u/CriesOfTheMoon

Hi.

I've been through some turbulent times recently and was very strongly reminded of my own mortality. I live in Germany and I'm probably going to stay permanently or at least for several decades. Non-EU in case it's relevant. I want to make sure that in the event that I pass away, my remains are disposed of in Germany, in a completely secular manner, and without my family or home country being involved. The reason being that if they got their hands on my remains they would desecrate my memory and bury me in the rites of a religion I left and spent my life denouncing and opposing.

I literally never gave this sort of gloomy stuff any thought before so I have NO idea who the competent person/authority to talk to is, and how any of this works legally. I'm completely clueless so i just want to very candidly ask: who do I talk to about this?

so ive been using topical 5% specifically on my temples as that's where i lost hair and ive ended up growing MORE hair everywhere else than the place i actually used it on. my entire forehead is covered in little hairs and my eyebrows are connecting and growing downwards making a weird semi circle underneath my eyes. i didn't expect it to go this far and since i have jet black hair it's becoming noticeable and frankly unsightly.

so my question is, if i were to quit using topical min until i shed the unwanted hairs and then get on oral instead, do you reckon they would all come back?

my thinking is that a spot like the *very middle of my goddamn forehead* isn't somewhere that hair naturally grows, so it only sprouted there because liquid minoxidil touched it. and maybe oral min would only target the *usual* places my body grows hair and not try to colonize new territories. but im not sure.

thoughts?

hi

i'm wondering if any transfem has experiences trying to get dutasteride/finasteride here?

i managed to get my old hausarzt to prescribe it to me ONCE only because he was also using it but i can't see him anymore and my new doctor isn't convinced when i ask.

i know you can get it online but it's apparently a war crime to prescribe these meds to women so like sonshaar demand to know "the name of the male patient" or they refuse to send you the medication, and dokteronline prescribes dut only after a "consultation for the prostate". i'm afraid it causes issues if you have a female name/legal gender change

hi everyone. im usually not comfortable revealing personal info on the internet but im going to be completely candid.

27 years old trans woman. i suffered a lot of abuse in the asylum system and even though it was almost a year ago now, i'm still dealing with the consequences and i haven't been able to move on at all. and as im sure everyone knows these days it's practically impossible to see a therapist or a psychiatrist.

i dropped out of my integrationskurs, started isolating more and more, and now that the weather is nice and everyone is going outside with their loved ones im noticing myself becoming agoraphobic and paranoid in public. i shy away from making friends because nobody needs the extra negativity in their life from talking to an abused person in crisis.

i'm really not heading in a healthy direction and i want to start working on getting better. i feel like i need some sort of genuine social contact to keep my mental health. so, im asking for recommendations for safe social spaces in Darmstadt and the surroundings, preferably trans* only, ND/AuDHD friendly. i know about vielbunt, the oetinger villa and the meeting there, i went once but i felt very out of place, and like i was coming from a very different place in life and wouldn't be understood. maybe it was just my bad headspace making me feel that way, but still, i'm open to any and all other suggestions as well.

thank you