u/DarthLallie

I wasn't sure where this should go but I am 50 I was diagnosed with ADHD as a child then again in my 40s and I just realized I have never enjoyed my life I have always felt behind or failing to keep , comparing my peers who started where I did . But socially too I haven't traveled or have thee great adventures I feel like my whole life was just this long test and I am failing

I have been diagnosed with ADHD but recently I feel my mental illness is worse I am trying to get an evaluation but everything takes so long to get any help I'm not sure I can hold on much longer

I am looking for a new therapist again and one thing I noticed is when I met a therapist and they tell me they have ADHD it makes me feel more like a failure I know we all have different struggles but bruh I am 50 and my career is not getting better and I struggle financially so when I see people with ADHD who are doctors or lawyers or business owners ect doing great things I love it for them but what is wrong with me what happened to my life ..ok end of rant

I am 50 now with ADHD my wife feels like she is married to a kid ..I feel moody or anxious. I am stuck on medication my insurance won't cover anything else..I am stuck in my career close to divorce struggle parenting and completely isolated from friends. I don't know what can help I have tried counseling before with little progress..it's like I am waiting on a slow march to death so this failure of a life can end or maybe start over I need a do over dear God please

I am learning at my old age that people don't care if you have ADHD they care how it affects them if you can suffer silently and not make them see it in or feel bad they will be cool with all the internal struggles emotional dysregulation forgetting bad with money and everything else.So honestly next relationship if I am crazy enough to try I will try to keep my issues inside and not affect others .

I have been to a few therapists and I know it's a process finding the right one but it seems as I read about ADHD it effects our whole lives in ways I never knew ,also I didn't know how huge a percentage of ADHD people have autism I have two sons with ADHD and one with autism. My question is do you feel like a licence therapist understands ADHD is it better if you find a coach with ADHD or more experience with it ?

I have ADHD I struggle with focus in salah I struggle when mediating I take medicine for it but it doesn't last all day and mainly to get through my workday does anyone have any suggestions