u/DKisdead

Hello everyone,

So I am 21F, I recently graduated university where I did a lot of dumb stuff, one of those was developing a nicotine addiction.

Well, I lived away from my parents and when I moved back in I got caught because my vape fell out my pocket in front of them. They got upset, screamed, grounded me, the whole lot.

Well I would excuse this behaviour under normal circumstances, however both my parents smoke. My dad in particular chain smoking since he was 13.

This was actually so shocking to me, especially when I realised that they were serious about me not leaving the house, never being allowed to see my friends again and never being allowed to contact anyone. Kinda crazy, I tried calling them out saying they do it themselves but they did not care. Like I did expect to be scolded maybe, but all of this? never in a million years. So I'm basically prisoner for following in my parents' footsteps.

edit: Thank you for the replies, I should have probably mentioned I come from a culture where it's extremely looked down upon to move out before marriage, it's to the point where my parents would go no contact with me, which tbh may not be that bad. But I am also lowkey way too broke to leave like that anyways. So, my only real option is to get a job, save, do a master's, and escape through that route.

I should also say, I am not proud of my addiction and I genuinely was mentally ready to quit, and had started the process of quitting. It was just unfortunate timing that they found out when they did.

I just made this post to just show you guys how insane this situation is, help me process it and get over it.

As-salamu alaykum,

This is a long story, so I will try and make it as short as possible. I have parents who have always insulted me all my life, restricted me and taught me religion in a horrible way, it was to the point I rejected Islam until I was 20, and developed an eating disorder which I have been dealing with since I was 13.

So, when I went to university I lived away from my parents. I did a lot of things that were haraam, because I did not practice islam at all during that time. Now I realise how wrong and stupid those things were and have repented and have never touched those things/talked to those people since. However, one thing I still struggle to this day with is nicotine. I have been vaping/smoking since I was 14 and it started as a way to cope with my home life.

Fast forward today, I come home from seeing my friends and my vape falls out my pocked in front of my parents and they lose their mind. They berate me and scream at me so much that I have a full on panic attack for 5 hours straight, and vomit non-stop from how much I'm crying. Maybe it was a bad idea, but I lied saying it was a friend's but it did not help and want me to cut off all my friends now. My mom also then accused me of being high and on drugs, because I would avoid them, sit in my room all day and never look joyful around them. I wonder why lol. The worst part of all of this is my dad is a full time smoker (a pack daily since he was 13 AND he was smoking whilst berating me). My mom smokes too but secretly. I didn't have the courage to call them out, but they're telling me I will be punished in hell for this.

How do I even cope? I genuinely considered running away because I am fearing for my life and future, but the issue is the one person that will take me in is my ex. He is a non-muslim, and when I realised that these things are wrong I broke it off with him. But now it's genuinely safer for me to be with him. Maybe this is also delusion, but when we broke it off he said he would convert for me so maybe I could make it halal? But this genuinely the least of my concerns right now. Also, I need to move on from him, I don't want to force myself back if I cut him off for religious reasons.

I am just scared, I have lived my entire life being fearful of my parents. I haven't done a single thing for myself either. I don't know who I am meant to turn to. I am just scared now they'll prevent me from studying further and getting a job, and imprison me inside my house. I know I have done wrong in my life but I repented so much, I wish my parents would understand.

As-salamu alaykum,

This is a long story, so I will try and make it as short as possible. I have parents who have always insulted me all my life, restricted me and taught me religion in a horrible way, it was to the point I rejected Islam until I was 20, and developed an eating disorder which I have been dealing with since I was 13.

So, when I went to university I lived away from my parents. I did a lot of things that were haraam, because I did not practice islam at all during that time. Now I realise how wrong and stupid those things were and have repented and have never touched those things/talked to those people since. However, one thing I still struggle to this day with is nicotine. I have been vaping/smoking since I was 14 and it started as a way to cope with my home life.

Fast forward today, I come home from seeing my friends and my vape falls out my pocked in front of my parents and they lose their mind. They berate me and scream at me so much that I have a full on panic attack for 5 hours straight, and vomit non-stop from how much I'm crying. Maybe it was a bad idea, but I lied saying it was a friend's but it did not help and want me to cut off all my friends now. My mom also then accused me of being high and on drugs, because I would avoid them, sit in my room all day and never look joyful around them. I wonder why lol. The worst part of all of this is my dad is a full time smoker. My mom smokes too but secretly. I didn't have the courage to call them out, but they're telling me I will be punished in hell for this.

How do I even cope? I genuinely considered running away because I am fearing for my life and future, but the issue is the one person that will take me in is my ex. He is a non-muslim, and when I realised that these things are wrong I broke it off with him. But now it's genuinely safer for me to be with him. Maybe this is also delusion, but when we broke it off he said he would convert for me so maybe I could make it halal? But this genuinely the least of my concerns right now.

I am just scared, I have lived my entire life being fearful of my parents. I haven't done a single thing for myself either. I don't know who I am meant to turn to. I am just scared now they'll prevent me from studying further and getting a job, and imprison me inside my house. I know I have done wrong in my life but I repented so much, I wish my parents would understand.

Hello guys, so I got my final grades back. I really tried hard this year and I achieved a first. This was a huge achievement for me as my second year average was 64.5%, because my mental health declined and other external factors.

However, I achieved 70% on the dot. I told my parents this and they are dissapointed. I achieved a first but they said I should tried harder and get a higher percentage?? I don't even know how to explain to them a first is a first, you don't get anything extra for averaging a 90%, which is basically impossible.

Any advice?

hello, i was having a conversation with my friend and i brought this manga up and i cant find it.

its from a comedy manga, and it was a screenshot of a page that consists of 4 panels. so the main character (older guy, chubby) has a bunch of fujoshis strapped to cinema chairs and says something like "who wants to watch yaoi?!" and they all scream "YEAHHH!!". he plays the video and its two old fat men having gay sex and they all scream and cry in horror.

i may have missed out some details but i literally have searched everywhere and i cant find it.

i originally saw it on twitter.

hello, i was having a conversation with my friend and i brought this manga up and i cant find it.

its from a comedy manga, and it was a screenshot of a page that consists of 4 panels. so the main character (older guy, chubby) has a bunch of fujoshis strapped to cinema chairs and says something like "who wants to watch yaoi?!" and they all scream "YEAHHH!!". he plays the video and its two old fat men having gay sex and they all scream and cry in horror.

i may have missed out some details but i literally have searched everywhere and i cant find it.

i originally saw it on twitter.

As you can see from the title, my household got sent a SJP notice. For context my mother is an immigrant and does not handle the bills nor speaks English well. So the tv licencing people knocked on her door one day and asked her what services they use, (according to her) they argued for a bit saying we don't use tv and they asked to enter the house (first mistake) and saw we use live tv. After finding this out they had another back and forth and took the details, essentially saying that she needs to pay or we'll be prosecuted.

My mom must have not realised that they were being serious because she did not follow up with them and today we received an SJP notice. Now here's where I'm confused because my dad pays for the tv license, but they took my mom's details and are prosecuting her so wouldn't that be grounds for an appeal? Has anyone ever been in a similar situation?