u/DepartmentSad8451

"This is just for indian location" Do you know what happened today?

I thought let's see what girls' experiences are like on dating apps. Created a female profile, no proper photo, no effort on the profile. And dude, within a minute, there were already 15+ matches and messages.

That's when I realized how overwhelming dating apps must be for girls.

The funny thing is, the people messaging were mostly decent. Nobody was weird or creepy. The problem was that so many messages were coming in at once that they all started to feel the same.

And then a realization hit me.

We guys think we are competing with one or two people. In reality, you might just be one conversation out of 50.

So when replies are dry or seem to lack effort, it doesn’t necessarily mean the other person is bad. They might just have so many options that they don’t find a reason to invest in one chat.

My conclusion isn’t that all girls on dating apps are looking for attention. But it definitely felt like the app's structure makes it difficult to form genuine connections.

Some people come out of boredom, some after a breakup, some for validation, and some genuinely looking for a relationship. But when so many options come in at once, it becomes hard to take any one person seriously.

My personal observation is that if someone has a strong social circle and finds a person that matches their vibe, they usually tend to choose that person. Dating apps often become a second or third option.

I myself never reached a point on dating apps where there was equal effort from both sides in a conversation. It always felt like I was pulling a truck. But with the people I connected with naturally, the conversations were effortless.

So if you're looking for a serious relationship, just see dating apps as a tool, don’t build your entire strategy around them.

Meet people in real life. Join events. Pursue hobbies. Connect through friends.

Because on the app, you're not matching; you're competing in an ocean of attention.

That was just today’s observation. Everyone might have a different experience.

Hey

29, 6'1", currently based in Pune

I’m looking for a serious, long-term relationship with someone who believes in building a life together, not just dating for the sake of it.

By profession, I’m a software Engineer, so my work is driven by logic and problem-solving. Outside work, though, I’m happiest on the open road. Friends would describe me as calm, dependable, curious, and someone who’s always planning the next adventure.

Travelling is more than a hobby for me—it’s how I learn. I love discovering hidden places, experiencing different cultures, trying local food, and understanding how people live. Whether it’s a weekend motorcycle ride, a spontaneous road trip, or a dream of exploring new countries, I’m always looking forward to the next journey.

I value honesty, emotional maturity, mutual respect, and open communication. I believe the strongest relationships are built on friendship, shared experiences, and choosing each other through every phase of life.

An ideal weekend would be hopping on the bike, chasing sunsets, exploring cafés or street food, wandering through a new place, or simply enjoying meaningful conversations over coffee.

I’m hoping to meet someone between 22–27 who is kind, emotionally mature, curious about life, and excited to grow together. Someone who wants to support each other’s ambitions, travel the world, create lasting memories, and build a relationship where it always feels like we’re on the same team.

If that sounds like the kind of story you’d like to write too, I’d love to get to know you.