Anxiety spiral in relationship
I’m not sure if this is the right sub for this, but I want to know if anyone has had a similar experience.
As a child I suffered constant abuse from my brother, which I believe has lead me to having low self esteem, anxiety and an anxious attachment style. I’ve not had very healthy romantic relationships, and my most recent relationship was quite traumatic for me which involved a lot of emotional abuse.
Now I have met someone who is genuinely the best partner I could have ever wished for, he’s understanding and not toxic to me and so lovely.
However, if ever I annoy him, he doesn’t react badly but obviously will act annoyed at me, which is completely valid for him to do. But it sets me off into a spiral of crying, where I feel guilty for the fact I’ve started crying in the first place which keeps the spiral going, often for an hour or more, as well as thoughts that this is going to make him leave me which keeps the spiral going also.
I do not want to do this again, he doesn’t deserve this and I don’t want to put this on him, I also want to stop feeling these painful spirals for myself too.