u/Dark_Phoenix1987

Family ruined my dress picking day & blame me

So today was the day for trying on wedding dresses. I invited my mam , sister ( MOH) and future MIL. Everyone knew the time I was picking my mam and sister up at 10.30 then MIL at 11. The appointment was for 12

I called my mam & sister told them to meet me around the corner of mams house.

I'm waiting looking at the clock send a voice note I'm here 10.47. My sister replies ok. 11 still no sign of them.

I start feeling anxious it's a 40 minute drive to the bridal shop and at least 15 to MIL house.

11.10 I send message saying " I'm leaving now , I can't be late for this appointment " . I wait another 5 minutes then drive to MIL house.

She asks about missing family , I explain the situation. We drive in silence. I try to shake off the bad mood I'm now in. My sister and mother called my phone 15 minutes after I left. I didn't answer.

I try on dresses the assistant was lovely and giving honest opinions and suggestions. MIL tried to act interested but was looking at her phone.

I had imagined this moment so differently. My family members with me laughing, crying pulling faces, going for lunch afterwards to celebrate but I stood looking in the mirror forcing back tears.

I've done so much for them over the years yet it was too much to focus on me for 2 hours.

When I got home my sister messaged me trying to lie and make excuses , blaming me. No apology. Just gas lighting me.

I told her she and my mother ruined my day and not to bother asking me for anything from now on. I'm no longer gonna be there to help like I did before.

Am I overreacting? / Bridezilla ?

So today was the day for trying on wedding dresses. I invited my mam , sister ( MOH) and future MIL. Everyone knew the time I was picking my mam and sister up at 10.30 then MIL at 11. The appointment was for 12

I called my mam & sister told them to meet me around the corner of mams house.

I'm waiting looking at the clock send a voice note I'm here 10.47. My sister replies ok. 11 still no sign of them.

I start feeling anxious it's a 40 minute drive to the bridal shop and at least 15 to MIL house.

11.10 I send message saying " I'm leaving now , I can't be late for this appointment " . I wait another 5 minutes then drive to MIL house.

She asks about missing family , I explain the situation. We drive in silence. I try to shake off the bad mood I'm now in. My sister and mother called my phone 15 minutes after I left. I didn't answer.

I try on dresses the assistant was lovely and giving honest opinions and suggestions. MIL tried to act interested but was looking at her phone.

I had imagined this moment so differently. My family members with me laughing, crying pulling faces, going for lunch afterwards to celebrate but I stood looking in the mirror forcing back tears.

I've done so much for them over the years yet it was too much to focus on me for 2 hours.

When I got home my sister messaged me trying to lie and make excuses , blaming me. No apology.

Thats my rant on my day ruined. Thank you for reading.

So I just want to vent.

I'm currently sitting in my car waiting for my mam and sister . I'm trying on wedding dresses today. It's a 40 minute drive away. My sister ( whose my Maid of Honour ) almost backed out coming last minute.

So the mood wasn't great.

I've to yet collect my MIL and it looks like she'll be the only one coming since she's ready on time.

I've been waiting 20 minutes and now have to leave since the bridal shop are struct on time understably so.

Just want to rant

Hi everyone I just want to say first this group is amazing , between the information and support given.

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Because of this I finally took my first step ( online lyods to get prescription).

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I'm at my heaviest ever , I exercises eat fairly healthy and nothing changes .

HRT has ballooned me.

Our wedding is in less than 5 months ( MIL is terminal so we're pulling it together) , we want our guests to have a great time etc

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I'm going to sound really selfish but I also want to feel and look amazing for the wedding.

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Because of this group I had the courage to take the first step. So thank you everyone 💓

Hey everyone so this happened today and I'm not sure if it's ok to feel hurt.

So my FIL stopped by to let us know he and MIL have done their will. They are splitting most things between their only 2 sons. The rest is going to my BIL child.

Now I've an adult son from a previous relationship bt have been together with my partner 10 years and they have been in his life 8 years.

It's not the money aspect and they absolutely can do what they want with their money but I'm hurt they didnt include our son in anything.

Am I over reacting to this ?