u/DifficultySorry4521

I am a 26F currently working and doing my absolute best to keep my life together. almost a year ago my life went down hill and I can confidently say i hit rock bottom. Brutal break up, health issues and issues at my work.

i have started to heal however the breakup affected me so deeply that I cannot see myself in any relationship. even tho I am an honest, genuine person, I love so hard and I am always there , oh never treat anyone as temporary but I have decided that love isn’t for me anymore..

I have one issue that is my need to feel chosen , u feel so envious of girls in happy relationships, why them and not me. I keep asking myself what do they have that am lacking abd yet I fail to find the answer. Every time I meet with a guy colleague let that be at gym or in the workplace they talk about their partners with so much love and passion and I could never know what do other girls have that I don’t have . why I am never chosen always close enough to begin chosen yet not chosen at all.

while I have decided that love isn’t for me, i know that deep down I want to feel loved and to give the love because I am very much cab of loving.

if anyone has gone though similar situation please advise how did you overcome this phase?

I already have a good job trying my best to improve myself, completing my masters degree and going to the gym regularly.,

what else can I do do set myself free

I am a 26F currently working and doing my absolute best to keep my life together. almost a year ago my life went down hill and I can confidently say i hit rock bottom. Brutal break up, health issues and issues at my work.

i have started to heal however the breakup affected me so deeply that I cannot see myself in any relationship. even tho I am an honest, genuine person, I love so hard and I am always there , oh never treat anyone as temporary but I have decided that love isn’t for me anymore..

I have one issue that is my need to feel chosen , u feel so envious of girls in happy relationships, why them and not me. I keep asking myself what do they have that am lacking abd yet I fail to find the answer. Every time I meet with a guy colleague let that be at gym or in the workplace they talk about their partners with so much love and passion and I could never know what do other girls have that I don’t have . why I am never chosen always close enough to begin chosen yet not chosen at all.

while I have decided that love isn’t for me, i know that deep down I want to feel loved and to give the love because I am very much cab of loving.

if anyone has gone though similar situation please advise how did you overcome this phase?

I already have a good job trying my best to improve myself, completing my masters degree and going to the gym regularly.,

what else can I do do set myself free

hi,

can anyone tell me if my part was wrong?

so I have been crushing hard on one colleague with me in the team, he caught my attention since day one of joining the team and he was my trainer . we later kinda never had contact because he did not show up for few month but also i was in relationship and I forgot about him in that particular way. I broke up with my ex and that co worker came into my life again as he was assigned some trainings with me and here things took unexpected turns, I crushed on him even harder and every moment became so pleasant. I do remember walking him to his car and he offered me to drive to a central place and when I was in his car there was a peaceful silence like really peace (ps: I don’t like silence)

anyway I did tell him directly that he has a spot spot and he asked if it was only him, i Remember telling him how much I like to go and try different restaurants and he then came time asking *when do we go*? (It never happened though)

anyway i decided to tell him my feelings and I told him ”I have a faty ass crush on you” he was in disbelief and made me say that 3 times because he was so confused. I then opened up to him and I told him everything. He later told me I am brave for doing it and that when he had a crush on someone he could never do it And that am the first girl to ever do this to him. He said let’s see where things would go and i explained that it won’t go anywhere as he is my superior at work.

I have noticed that he kinda is ignoring me now and only would approach me if he sees me alone and only in person. He does not write to me on social media. i am unsure if i fucked up 😅

pls advise

hi,

can anyone tell me if my part was wrong?

so I have been crushing hard on one colleague with me in the team, he caught my attention since day one of joining the team and he was my trainer . we later kinda never had contact because he did not show up for few month but also i was in relationship and I forgot about him in that particular way. I broke up with my ex and I was going through the hell of coming into terms with The breakup but I event did and I did go through that breakup ( I still am as I reflect more but I no longer want the person or anything to do with them)

that co worker came into my life again as he was assigned some trainings with me and here things took unexpected turns, I crushed on him even harder and every moment became so pleasant. I do remember walking him to his car and he offered me to drive to a central place snd when I was in his car there was a peaceful silence like really peace (ps: I don’t like silence)

anyway I did tell him directly that he has a spot spot and he asked if it was only him, i Remember telling him how much I like to go and try different restaurants and he then came time asking *when do we go*? (It never happened though)

anyway i decided to tell him my feelings and I told him ”I have a faty ass crush on you” he was in disbelief and made me say that 3 times because he was so confused. I then opened up to him and I told him everything. He later told me I am brave for doing it and that when he had a crush on someone he could never do it And that am the first girl to ever do this to him. He said let’s see where things would go and i explained that it won’t go anywhere as he is my sup at work.

I have noticed that he kinda is ignoring me now and only would approach me if he seems me alone and only in person. He does not write to me on social media. in the office am stranger. i am unsure if i fucked up 😅

pls advise