u/DruidElfStar

I am currently in one of the most hostile work environments I have been in. In the beginning I was praised as this wonderful great employee, then it shifted quickly.

I’ve only been here for 3 months (on the dot today) and I have had rumors spread about me, told I don’t do anything, my boss has removed duties from me and refuses to give me clarification when I ask, she isolated me and put my office away from everyone else, I’ve been yelled at by multiple team members, I’ve been shoulder checked, told to do overtime without paperwork or written confirmation as I was told upon hire by my boss and HR that overtime is not an option, and my team is now acting like I’m not there.

I’m trying to get out, but jobs take their time. I am very worried about things escalating and my team setting me up or something as they were discussing with my boss about me getting fired.

I have never had my work ethic questioned anywhere before. I inherited years of backlog, I’ve been keeping things up to date from when I started, but somehow I am still treated very poorly.

Any advice?

I will be 28 in a couple days and the past few years I feel like I only run into people 34+, especially in work. What are all the people my age doing?

I also feel lost at my age. I’m in the process of trying to pivot careers, find another job because my current job is super toxic, and starting from a clean slate in a new city with no friends or family.

Okay so I posted this a few days ago, but things have gotten worse. I work in an understaffed, horribly managed job. I have been doing alot of work and my job has alot of backlog from years ago. I am now being blamed for it although dates do not match up. I’ve only been in this job 3 months (just now hitting 3 months).

My boss does not have my back. 1:1 she’ll say I’m doing great work, but in front of the team she acts like I don’t do anything and mentions that I could be fired. My team is against me and the person I work with who does the same duties as me does my work or takes credit for my work.

Right now it looks like I don’t do anything and no one is listening to me or backing me up. I am trying to find another job, but I am struggling and the processes are very slow. I’m worried they are going to fire me and I don’t know what to do. This place is very toxic. I want to leave, but I have no safety net and no financial cushion. I just came out of homelessness 2 months ago.

I just need advice on how to handle this until I can hopefully get another job. Please help.

I have had trouble finding Black community since I moved to the west coast. I grew up having Black friends easily in the south, but ever since I moved to the west coast, I felt like the Black folks here do not like me.

They don’t speak to me when I say hi, just mean mug. At my current job that is happening and they act like I don’t exist. Some of the Black women leadership I’ve had were rude and unsupportive. It sucks with my current job because this is the most diverse job I’ve had.

Idk it’s just very discouraging not being able to connect with Black folks at all like I did growing up. It feels like I can’t have Black friends, but I kinda need at least one. I am feeling very discouraged.

I got a job in February of this year. I was originally rejected, but then they called me a couple weeks later asking me if I want the position because it was vacant again (red flag 1-3). I took the job because I was homeless and jobless.

Well it is an extremely toxic and almost hostile environment. Everyone is mean and rude, they yell at each other and people are starting to yell at me, I have been told I’ve done things I did not, there is years long backlog, very poor communication, my boss is not consistent about my duties and she ignores me and dismisses my clarifications around work duties, I have had staff shoulder check me, I mean it is so much horrible stuff.

I am actively trying to leave. This job has had a check in almost every month to see if I want to stay. I have never had a job check in that much. I don’t know what to do. I want to leave as soon as possible because my anxiety is through the roof. My work ethic has never been questioned until I got here, but alot of work isn’t being done.

What can I do y’all? What are some options for me to find work somewhat quickly? I’m applying for other jobs, I will probably go back to school eventually. I was going to do a Dental Assistant program, but that takes 3 months to complete.

Hello, I wanted to post this somewhere pet related. I’m sorry if this is the wrong sub. Am I in the wrong?

I am a new pet owner. I am almost 28 and have never had a pet before. Now that I’m out and on my own, I was hoping to adopt a cat or dog. I would love companionship as I am in a very lonely time of life right now.

Well I tried a local animal shelter. There’s alot of things I did not know like the local ordinance on pet limits. My roommate/ landlord has 2 dogs, a cat, and a turtle. I was totally upfront about that to the shelter. Well they started being weird with me and long story short it seems they thought I was abusing animals although they let me adopt the dog I was looking at.

No one seemed to believe I was a first time pet owner or that the other animals were my roommates. I was on my phone at one point waiting and a staff member stood behind me and watched my phone. They held my ID the entire time I was there. They were very rude and accusatory and were essentially yelling our entire conversation. I told them if I can’t adopt then it’s fine, I can just leave, then they told me “NO! It should be fine”. One staff member mentioned sending animal control to my area.

I ended up cancelling the pick up because I did my own research on the ordinance and didn’t want to get in trouble. I had literally no idea about it and as someone who would be a first time pet owner, I am severely disappointed in my experience, but I feel bad like maybe I should have known that? I was hoping someone would guide me, but maybe I was wrong to think that?

I did some more digging on the shelter and apparently it has horrible staff turnover and has been known to give dogs to abusive homes/ not fully disclose animal behavior to adopters.

I feel really terrible from my experience and that the whole staff really believes I’m an abusive pet owner when I never even had one in life. It makes me feel like I should never have a pet.