u/DragonflyBetter8393

What advice do you give?

I’ve been with my boyfriend (I’m 20M, and this is my first relationship) for 2 months now.
When I first started talking to him, I explained that I wasn’t out and probably wouldn’t be able to come out to my friends or family until after college. My entire family is extremely religious, and I rely on them for emotional and financial support. He said he was okay with that.
I’m okay with him telling his own friends and family about me. I’ve already met his family and everything.
I only have a couple of friends on campus, some of whom were already friendly with him. One day, while hanging out with them, he mentioned that he had a boyfriend but wouldn’t say who it was. I know he has the right to tell people he’s in a relationship, but ever since then, these two friends of mine have constantly been trying to figure out who it is and keep asking him about it.
I don’t really know how to feel, because it feels like he indirectly outed me by posting me on Instagram and not making it very hard for them to figure it out. They’ve both repeatedly told him they know it’s me. I know it probably sounds selfish, but I’m just not ready, and I’ve told him that before. He says he understands, but he still did it.
I hate the feeling of people viewing me differently, and everything just feels messy now that my relationship is mixing into our friend circles. I also keep thinking about what happens if things don’t work out.

I’ve been with my boyfriend (I’m 20M, and this is my first relationship) for 2 months now.
When I first started talking to him, I explained that I wasn’t out and probably wouldn’t be able to come out to my friends or family until after college. My entire family is extremely religious, and I rely on them for emotional and financial support. He said he was okay with that.
I’m okay with him telling his own friends and family about me. I’ve already met his family and everything.
I only have a couple of friends on campus, some of whom were already friendly with him. One day, while hanging out with them, he mentioned that he had a boyfriend but wouldn’t say who it was. I know he has the right to tell people he’s in a relationship, but ever since then, these two friends of mine have constantly been trying to figure out who it is and keep asking him about it.
I don’t really know how to feel, because it feels like he indirectly outed me by posting me on Instagram and not making it very hard for them to figure it out. They’ve both repeatedly told him they know it’s me. I know it probably sounds selfish, but I’m just not ready, and I’ve told him that before. He says he understands, but he still did it.
I hate the feeling of people viewing me differently, and everything just feels messy now that my relationship is mixing into our friend circles. I also keep thinking about what happens if things don’t work out.

I’ve been with my boyfriend (I’m 20M, and this is my first relationship) for 2 months now.
When I first started talking to him, I explained that I wasn’t out and probably wouldn’t be able to come out to my friends or family until after college. My entire family is extremely religious, and I rely on them for emotional and financial support. He said he was okay with that.
I’m okay with him telling his own friends and family about me. I’ve already met his family and everything.
I only have a couple of friends on campus, some of whom were already friendly with him. One day, while hanging out with them, he mentioned that he had a boyfriend but wouldn’t say who it was. I know he has the right to tell people he’s in a relationship, but ever since then, these two friends of mine have constantly been trying to figure out who it is and keep asking him about it.
I don’t really know how to feel, because it feels like he indirectly outed me by posting me on Instagram and not making it very hard for them to figure it out. They’ve both repeatedly told him they know it’s me. I know it probably sounds selfish, but I’m just not ready, and I’ve told him that before. He says he understands, but he still did it.
I hate the feeling of people viewing me differently, and everything just feels messy now that my relationship is mixing into our friend circles. I also keep thinking about what happens if things don’t work out.

I’ve been with my boyfriend (I’m 20M and first relationship) for 2 months now.

When i first started talking to him, I said how I was not out, and probably wouldn’t be able to come out to my friends or family until after college. As my ENTIRE family is extremely religious, and I rely on them for support and financial dependencies. He was ok with this.

I’m ok with the him telling his friends and family I don’t know. Like if already met his family and stuff.

I only have a couple friends on campus, some of them who were already friendly with them. One day he told me when he was hanging out with them he said he had a boyfriend but couldn’t say who. I know he has the right as my boyfriend to tell people, but now these two friends of mine have been constantly looking for who it is and asking to no end.

I don’t know how to feel, as he had indirectly kinda outted me by posting me on isnstagram and not making it hard for them to find out, as they have both repeatedly said they know it’s me to him. I know it’s selfish of me but I’m just not ready, which I’ve told him and he’s ok with, but he still did it , I hate the feeling of people viewing me differently, and it just seems so messy with my relationship getting into our friend circles, like what if things don’t work out