u/Crazy-Armadillo4338

Bizarrement, je ressens un confort profond à l’idée de mourir ces derniers temps, c’est une pensée qui calme énormément mon système nerveux.
Pour moi la mort c’est l’absence de douleurs, et je sais que c’est assez noir comme idée mais plus je grandis plus je me rappelle de moi quand j’avais 17 ans et qui avait perdu espoir, qui survivait chaque jours les moqueries, qui se faisait invisible pour qu’on ne l’attaque pas, qui se faisait humilier constamment. Cette fille est encore en moi et je n’en peux juste plus.
Maintenant je suis plus belle, plus socialement acceptable, mais au fond, dès que quelqu’un se rapproche un peu trop, ça disjoncte, les blessures se réactivent, et puis la honte vient. J’aurais souhaité qu’un jour quelqu’un me prouve le contraire, ou même qu’un jour j’arrête de disjoncter et d’avoir aussi peurs des amitiés et des relations.
Je m’isole émotionnellement beaucoup depuis deux mois, je n’ai pas d’amies avec qui être authentique, car ma peur vient me manger, j’aurais aimé avoir une enfance différente, des parents différents. Je sais que l’on souffre tous de quelque chose, mais peut être que je ne suis pas assez forte pour le supporter, peut être que la paix en vrai c’est la fin, j’ai eu que des rejets et non, les oui ne sont plus familiers pour moi

I first want to introduce this thread with my personal experience. As a student in a country that doesn’t have a large foreign demographic, I struggled a lot to find “my people.” When I go out, everyone is glued to their phones. I sit there observing. There’s barely any eye contact anymore; spontaneity is disappearing. People feel more comfortable communicating behind a screen than in real life. I know this because my breakup and most of the arguments with my ex only happened through messages, while whenever we saw each other in person, everything felt fine. Human presence is something magical and precious, and I feel like our generation is slowly losing this gift of truly enjoying life with the people we love (thank you, capitalism).

In relationships, we want everything to happen fast because we’ve developed a strong need for quick dopamine, immediate results, and the idea of a “perfect” life in theory. There are no longer multiple definitions of success, only one: image, performance, and self-branding. Our emotions have become something shameful, and people who express them openly are often villainized. Men have traditionally been more allowed to express anger than sadness, while women have been more allowed to express sadness than anger.

This frustration has created the isolation of an entire generation because people feel “too sensitive,” “too much,” “too emotional,” or “too different.” Our hyper-individualism comes from our inability to feel safe with our own emotions as well as with other people’s emotions. What’s crazy is that we now feel more comfortable creating platforms to make ourselves visible online and cry publicly than we do opening up to the people physically closest to us.
So my message to young people is this: if you have a friend who is isolating themselves, a sad parent, or a child going through a difficult time, support them. Show them they are not alone. Be willing to step into discomfort in order to build real community.

I first want to introduce this thread with my personal experience. As a student in a country that doesn’t have a large foreign demographic, I struggled a lot to find “my people.” When I go out, everyone is glued to their phones. I sit there observing. There’s barely any eye contact anymore; spontaneity is disappearing. People feel more comfortable communicating behind a screen than in real life. I know this because my breakup and most of the arguments with my ex only happened through messages, while whenever we saw each other in person, everything felt fine. Human presence is something magical and precious, and I feel like our generation is slowly losing this gift of truly enjoying life with the people we love (thank you, capitalism).

In relationships, we want everything to happen fast because we’ve developed a strong need for quick dopamine, immediate results, and the idea of a “perfect” life in theory. There are no longer multiple definitions of success, only one: image, performance, and self-branding. Our emotions have become something shameful, and people who express them openly are often villainized. Men have traditionally been more allowed to express anger than sadness, while women have been more allowed to express sadness than anger.

This frustration has created the isolation of an entire generation because people feel “too sensitive,” “too much,” “too emotional,” or “too different.” Our hyper-individualism comes from our inability to feel safe with our own emotions as well as with other people’s emotions. What’s crazy is that we now feel more comfortable creating platforms to make ourselves visible online and cry publicly than we do opening up to the people physically closest to us.
So my message to young people is this: if you have a friend who is isolating themselves, a sad parent, or a child going through a difficult time, support them. Show them they are not alone. Be willing to step into discomfort in order to build real community.

I first want to introduce this thread with my personal experience. As a student in a country that doesn’t have a large foreign demographic, I struggled a lot to find “my people.” When I go out, everyone is glued to their phones. I sit there observing. There’s barely any eye contact anymore; spontaneity is disappearing. People feel more comfortable communicating behind a screen than in real life. I know this because my breakup and most of the arguments with my ex only happened through messages, while whenever we saw each other in person, everything felt fine. Human presence is something magical and precious, and I feel like our generation is slowly losing this gift of truly enjoying life with the people we love (thank you, capitalism).

In relationships, we want everything to happen fast because we’ve developed a strong need for quick dopamine, immediate results, and the idea of a “perfect” life in theory. There are no longer multiple definitions of success, only one: image, performance, and self-branding. Our emotions have become something shameful, and people who express them openly are often villainized. Men have traditionally been more allowed to express anger than sadness, while women have been more allowed to express sadness than anger.

This frustration has created the isolation of an entire generation because people feel “too sensitive,” “too much,” “too emotional,” or “too different.” Our hyper-individualism comes from our inability to feel safe with our own emotions as well as with other people’s emotions. What’s crazy is that we now feel more comfortable creating platforms to make ourselves visible online and cry publicly than we do opening up to the people physically closest to us.
So my message to young people is this: if you have a friend who is isolating themselves, a sad parent, or a child going through a difficult time, support them. Show them they are not alone. Be willing to step into discomfort in order to build real community.

When you love someone more than you love yourself, or can’t abandon a relationship because you want to fight for the connection that it could create, is it worth it when you give it your absolute best and be honest ?
Is it possible to find true love in a generation that make every human disposable and replaceable ?