u/Disastrous_Bat1828

So...

I have doubts. Recently I've been having kind of an identity crisis... That has lead me to take a lot of tests, including this one and the big five.

But a lot of questions and thoughts have come to me after all of this. Is it true that we INFPs have like a charisma or something?

To be truly honest with you all in here... I tend to doubt all of these personality tests, including the big five, cause I know they're very malleable depending your mood and your self steem sometimes. But still, I wanted to ask, do people tell you that you're "authentic" or that you have "good energy"? Do people find you sympathetic in a personality way?

What I mean is that I've been told that I have charisma and other things... one close friend of mine called me authentic, a teacher said that I have an equanimous personality (don't know what that exactly means), a guy I was dating some months ago said that I was an emotional guy and my dad, seeing me after a long time said that I had a good vibe on me...

I know all of these things come mostly from people who has known me for some well time (except the guy I dated for 6 months) but I don't know how to take that, like... I still feel insecure but many people who tend to know me tells me or makes me feel like I'm comfortable to be with, but I don't know why I don't feel like that, like I just feel like any other person just hanging around... And that has made me question what kind of person I am... Or if I'm doing things "well enough" for what I want to do in my career or anything. Also when someone doesn't treat me like that or makes me feel humiliated I feel that like a lot, I feel like a very sensitive person, even when I try not to be, and somehow I've kinda lost that sensitivity due to some things I've lived, but many things tend to hurt me a lot emotionally, like someone feeling disappointed of me, or even feeling like an imposter with the famous imposter syndrome in my career.

What I mean is... How do you guys feel about yourselves? Is it common for you to reflect a lot on what kind of person you are? Or am I overthinking?

Anyway this was just a vent, feeling a little neurotic these days. :)

Hi!

I'm a 21yo guy really curious about relationships between guys, mostly just asking how did you get to have a relationship with your current partner? I'm referring mostly to homoromantic relationships, but if you're in a heterosexual one, also feel free to comment.

I'm really curious like what's your type of guy and if your current partner resembles to what your expectative of a "dream guy" would look like physically, and how and what made you fall in love with them, or feel dragged to them, it can be at an emotional, intellectual or sexual level. How did your romantic history evolve?

So... I've talked about this before... basically this january a guy who I was talking to and who I was dating rejected me for like the 3rd time after giving me hopes that he wanted to be with me before. I've think about many possibilities about what happened to him but just now, 4 months later, I'm missing him like hell.

We're now in no contact but I just keep thinking about him and I've been wondering if I should reach out to him. So in resume as I said, he wasn't very mature, but still, our connection was deep without us realizing it, but he treated me like someone he could reject however he wanted, although he tried to have something with me... he didn't gave me the attention I needed to be in a relationship and preferred to reject rather than trying things out. We did share a lot of fine moments with each other, I hope he misses me someway I miss him.

I've been moving on as I can with my life since then but I can't deny that I miss him and I feel like I should chat with him just to talk and see if he's the same person I thought he was. Anywaya I'm being too melancholic right now...

Just ranting here... right now my self steem is not on the best place after that... I've read about attachment theories and all of that, but things feel the same, even if I understand that he may have an avoidant style... still... I feel bad. Sometimes I feel that I need a conversation with him but we don't have it.

Anyways I was just ranting here? any other bi guy with an unfinished love story who can relate?

Hi everyone!

I've posted some times in here but... I just wanna talk about my experience and my doubts (guess it's gonna be a long post)

So... How did you knew your sexuality wasn't just a phase?... I personally have found here people my age (21) who are jus discovering what they like, and I personally felt attraction towards some guys when I was in my teenage years and stopped feeling it after I started questioning my sexuality, tbh with you, if it wasn't cause of homophobia I would be bisexual, maybe more romantically attracted to girls but open to experiment with guys in a romantic way, even wanting to have romantinc relationships with guys.

Actually, last year I tried a relationship with a guy, but, tbh with all of you, I didn't felt too much for him, though we were very good friends, but I think it's because the people whom I spoke about my sexuality back then in my teenage years (my family, therapist and some friends) just didn't believe that I could be gay or that I could like men cause I'm very straight passing and also some women find me attractive, so people had this idea of how a gay/bi man or sexuality should be that I just took that as the truth and I thought "well, then I'm just a straight that is denying his "straightness"". I know it sounds confusing, but as the overthinker I am it hasn't let me enjoy my sexuality the way I want to enjoy it.

I've had sex with guys but I haven't enjoyed it that much, with this guy I dated last year, we just kissed like twice, and I just got rock hard but couldn't feel the romantic attraction, and it's weird cause he rejected me many times and I took distance from him but I'm still thinking about him. I know, he sounds like a toxic person, and he is, he wasn't fully over his past ex when he started dating me, and when he rejected me he started a relationship with someone else right after, just to end that relationship months after and coming back to me saying that he loved me... but now that I left him, I can't help but to feel guilty for "letting him" alone. I don't think I should be feeling this way. I just miss him so much, I wish I could've felt for him everything I couldn't show him back then :(

Anyway, this is just a rant but you're all are welcome to answer how did you know your sexuality wasn't just "a phase". I'll be grateful for your help.

Reposting here cause previous one was removed.

Hi everyone!

I've posted some times in here but... I just wanna talk about my experience and my doubts (guess it's gonna be a long post)

So... How did you knew your sexuality wasn't just a phase?... I personally have found here people my age (21) who are jus discovering what they like, and I personally felt attraction towards some guys when I was in my teenage years and stopped feeling it after I started questioning my sexuality, tbh with you, if it wasn't cause of homophobia I would be bisexual, maybe more romantically attracted to girls but open to experiment with guys in a romantic way, even wanting to have romantinc relationships with guys.

Actually, last year I tried a relationship with a guy, but, tbh with all of you, I didn't felt too much for him, though we were very good friends, but I think it's because the people whom I spoke about my sexuality back then in my teenage years (my family, therapist and some friends) just didn't believe that I could be gay or that I could like men cause I'm very straight passing and also some women find me attractive, so people had this idea of how a gay/bi man or sexuality should be that I just took that as the truth and I thought "well, then I'm just a straight that is denying his "straightness"". I know it sounds confusing, but as the overthinker I am it hasn't let me enjoy my sexuality the way I want to enjoy it.

I've had sex with guys but I haven't enjoyed it that much, with this guy I dated last year, we just kissed like twice, and I just got rock hard but couldn't feel the romantic attraction, and it's weird cause he rejected me many times and I took distance from him but I'm still thinking about him. I know, he sounds like a toxic person, and he is, he wasn't fully over his past ex when he started dating me, and when he rejected me he started a relationship with someone else right after, just to end that relationship months after and coming back to me saying that he loved me... but now that I left him, I can't help but to feel guilty for "letting him" alone. I don't think I should be feeling this way. I just miss him so much, I wish I could've felt for him everything I couldn't show him back then :(

Anyway, this is just a rant but you're all are welcome to answer how did you know your sexuality wasn't just "a phase". I'll be grateful for your help.

Hi.

I'm a 21yo guy and having suspicious of having ADHD, I've just read about the common things like attention problems and trouble starting and finishin some tasks. Also the hyperfocus stuff (personally it about movies for me) and those kind of issues, I'm not listing them here now cause my question goes more in regards on how do I know if I have it.

I've been looking for therapist but they're expensive for my budget for my budget right now so my best is to read about it or talking with people who is diagnosed. I'm not doing self-diagnose, rather just curious if it helps understand and work on myself better. So I'm receiving any advice you could give me, I'll be reading and answering whatever your questions are... So yeah, that's it!

Thank you!