّهُ الدَّارَ الْآخِرَةَ وَلَا تَنسَ نَصِيبَكَ مِنَ الدُّنْيَا »
"And seek, through what Allah has given you, the Hereafter. And do not forget your share in this world." (Surah Al-Qasas, verse 77)
This is the balance I seek to live and share with my wife.
DEALBREAKERS
• Not Chaste
• Does not wish to wear the niqab / sitar.
• Has already had a romantic, ambiguous, or physical relationship outside of marriage.
• Does not love learning.
• Is deeply pessimistic.
• Is overweight.
• Does not take care of herself.
I am looking for a woman who already wears the niqab or sitar, or who sincerely aspires to wear it. I understand that a person may be on a journey, but it must be a real, serious, and personal aspiration, not a mere concession.
I want a wife who accepts my life plan: Saudi Arabia for study or work, then a permanent return to Morocco where I intend to dedicate myself to da'wah, or to settle elsewhere depending on where Allah facilitates, إن شاء الله. This point matters because I am not only looking for immediate compatibility, but a shared vision of the household, of hijrah, of religious knowledge, and of the family's future.
CONCLUSION
I am undertaking this step with sincerity, seriousness, and modesty. I am not simply looking to get married, I am looking for a wife with whom to build a household in obedience to Allah, a woman who will be for me a source of serenity and support, and for whom I wish to be a cause of protection, love, and stability.
I wish for a relationship in which each helps the other to become better, founded on religion, trust, tenderness, loyalty, and mercy.
I do not promise a perfect life; perfection belongs only to Allah. But I promise, إن شاء الله, to take this marriage seriously, to never neglect my wife's rights, and to constantly seek to better myself for her and for our household.
May Allah ﷻ grant us households filled with sakinah, rahmah, and barakah. May He grant us a pious spouse and offspring who are a joy to our eyes, and may He make us sincere and grateful servants.
آمين يا رب العالمين