u/Desperate_Noise_04

Ee ida ayt ellam valare mosham aayt aa nadakkunne
Njn athyavishyam optimistic avan noki,ellam okay ahnen pretend cheyth cheyth enik ipo ellam kude madukun ind
Enik arodum onnum parayan pattatha pole feel cheyya
Arum illatha pole feel cheyua
Njn parayunne ket avark oru burden akune pole oke
Ente preshnangal onum enik vendapettavar onum pariganikaathath pole feel akuva
Enik ahnel padikanum patunilla adh vere oru vishamam
Idhoke njn aarod parayum
Ini ipo arelum mindaan vanna thenne enik pedi aa samsarikan enik ariyilla
Endho pole avun myr

Asking for a frnd,Prethyekich requirements onum illa nna paranje
Ariyuvengi help plisu

I (22f) is so bad at buying gifts
I wanna gift smtg to my brother,hes 24 years
Idk what to gift him
Hes in UK i thought of ordering him a lego set and some home decors from ikea
But im not sure
Pls drop some suggestions🥲

On paper, the college looks great — high ranks, good infrastructure, NAAC accreditation, etc. But the reality inside is completely different.
The biggest issue here is the toxic environment. The staff have absolutely no empathy. Professors openly humiliate students, target them, and mentally torture them. If you ever speak back or upset the wrong person — especially an intern or senior who’s close to the faculty — your life becomes hell. They can fail you in exams, reject your work repeatedly, and keep targeting you throughout the course.
Ironically, direct ragging between students is less now because a serious incident happened a few years ago and the college became stricter about anti-ragging policies. But honestly, the professors themselves “rag” students mentally.
There are barely any real extracurricular activities. They conduct random setup programs just for appearances and NAAC grading, but students are too scared to focus on sports or activities because internal marks and attendance are used as weapons.

Our schedule is exhausting:
Classes from 8 AM to 4 PM
Only one actual lunch break
Even timetable breaks get taken away by extra classes
BDS students have classes Monday to Saturday
MBBS students get second Saturdays off, but we don’t
We barely get holidays. We even had exams during Pooja holidays. They made students sign a “consent” paper without letting us properly read it. I secretly took a photo and realized what it actually said later. We get almost no festive holidays except maybe one day for Christmas, one for Vishu, and a two for Onam.

Hostel conditions are horrible too:
Rotten meat and stale fish in food
Insects and hair regularly found in meals
Students aren’t even allowed enough vegetables sometimes

Washrooms without working flushes, taps, or locks
Septic tank leakage smell around the hostel
Complaints only make wardens target students more
The hostel warden is especially cruel. Students get insulted and even borderline slut-shamed for absolutely no reason.

What’s worse is the mental health situation here.
This year, a student reportedly attempted suicide in the hostel after being mentally harassed by a department/professor. The warden wasn’t even present — students themselves had to help. The entire issue was buried immediately and the next day everything continued like nothing happened.
Another student also died by suicide recently. Nobody knows the full truth, but many students believe the college environment contributed to it. Every incident gets covered up quietly.
There’s also almost zero consideration for genuine medical emergencies or mental health.

I know every professional college is stressful, but this place feels genuinely inhumane sometimes. If anyone is planning to join here thinking rankings and infrastructure mean everything, please talk to actual students before making a decision.

On paper, the college looks great — high ranks, good infrastructure, NAAC accreditation, etc. But the reality inside is completely different.
The biggest issue here is the toxic environment. The staff have absolutely no empathy. Professors openly humiliate students, target them, and mentally torture them. If you ever speak back or upset the wrong person — especially an intern or senior who’s close to the faculty — your life becomes hell. They can fail you in exams, reject your work repeatedly, and keep targeting you throughout the course.
Ironically, direct ragging between students is less now because a serious incident happened a few years ago and the college became stricter about anti-ragging policies. But honestly, the professors themselves “rag” students mentally.
There are barely any real extracurricular activities. They conduct random setup programs just for appearances and NAAC grading, but students are too scared to focus on sports or activities because internal marks and attendance are used as weapons.

Our schedule is exhausting:
Classes from 8 AM to 4 PM
Only one actual lunch break
Even timetable breaks get taken away by extra classes
BDS students have classes Monday to Saturday
MBBS students get second Saturdays off, but we don’t
We barely get holidays. We even had exams during Pooja holidays. They made students sign a “consent” paper without letting us properly read it. I secretly took a photo and realized what it actually said later. We get almost no festive holidays except maybe one day for Christmas, one for Vishu, and a two for Onam.

Hostel conditions are horrible too:
Rotten meat and stale fish in food
Insects and hair regularly found in meals
Students aren’t even allowed enough vegetables sometimes

Washrooms without working flushes, taps, or locks
Septic tank leakage smell around the hostel
Complaints only make wardens target students more
The hostel warden is especially cruel. Students get insulted and even borderline slut-shamed for absolutely no reason.

What’s worse is the mental health situation here.
This year, a student reportedly attempted suicide in the hostel after being mentally harassed by a department/professor. The warden wasn’t even present — students themselves had to help. The entire issue was buried immediately and the next day everything continued like nothing happened.
Another student also died by suicide recently. Nobody knows the full truth, but many students believe the college environment contributed to it. Every incident gets covered up quietly.
There’s also almost zero consideration for genuine medical emergencies or mental health.

I know every professional college is stressful, but this place feels genuinely inhumane sometimes. If anyone is planning to join here thinking rankings and infrastructure mean everything, please talk to actual students before making a decision.

I’m(20F) in a relationship and I care about my bf(21) a lot, probably too much honestly. Somewhere along the way I slowly drifted from my own friends and now I mostly just hang out with him and his friends.

Lately I’ve been feeling kinda lonely because I realized my whole emotional world revolves around one person while he still has his own life, friends, hobbies etc. I don’t think he’s a bad person or anything, but I think I became overly dependent on the relationship and now I feel pathetic for it sometimes.

I miss having genuine platonic connections and people to talk to outside of my relationship. Not looking for flirting or anything weird, just real friendships and normal conversations with people around my age.

Has anyone else gone through this? How did you rebuild your own life/social circle again without feeling awkward?