22M, I’m tired of pretending that I’m completely okay
Hey, it’s been two years since I last talked to her.
But the one thing I remember clearly is when she said, “You don’t have a life, fucker” and “I’m not your fucking place to go.” Those words have been stuck in my head. I didn’t reply. I honestly didn’t know what to say.
I haven’t seen her or texted her in all this time, but she still appears in my dreams, and I feel completely helpless. I’ve tried everything, but I just can’t seem to let it go.
Today, I got a Snapchat memory from five years ago. She had put up a caption, and back then, I genuinely thought it was meant for me. But when I saw it again today, something clicked. Maybe it was never meant for me.
She used to tell me, “I love you. It feels extraordinary when I’m with you,” but later she said there was nothing between us. I felt used, I guess. But even then, I can’t blame her or say anything bad about her to anyone. I just can’t.
I still love her, yaar. I really do. But I know there’s nothing I can do about it.
Call me a crazy lover, I don’t care. I felt what I felt, and it was real to me. I never lusted after her. What I felt was pure—the purest form of love I’ve ever experienced.It was really simple for her to say those things. Or maybe I just loved her too much and she got bored, I don’t know.
We were never actually in a relationship because she wasn’t ready, and I genuinely respected that and kept it in my mind. Nowadays, I guess people would call what we had a “situationship.”
Or maybe somewhere I was wrong. Maybe I didn’t understand her properly. I honestly don’t know anymore. I’m just too lost.
Because of all this, I used my best friend to move on—not physically, but mentally, I guess. And now we’re apart. That’s probably my biggest regret. I lost my best friend because of all this. We had been friends for 10–11 years, and I lost that friendship.
I feel helpless, even though I don’t show it to anyone.
And I don’t think I can get into a relationship with someone else right now either, because it wouldn’t be fair to my future partner. If I’m still emotionally stuck somewhere else, I won’t be able to give her the love and attention she deserves. I would only end up hurting her, and I don’t want to do that.