Not like we haven’t seen blatant obvious bullying on BB before, but the vim they have for her is SO weird. Their main gripe with her seems to be because she’s come in halfway throw and not part of the OG HMs, yet they’re both fine with Catrin… it’s defo personal
Apologising in advance for the length of this post but I wanted to make sure I included all details to try and gain some judgement/advice from others on how I should proceed here.
Been together 1.5 years and I feel so blindsided because I would never have thought this would be something he would do nor would it be in his character. He has been an amazing boyfriend during this time, couldn’t fault him in any way and I have never had any reason to think he’d have eyes for anyone but me.
My boyfriend went to a concert with a group of friends/mutual friends about a week ago and since this night has decided he wants to go sober and not drink alcohol anymore. His reasons stated were he “doesn’t like how it makes him feel”
Thought it was a bit random and out of the blue but didn’t think too much of it, and obviously I would support his choice
A couple of nights ago we were heading out, he left his phone unlocked while ordering an uber and went to the toilet. I don’t know why but I just had a gut feeling to go through his phone, which I’ve never even given a second thought of doing the whole time I’ve been in a relationship with him
Found messages he sent to a girl the morning after this concert he went to, the conversation was quite long and I could only scan read it but he started the convo off by saying “hi I just wanted to apologise for anything I said or did last night, I was really drunk and I don’t have much memory of the night”
She sent a long message back, again I couldn’t read all of it but she ended the conversation with “I would hate for things to become uncomfortable between us x”
I immediately feel sick and know that something has happened that shouldn’t have and he has been withholding something from me. I didn’t immediately tell him I saw these messages but I went very quiet and barely spoke to him for the next half an hour.
He noticed I had become very withdrawn and quiet and repeatedly asked me if something was wrong. I kept telling him no everything is fine
Eventually when we are out I couldn’t keep it in anymore and decided to give him the opportunity to be honest and clean with me. I asked him if something happened the night he went out that has made him not want to drink anymore? to which he responded with the same thing he was saying before, he just doesn’t like the way it makes him feel and he’s getting too old to get so drunk etc etc blah blah
I then bring up the messages. Immediately he says it’s a girl that has fancied him since the first time he met her and has always been very flirty and forward with him, despite him telling her he has a girlfriend (this is just what he is telling me, obviously I don’t know how much truth there is). We argue a little back and forth, he becomes very teary and panicky and can’t seem to calm down. I asked him to let me read the full conversation, he then says he deleted them when he noticed I was upset because he worked out I had somehow seen them. I asked him why he deleted them, he said he “panicked”
We have it out and the gist of the argument is that he just doesn’t remember the night but he’s confident nothing happened. I asked why he felt the need to send that message then and he said because he was anxious and wanted to be sure
. (I want to clarify that I am pretty certain he didn’t sleep with this girl because he went home on a separate journey with his friends and she took a different route- something im 99% sure of)
I believe that he most likely kissed her or was being inappropriate with her and he knows it but he isn’t being honest with me. I decided to ask him another question which I knew the answer to (was she at an event he attended a few months ago?), he responded “I don’t know… I didn’t see her if she was” despite the fact they are in a tagged photo together on his profile. I didn’t challenge him on this because the fact I’d caught him out on another lie was very hurtful and at this point I’d become very emotionally drained from the whole thing.
He validated my upset and my concerns and told me I had every right to be so upset about this and he knows he has fucked up by not being honest about the night to begin with. But he continuously maintains the fact that he has no memory but somehow is also confident that nothing inappropriate happened but he was so overly anxious he just wanted to be sure.
I don’t really know where to go from here. He has proven himself to be a liar (something I didn’t know he was) but I don’t know if he is just lying because he doesn’t want to make the situation worse/lose me, so is trying to cover up the severity. He told me he only wants me and he hates himself for even getting in to this situation, he loves me with all his heart etc etc.
He has also said he’s going to stop drinking alcohol so he doesn’t find himself in this situation again. He has cried basically the entire weekend and I do genuinely believe he is sorry and feels guilty. I don’t know if I should just save myself from being with a liar and potential cheater (seems very likely he has cheated in some capacity) or give him another chance over a drunken mistake he seems to be really cut up about?
TL/DR: boyfriend texted a girl the morning after a drunken night out apologising for his behaviour. he has since told several lies and not been honest on multiple occasions. sounds like he cheated in some way. he thinks he has a drinking problem and has sworn he will not drink any more so he doesn’t find himself in this situation again.
Turns out the pain I had been periodically experiencing some weeks since being on 10mg, which I had assumed was just trapped wind, was gallstones all along. Made the mistake of dosing yesterday morning (I usually do it at night but had to stay away from home the night before) and had a McDonald’s burger and diet coke within 2 hours of the jab as I was out and needed to grab something quick. What a mistake. Never again !
THE PAIN. I had never experienced stomach pain like it. I vomited twice and was up all night in floods of tears with excruciating abdominal pain radiating up to my back/shoulders. Was ready to go in to A&E until the pain suddenly disappeared and now I feel okay.
Just putting this here as warning/advice so no one makes the same mistake I did!! Please be careful with what you eat on this jab because some of these side effects can be absolutely deadly. I never want to go through that ever again😪
Closed off after 1 week, ‘I love you’ after 2.5 weeks …. get this crap offffff my screen😭 deeply unserious
28F, Been suffering with this for years. Never been able to have sex. Finally took the plunge and have paid to get Botox done and am getting the procedure next week.
Have read through a few posts on here but just wondering if anyone who has had any experience with Botox for vaginismus would like to share their story, how the process went, if it “cured you” how long etc etc. I’m feeling nervous!