u/DepartmentPurple498

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This might be unpopular, but this subreddit barely feels like it’s about actual love or meaningful connections anymore.

Most of what I see is random white men looking for attention from black women and black women entertaining it because they like the attention too. There’s way more flirting, fetish vibes, and “validation posting” than genuine attempts at building real relationships and/or friendships.

I’ve honestly seen more OF Wannabe models and bait posts on here than people seriously trying to connect with someone on a deeper level. I've seen more " im horny let's chat," than I have seen "looking for a long-term genuine connection."

There is nothing wrong with attraction or flirting, but let’s stop pretending this community is some wholesome “finding love” space when most of it feels performative and attention-driven.

am I still the only "immature" one that still enjoys prank calling /prank messaging ? if so then I def need to grow up

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I genuinely hate work culture so much. Not even in a “I’m lazy and don’t wanna do anything” way. I just hate waking up every day knowing most of life is gonna be spent working until you’re exhausted, stressed, and too tired to actually enjoy life. Everything revolves around work. Your happiness, your sleep, your free time, your mental health… all of it gets pushed aside because “that’s just adulthood.”

And honestly? I don’t dream of being some corporate boss girl. I wanna be a wife. Not the lazy type that sits around all day doing nothing, but the kind that takes care of the home, cooks, supports her husband, creates a peaceful environment, maybe raises kids someday. That sounds more fulfilling to me than spending my life answering emails and pretending I care about company goals.

People act like if you don’t want the grind 24/7 there’s something wrong with you. I just don’t think this modern work-until-you-die lifestyle is for me but unfortunately gotta work to survive in this economy so I shall work then .

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I only have one question or two, actually

What agencies help with flight tickets? as in the whole flights do not fall on me myself and what countries are fine with those who cannot drive

edit im from South africa and I dont really have a specific country i wanna go to

Thought i should try again one last time since the first didn't work

uhmmm, so like… I never thought I’d actually make one of these, but here we are 😭

I’m a Black woman, and I’m interested in dating a white man. Not in a weird, fetishy, “omg I’ve always wanted to try this” way… just genuinely. I like what I like, and I’m at a point where I’d rather be upfront than play it safe.

About me:

I’m grown, I know myself, I’m emotionally aware, I communicate, and I’m not here for games. I can be funny, a little sarcastic, sometimes chill sometimes chaotic depending on the vibe. I like good conversation, music, random late-night talks, and just feeling comfortable with someone.

What I’m looking for:

A white man who’s secure in himself, open-minded, and not weird about race. You don’t need to “prove” anything or try too hard… just be normal, respectful, and real.

Now let’s get this part out of the way:

DO NOT message me if:

- you fetishize Black women (I will clock it immediately, don’t try it)

- you’ve never actually interacted with Black people but think I’m your “first experience”

- you’re secretly racist, “joke racist,” or think saying the n-word is edgy

- you expect me to teach you basic respect or cultural awareness

- you’re broke and lazy (pick a struggle, not both)

- you think sending money = personality (I don’t want your money, relax)

- you’re only here for hookups or anything purely sexual

- you can’t hold a conversation beyond “wyd” and “you up” These are not personalities, guys. I'll simply just delete the dm

- you’re insecure about dating outside your race and need constant reassurance

- you’re trying to “rebel” against your family or prove a point

- you don’t take care of yourself (hygiene, effort, basic life stuff… pls)

- you’re under 21 or way older trying to push boundaries. The oldest I'll go is 33

I’m not here to be a fantasy, a secret, or a phase. I want something genuine. If you’re normal, respectful, and actually interested in getting to know me as a person, then hey… maybe we’ll get along.

If not, scroll peacefully 🫶🏽