u/Desperate-Deer-890

Hi guys,

I’m working in hospitality in Australia - at a sports club

I put in my leave about a 8 weeks ago however my new boss didn’t approve it or look at it, so I resubmitted the leave a week ago and sent him an email regarding the issue.

Saying that I had to resubmit it if he can look at it and see if it can get approved. 1 day later he approved my leave for 3 weeks from end of July to mid august almost.

However I’m in management and it’s a medium sized sports club, our team has 4 managers that can close the venue including me, an extra duty manager that can open on weekends due to her family commitments and kids, and then we have our new venue manager that atm is currently jumping between 2 Venues, but he will be full time from June.

So then he called me 2 days ago saying how we need to discuss my leave as me and another coworker of mine are on leave at the same time for 2 weeks saying it’s not good for business. My coworker did put in his leave before mine aswell.

My boss said that we either have to shift my leave or take it later in August but I go back to uni in August so I wanna take my trip in July.

He said he will speak to me in person about it

I’m just wondering if he has any authority to say I need to cancel my leave even though he already approved it, he didn’t look at who else on his team is on leave so idk what to say / do I have already booked my flights for this holiday.

But he said to my other coworker that we both can leave that the person so put the leave in first has preference

My coworker who is going on leave at the same time sent an email saying that they can manage the rosters with us gone, because we have done this before. We go on leave the same time every year as our birthdays are in July / early August

Please tell me your thoughts or give any advice on this situation please
Much appreciated

Hi everyone, l've recently found out I was pregnant. Both me and my partner are young ( 21) and we are planning on NOT keeping it. Even though I would love to but I am not at the place right now to support a child or be there for them to the fullest - I'm still in uni and working part time.

So me and my partner have been together for 2 years now, we have had our problems from the past however recently he has been very distant since finding out. And I told him that I would really love some support from you and reassurance with what I am going through as it's not easy regardless of what decision is made

He said that he will support me and reassurance assure me - this past week when I have been feeling upset or emotional he has not been there for me at all - he tells me to stop crying
- and when I tell him I need someone here rn to talk and comfort me he's not there

However side note - he has been hanging out with his friends too much lately like 5/7 days this week and hasn't been seeing me as much either especially when I need him rn

I got emotional last night and had a feeling he's pretending to care about me or pretend to be there for me emotionally as he's being distant - as he's told me that he does pretend he's emotionally available for me during an argument and that he doesn't feel connected with me. I asked him to come see me after he's done hanging out with his friends

And I was losing it so much spam messaging him because I needed him at that moment but he wasn't there for me

But i said if his friends asked him to come see them if they were upset he would go in a heart beat. He also then said when he found out I was pregnant a thought went into his mind that does he really want me to be the mother to his kids one day? And that broke me tbh

He's now saying he wants space and to spend some time apart after the abortion, this is the time I need him the most.

And during this argument he also brought up how I wanna get married and settle down by 26-28 and kids by 30 - he said that he wants to do it when he’s 30-35 as he wants to “ enjoy “ his 20s

I said don’t you wanna have a wife and kids - he said yes Ofc but it’s too early for him

He does not care at all
I love him so much but this is hurting me too much and idk what to do

Pls give me your thoughts

**TL;DR; : This is a sample summary of the TLDR rule, all things are bold. Is this going the right way?**.

Hi everyone, l've recently found out I was pregnant. Both me and my partner are young 21 F , 21 M and were planning on not keeping it. Even though I would love to but I am not at the place right now to support a child or be there for them to the fullest - I'm still in uni and working part time.

So me and my partner have been together for 2 years now, we have had our problems from the past however recently he has been very distant since finding out. And I told him that I would really love some support from you and reassurance with what I am going through as it's not easy regardless of what decision is made

He said that he will support me and reassurance assure me - this past week when I have been feeling upset or emotional he has not been there for me at all - he tells me to stop crying
- and when I tell him I need someone here rn to talk and comfort me he's not there

However side note - he has been hanging out with his friends too much lately like 5/7 days this week and hasn't been seeing me as much either especially when I need him rn
I got emotional last night and had a feeling he's pretending to care about me or pretend to be there for me emotionally as he's being distant - as he's told me that he does pretend he's emotionally available for me during an argument and that he doesn't feel connected with me. I asked him to come see me after he's done hanging out with his friends

And I was losing it so much spam messaging him because I needed him at that moment but he wasn't there for me

But i said if his friends asked him to come see them if they were upset he would go in a heart beat. He also then said when he found out I was pregnant a thought went into his mind that does he really want me to be the mother to his kids one day? And that broke me tbh

He's now saying he wants space and to spend some time apart after the abortion, this is the time I need him the most.

He does not care at all
I love him so much but this is hurting me too much and idk what to do

Pls give me your thoughts

Hi everyone, I’ve recently found out I was pregnant. Both me and my partner are young ( 21) and were planning on not keeping it. Even though I would love to but I am not at the place right now to support a child or be there for them to the fullest - I’m still in uni and working part time.

So me and my partner have been together for 2 years now, we have had our problems from the past however recently he has been very distant since finding out. And I told him that I would really love some support from you and reassurance with what I am going through as it’s not easy regardless of what decision is made

He said that he will support me and reassurance assure me - this past week when I have been feeling upset or emotional he has not been there for me at all - he tells me to stop crying - and when I tell him I need someone here rn to talk and comfort me he’s not there

However side note - he has been hanging out with his friends too much lately like 5/7 days this week and hasn’t been seeing me as much either especially when I need him rn

I got emotional last night and had a feeling he’s pretending to care about me or pretend to be there for me emotionally as he’s being distant - as he’s told me that he does pretend he’s emotionally available for me during an argument and that he doesn’t feel connected with me. I asked him to come see me after he’s done hanging out with his friends

And I was losing it so much spam messaging him because I needed him at that moment but he wasn’t there for me

But i said if his friends asked him to come see them if they were upset he would go in a heart beat. He also then said when he found out I was pregnant a thought went into his mind that does he really want me to be the mother to his kids one day? And that broke me tbh

He’s now saying he wants space and to spend some time apart after the abortion, this is the time I need him the most. He does not care at all

I love him so much but this is hurting me too much and idk what to do

Pls give me your thoughts

Update :
I am also thinking of getting the abortion and not telling him when I’m getting it - he said he’ll come with me to be there for me but what’s the point if he’s gonna be there for me for one day to told my hand and then say we need to go on a break after the abortion when I need him the most post procedure during that time