u/Curious-Policy9139

Hi all,

I am looking for some advice from those who have been in my shoes. It has been 6 months since finding out my husband cheated, said it was only one time/oral, and brought home an std (chlamydia).

Since then, we have started therapy within the last month although we haven’t really gotten anywhere yet.

I feel like lately the cheating has been haunting me literally all day everyday, it’s all I think about. I’m easily triggered by anything & I start thinking about it some more. It makes me so angry. I have so many unanswered questions, which makes it hard to move forward but I know he will never tell me the full truth.

He isn’t supportive when I bring my feelings to him. He really doesn’t want to hear about it at all, nothing about the cheating. So he shuts down anytime I share my hurt with him, which isn’t often btw. He thinks that if we are moving forward, I’m still stuck in the past. But tbh, I am still sooooo hurt & filled with so many different emotions.

I just don’t know how to build trust, with no real emotional support from him & inconsistent actions (such as communicating when he’s leaving out).

Idk I just feel like I am going crazy!

Hi everyone!

So I have been taking 450mg of Wellbutrin XL for a few months now, not sure if I actually even notice a difference really & definitely dont have the ‘stimulant’ effect’ it’s supposed to give

Also on 45mg of Buspar

Recently started Lamictal 4 weeks ago, 25 for the first two weeks and 50 for the past two weeks.

So a combination of Wellbutrin, Buspar, and Lamictal

Not sure if I see a change in my depression with the Lamictal yet and I expressed that to the provider. I also told her I am really sleepy all day..

She wants to add Vilazodone (Viibryd) 10mg to help boost the effects of the Wellbutrin but I’m nervous. I feel like this is a lot of meds to be on at once (also have hydroxyzine prn)

Has anyone had any experience on Wellbutrin, Lamictal, and Buspar - along with Viibryd too?

Apart of me wants to just wait since I’m only in 50of Lamictal for two weeks. But to just wait and see if maybe when we increase the Lamictal how it may help my mood before starting a 4th med

Hi everyone!

So I have been taking 450mg of Wellbutrin XL for a few months now, not sure if I actually even notice a difference really & definitely dont have the ‘stimulant’ effect’ it’s supposed to give

Also on 45mg of Buspar

Recently started Lamictal 4 weeks ago for depression, 25 for the first two weeks and 50 for the past two weeks.

So a combination of Wellbutrin, Buspar, and Lamictal

Not sure if I see a change in my depression with the Lamictal yet and I expressed that to the provider. I also told her I am really sleepy all day..

She wants to add Vilazodone (Viibryd) 10mg to help boost the effects of the Wellbutrin but I’m nervous. I feel like this is a lot of meds to be on at once (also have hydroxyzine prn)

Has anyone had any experience on Wellbutrin, Lamictal, and Buspar - along with Viibryd too?

Apart of me wants to just wait since I’m only in 50of Lamictal for two weeks. But to just wait and see if maybe when we increase the Lamictal how it may help my mood before starting a 4th med

Hi everyone!

So I have been taking 450mg of Wellbutrin XL for a few months now, not sure if I actually even notice a difference really & definitely dont have the ‘stimulant’ effect’ it’s supposed to give

Also on 45mg of Buspar

Recently started Lamictal 4 weeks ago for depression, 25 for the first two weeks and 50 for the past two weeks.

So a combination of Wellbutrin, Buspar, and Lamictal

Not sure if I see a change in my depression with the Lamictal yet and I expressed that to the provider. I also told her I am really sleepy all day..

She wants to add Vilazodone (Viibryd) 10mg to help boost the effects of the Wellbutrin but I’m nervous. I feel like this is a lot of meds to be on at once (also have hydroxyzine prn)

Has anyone had any experience on Wellbutrin, Lamictal, and Buspar - along with Viibryd too?

Apart of me wants to just wait since I’m only in 50of Lamictal for two weeks. But to just wait and see if maybe when we increase the Lamictal how it may help my mood before starting a 4th med

Hi everyone!

My psych doc wants me start on Lamictal, but I’m soooo nervous/scared to get SJS. She’s starting me on 25mg and I had the prescription for 3 weeks now, I just have not taken them because of that. My skin is already super sensitive and I break out from almost anything, so I’m nervous I won’t be able to tell if it’s SJS or not.

Idk, I’m just nervous 😩

Hi everyone!

My psych doc wants me start on Lamictal, but I’m soooo nervous/scared to get SJS. She’s starting me on 25mg and I had the prescription for 3 weeks now, I just have not taken them because of that. My skin is already super sensitive and I break out from almost anything, so I’m nervous I won’t be able to tell if it’s SJS or not.

Idk, I’m just nervous 😩

Hi all!

I was on here recently regarding the infidelity that occurred in my marriage with my husband. Found out in April and there was also chlamydia contracted during this time. He said it was only once and it was only oral (her performing on him)… he shared some details about it. I asked for locations and he shared and unshared it multiple times so I said nvm I don’t want it. I asked for counseling and he agreed to that…

However, I am now at this space where I really don’t even know if I want the marriage anymore. Idk, apart of me feels like I do and then the other part feels like I don’t. Too much has happened in this marriage & I told people around me too much, how would I look if I stay? After telling them everything and telling them I was preparing to leave …

At times, I have also been forcing myself to feel what I think I’m supposed to feel, like If I feel like I should be mad upset and shouldn’t stay so I’ll start thinking about everything and get mad all over again.

I know healing isn’t linear and it isn’t the same for everyone.. and even with me considering trying to reconcile, the cheating never leaves my mind and I really don’t know if I can ever trust him again.

However he is willing to start counseling, we have not found anyone yet so I guess we will see. But I truly feel soooo confused, has anyone else experienced this and how did you get through it?

Hi all!

If choosing to stay after cheating, how do you really move forward and trust again?

It’s so many details about the cheating that I don’t know and am not being told because he doesn’t want to talk about it… but how?

It’s only been 10 weeks since finding out and I am struggling so bad!

Hi all!

If choosing to stay after cheating, how do you really move forward and trust again?

It’s so many details about the cheating that I don’t know and am not being told because he doesn’t want to talk about it… but how?

It’s only been 10 weeks since finding out and I am struggling so bad!

Hi all!

If choosing to stay after cheating, how do you really move forward and trust again?

It’s so many details about the cheating that I don’t know and am not being told because he doesn’t want to talk about it… but how?

It’s only been 10 weeks since finding out and I am struggling so bad!

Hello everyone, I am on Wellbutrin 300mg XL currently. I take it in the morning, however I have been in Wellbutrin since October & went from 150 to 300. I never really had any of the stimulant effects it’s supposed to give.. still have a lack of motivation to get anything done. My psych NP wants me to increase to 450mg XL, but I’m nervous 😩😩 she wants me to take my 300mg xl dose in the morning and then 150mg xl at night. I’m scared to go up and also has any one ever taken it at night or split their doses up this way?

Hi everyone!! I recently found out my husband cheated (says only once and it was oral sex), however he got chlamydia from it & in turn gave it to me as well. I’m conflicted on deciding on reconciling or not, he doesn’t want to talk about the cheating, he just wants to move forward. Now he’s ready to be intimate and it’s only been 2 months, I don’t think I’m ready for that yet but I also don’t want to seem like I am punishing him or being spiteful by not fulfilling his sexual desires.

however when I tell him no he threatens divorce or getting it from somewhere else..

he still refuses to share locations, refuses to communicate anymore about the cheating (refuses to answer the questions I have) .. whenever he does share locations it’s right before he’s asking for intimacy and when I say no, he will unshare it.

prior to him starting to ask for intimacy, he shared the location 4-5 times but each time he got upset he unshared it … he also says things like “he will answer the questions I have if I give him what he wants“ which is attention, affection, and intimacy..

Hi everyone!! I recently found out my husband cheated (says only once and it was oral sex), however he got chlamydia from it & in turn gave it to me as well. I’m conflicted on deciding on reconciling or not, he doesn’t want to talk about the cheating, he just wants to move forward. Now he’s ready to be intimate and it’s only been 2 months, I don’t think I’m ready for that yet but I also don’t want to seem like I am punishing him or being spiteful by not fulfilling his sexual desires