AITA for telling my MIL she a pathetic excuse of a person for ruining my baby’s gender reveal?
My husband and I are having our first kid. We have tried for the past few years but we were unsuccessful, until now. My mother in law has been helpful ever since we told her. Before me and my husband got married I didn’t really think she liked me. She was always cold and short with me where it came to any conversation. Whoever we told her she actually spoke to me having a normal, not awkward conversation. She even started going to our ultrasound appointments with me and my husband, and would help around the house after each appointment.
I thought she was an absolute angel. But little did I know she was trying to make this baby about her.
I have been planning the gender reveal party for months now. I had the idea for the venue and the cake. I told my friends/husband about my ideas and they loved it. Whenever I told my mother in law she didn’t like it. She started showing me these other overpriced venues and recommended we use poppers instead. I didn’t want to argue with her but I told her that the venue she mentioned isn’t in our price range. She said she’ll pay for everything. I didn’t really feel comfortable with that and I told her about how I felt but she just waved me off.
I told my husband my concerns and asked if he could speak with his mother, he said he would talk to her.
Apparently, when my husband spoke to her she argued with him and insisted on the venue and the poppers. I eventually said okay but I was quite upset.
My mother in law asked if she could be the one to know the gender and go and buy us the poppers. I was hesitant at first but agreed.
The party was good for the most part, I got to decorate how I wanted to and it was nice to see my family and friends.
Eventually it was time for the revival. Me and my husband both got a popper and held them up in the air. We had a countdown and whenever we twisted the poppers, they were gold.
Of course me and my husband were confused..
But then my mother in law pulled out another popper and popped it. Pink confetti went everywhere and my mother in law started jumping up and down, screaming. The whole party went dead silent, but all I could hear was my own heart beat. I immediately lost it. “what the actual fuck is wrong with you“
She immediately went defensive. “Well I thought since I payed for the venue and helped with you with the gender reveal, I could be the one to surprise you both. It not a big deal, you need to realize what I’ve done for you.”
I said “ I didn’t even want you to help me pay for anything. I had a whole plan. I had the venue planned and I didn’t even want to do poppers. You did! You wanted to take the spotlight for yourself! You’re a pathetic excuse of a person. You have ruined everything!” I stormed out with my husband following me and we drove home.
He said I went to far and that his mother was just exited and trying to be nice.
I’m starting to think I may have gone too far but idk.
AITA?
Update
Thank you everyone who commented. I honestly thought I was a bit harsh, but I see now I just stood up for myself. Also I’m not a frequent Reddit user, so I’m not sure if this how I update..I had to look it up lol.
Whenever me and my husband got home from the party we didn’t speak to each other. I got a call from one of my friends the next day from the party and she told me that my mother in law made an announcement whenever I left. She said that she apologized for my yelling and said that I was trying take her granddaughter/and son away from her.
I tried to tell my husband what she said but he said that he won’t speak to me until I call his mother and apologize for embarrassing her and himself infront of everyone. He said I was too far out of line and I needed to treat his mom better because she didn’t have to go out of her way to make sure the party was perfect.
I confronted him, I told him he should have had my back because that was supposed to be our moment, our memory, our daughter. But she ruined that for us. Now she was making herself the victim. I said if he couldn’t see the issue then we have bigger issues than just his mother.
I said I will never apologize for how I acted or for what I said.
After I told him this, he slowly turned to our bed room, packed a suitcase, and left.
I was able to figure out he went to his mother’s house.
I’ve been trying to text/call him but I don’t think anything is going through at the moment..
I haven’t been alone, my sister is currently staying
with me just in case something happens to me or the baby. I’m so scared, I don’t know what I should do.