u/Dakoolestkat123

On a grand, grand scale, the moon landing has probably been the most significant event in human history. While different religions would disagree on the most significant divine date in history, I doubt any of them would disagree on the importance of the moon landing. While I’m not saying it’s the only reason, the biggest reason to not reset the date was just that people would get really weird about living during year 1, year 25, year 100 etc. Like cults and shit. I think if the date ever does get reset, it’s gotta happen like 500 years after whatever year zero would be.

(Just as a preface, this story isn’t to ask if I’m the asshole, it’s to help you understand what specifically about this topic I’m trying to learn and understand)

My (black) boyfriend and I (white) were talking about the new season of Euphoria, and he asked me if my feelings about an actor I like in the show had a scene saying the n word. (It’s the actress for the woman who Rue is indebted to, for anyone who cares). I responded that my opinion on her wouldn’t change, because I don’t think an actor saying a slur as part of a scene where they play a bigot is something that’s an important part of creating art that talks about bigotry.

He brought up an earlier scene where a white character had said the N word that we had both agreed at the time we thought was weird, because it wasn’t very tasteful, felt like it was just done to grab attention rather than say anything about racism. My response was that actors have very little control over the quality of the finished product in the grand scheme of filmmaking. In the end, he was quite angry and said that my opinion came from my upbringing as a white man in a very white affluent community.

I don’t take any time that I take a stance against a black person on race issues lightly, and I especially want to feel like it’s a stance I’ve really considered. I’ve definitely had cases where my lack of experience led to opinions that came due to privilege, so I really want to know, what is y’all’s in depth opinion on this and is there something I just don’t understand right now?

TL;DR: I’m a white guy who talked with black bf about white actors saying the n word and don’t know if my defense of it is because of ignorance