u/Dear-Homework1438

Met a girl at her workplace. She initiated — asked my name and got my number. Same day she texted and we set up a date.

Friday we had our first date. I picked her up. We went to a coffee shop, walked around, then she casually invited me back to her place to meet her dog. We sat talking for a while, and kissed.

We then took her dog to a park and got pup-cup. Went back to her place then out to dinner with really deep conversations — her divorced parents, past relationship, my relationship history. She told me a lot about her last relationship.

Date was 5-6 hours total and she was physically affectionate all through out with handholding, etc. In the car she had asked “when can I see you again? We should do something fun like an arcade” while digging through her calendar. We agreed on Monday.

Saturday she didn’t text (worked all day) - she did say she wasn’t gonna text. Sunday she texted cancelling Monday saying she wasn’t feeling too well. So i told her let me know if she needs me to bring her anything but wished her fast recovery.

Tuesday she texted “aww thank you, you’re too kind i am a lot better now, i’m not sure what i had tbh”

I replied saying glad to hear it and asked if she’s still down to do something this week.

That was Tuesday early afternoon. Still no reply. She has notifications silenced. Actually, she’s been on DND since Sunday afternoon.

Here’s what’s throwing me or driving anxious/confused: the energy feels different post-date.

But Like…SHE was physically affectionate, SHE asked ME when to see next, SHE approached ME, SHE initiated the first date. And the entire date was so mutually affectionate and we just kept hanging out after coffee.

Now the replies are less energetic? no exclamation marks, and slow even by her standards. I have anxiety so I genuinely can’t tell if I’m reading into nothing or if something actually shifted.

The ONLY thing I can think of is that we did make a lot of progress during first date and after our first kiss she did say she wants to go slow kinda playfully.

But MAYBE she got scared of how fast we were moving? At the end we are both recent grads, 23 yoe. I don’t know I’m just trying to see why this is happening because i literally can’t think of other reason. And i actually really liked the first connection and the silence is killing me, i rather want her to tell me she not interested anymore.

Am I overthinking or is something actually off? What to do now cause when do i just give up? Thank you yall!

I'm a recent graduate who has been doing research with a professor at another university for about 2 months.

The relationship has grown a lot since we started. I cold emailed her in March and she assigned me papers immediately, and invited me into a private Slack channel just for this project. She liked my previous research experiences and thought i would be a good candidate for this new project that she had in mind.

Since then we've been meeting twice a week on Zoom — just the three of us, her, one of her PhD student, and me. I've moved well past literature review and am now implementing papers and testing on different tasks. She's also setting up HPC compute access at her school for me.

What makes me think she sees me as more than a temporary helper: in our very first meeting, we agreed that my ultimate goal is a first-author publication. And at the end of today's meeting, she asked me to recap our focus papers.

Some context on her: started Fall 2025 at this current school, already well recognized — Qualcomm Innovation Fellowship, MIT EECS Rising Star 2024, HRI Pioneer 2024, best paper awards at top robotics conferences. Her lab has around 11 members less than a year in, and one of her students just got a paper accepted at ICML.

I have personal circumstances that make continuing this path important, and I'm genuinely considering applying to her PhD program — not as a backup plan, but because this is where I actually want to be.

We have another meeting this Friday. My questions:

1. How do I bring this up naturally without making it weird?
2. End of a regular meeting, or ask for a separate conversation?
3. Am I reading the situation right — is it appropriate for me to bring this up?

Would really appreciate advice from anyone who's been on either side of this conversation.

South Korean National here. Looking to obtain Vanuatu CBI. But also in the process of applying for green cards and eventually citizenship.

How is this CBI viewed by the USCIS officers? Will it be scrutinized heavily? Or just like any other passport? Thank you.

Hi everyone, I am a Korean man currently living in the US where my faith has grown tremendously and I have built a deep, meaningful Christian community. I am facing mandatory South Korean military conscription soon, and the thought of going back is causing me immense dread and anxiety.

I deeply dislike the military environment, and I am terrified of hitting the brakes on my career, youth, and losing the spiritual community I have built here. And again all of my friends (including followers of Christ) and my dad and uncle all said if I can escape it, I should do it due to the inherently negative experience of Korean military.

Because I have no immediately clear legal alternative, I’ I’ve been thinking about loopholes to safely evade the service and even seriously considered illegally evading the draft and not returning to the country, even though it means criminal charges, losing my passport.

I am struggling deeply with the theology here. Is evading a mandatory civic law explicitly a sin if the system is rigid and offers no realistic alternative? Am I violating God’s desires by wanting to protect my career and my current faith environment through illegal evasion, or is it understandable to walk away from an institution I morally object to?

Like I’m just so anxious and unsure of even praying about this because i overthink a lot due to childhood trauma and have been used to not disappointing people and sometimes including God - I feel everyone judges me negatively so i try to please everyone.

I would appreciate biblical counsel on this. Thank you so much.

Due to some graduation/degree issues, I ended up filing for my Initial Post-Completion OPT with Premium Processing (PP) last Friday, May 8th. I haven't received any updates yet other than the initial receipt notice (IOE receipt block) At Potomac.

Since it's peak graduation season, I'm trying to gauge how fast the current timeline is moving for the May cohort.

For those who applied with Premium Processing in late April or early May:

> 1. How many days after filing did your **Biometrics Appointment Notice** appear in your online account?

> 2. Have any early May PP applicants successfully done a **walk-in** for biometrics to speed up the clock?

> 3. If you already had your biometrics completed, how long did the final approval email take?

(fwi writing this while i'm extreely anxious, my chest hearts, etc).

So i'm an int'l student and job search, passing classes, has been an immense stress this semester. Thankfully the Lord has blessed me with a job and I'm so so so thankful.

Now, bit of an int'l student TMI, but because we can't work while taking classes, it was extremely stressful at one point when i was on verging of failing two classes in my engineering. And because i needed those two to count toward my degree, I couldn't afford to fail because otherwise I would have to delay my grad thus asking my employer to delay start date which they possibly could say "No. We'll go with other candidate."

But there are more details that has made me extremely anxious, lose sleep, headache, and etc that I can't even explain in one Reddit post.

However, my midterm grades for both classes came out great, and now for one of the classes, I'm ending up with A-. Now, this next class, I computed that worst case scenario, I need about 15% on my final exam to pass.

Yet, after midterm 2, I was so burnt out and doing other work for other classes, I just could not get myself to study in-advance. Now, the exam is tomorrow, and I"m anxious, I don’t know why because I only need 15% (worse case), 5% (best case).

I just don't know why. i'm so anxious i keep thinking that i'll fail and lose my graduation and lose my job and everything. I legit think the devil is trying to dismantle me - because My faith has never been so strong recently. I keep thinking of worse case scenario. And i always have this consciousness thoughts that if i'm "lazy" and ask God for help God will be like no because you haven't done the work.

And I want to ask God to allow me to pass this exam and go do the job that He has blessed me with. Can I still pray to God about this even though I"m not as prepared as I wanted/should? Will God be disappointed at me because i'm "lazy"?

Thank you so much! Writing this made me feel better. My hearts are beating so fast, i can't sleep more than 6 hrs, and whenever i pray to God i feel so much better but I"m a constant overthinker and I grew up not wanting to disappoint peopleso I do the same with God.

God bless.

So I've been seeing conflicting answers online so wanted to check today before calling Progressive on Monday.

Will my auto policy cover a car "rented" from Turo? I know Turo is technically a car-sharing service and not a rental service, so I wasn't sure.

I live in Texas. The car will be rented for a week for a graduation trip and is more expensive that the one i own.

If anyone knows a clear answer or wen through same experience, please let me know. Thank you so much.

EDIT: it IS covered. but it's dependent on the policy you have.