▲ 9 r/ADHD

need help. f27 with no desire, no drive, nothing.

howdy i’m F27

not diagnosed with ADHD but i got concerta prescription in september 2025 and it was a noticeable improvement

anyways i never refilled my prescription and got off the meds entirely, which i cant decide if that was a good idea or not

since then, i basically had a mental breakdown and soft-quit my job. im so fortunate, my parents have a huge basement suite so i’m gonna go live with them for as long as i need, maybe forever since rent is free.

anyways. i need to get off my couch. i need to get rid of my things. my apartment is a box of garbage. i’ve been struggling with executive dysfunction so badly. can’t do anything. if i exercise, that’s a win for the day. everything else goes ignored.

need advice on executive dysfunction.

just gave my 2 months notice to my landlord. need to get this apartment sorted. also need to pay off bills i’ve been procrastinating for over a year. also need to go to the dentist. also need to fix my car. etc etc etc.

it’s overwhelming. scared i’ll never succeed.

i just want out of this apartment and all my past to be wiped away.

advice? thx

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u/Defiant-Crow4803 — 19 hours ago
▲ 47 r/leaves

hello. day 1 sober.

weed ruins my life. it numbs me to the point where i don’t care about anything anymore. it’s been 10 years. i’ve quit on and off — the withdrawals are brutal.

please give me advice, energy, love, idk. anything.

i’ll report back when i can.

this is gonna suck but plz give me motivation not to relapse again. please.

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u/Defiant-Crow4803 — 19 hours ago

abuser said he remembers things differently

tldr:

be me, female, aged 5/6

> calls dad into my room in middle of night because my stomach hurts
> dad appears fully naked with flashlight in hand
> he stands at the side of my bed with the flashlight held at waist level shining in my face and directly illuminating his penis.
> i stare at his penis and think, “this is weird”, and go quiet
> 30 seconds of this and i say my stomach doesn’t hurt anymore and he leaves

he’s saying he remembers it differently, had no nefarious intentions. but the flashlight was directly in my face and he would’ve seen me staring directly at his penis.

context: he was a bad father, largely absent due to work and depression. very angry guy. he’s chill now (this was 20 years ago) but back then was totally different.

thoughts? am i tripping? i have replayed this in my mind 200 times and have never found a resolution in my mind. saddest part is that my best friend at that time (aged 5/6) said she was being molested but wouldn’t say by who. our families were also enmeshed (long story) so he would’ve been one of the only adults around her so that’s always been a thought that tormented me.

i am okay with never knowing the truth but how plausible is his denial? did i imagine everything? i hate my life

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u/Defiant-Crow4803 — 1 month ago
▲ 118 r/CPTSD

abuser said he remembers things differently

tldr:

be me, female, aged 5/6

> calls dad into my room in middle of night because my stomach hurts
> dad appears fully naked with flashlight in hand
> he stands at the side of my bed with the flashlight held at waist level shining in my face and directly illuminating his penis.
> i stare at his penis and think, “this is weird”, and go quiet
> 30 seconds of this and i say my stomach doesn’t hurt anymore and he leaves

he’s saying he remembers it differently, had no nefarious intentions. but the flashlight was directly in my face and he would’ve seen me staring directly at his penis.

context: he was a bad father, largely absent due to work and depression. very angry guy. he’s chill now (this was 20 years ago) but back then was totally different.

thoughts? am i tripping? i have replayed this in my mind 200 times and have never found a resolution in my mind. saddest part is that my best friend at that time (aged 5/6) said she was being molested but wouldn’t say by who. our families were also enmeshed (long story) so he would’ve been one of the only adults around her so that’s always been a thought that tormented me.

i am okay with never knowing the truth but how plausible is his denial? did i imagine everything? i hate my life

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u/Defiant-Crow4803 — 1 month ago