u/Dry_Bat9385

Nakakatawa talaga yung nanay ko na ang pwede lang niyang irebat sa discussion namin is : "Nanay mo pa din ako" or "Utang mo sakin ang buhay mo".

For context my mom is a stay at home wife who barely had any contribution in my upbringing. Nag-co-co-exist lang kami but I would say na I got by because of the help from my kind tito and titas.

Maraming kabulastugan na nagawa ang nanay ko over the past 26 years of my life, here are a few examples:

1. Nagalit dahil hindi ko pinrioritize na bigyan siya ng pambayad ng utang pagkakuha ko ng scholarship money ko right before my last semester in college. I explained na sakto lang yung scholarship money ko for my tuition and graduation fees pero nagalit pa din. Di na lang siya natuwa na naka-graduate ako kahit wala siyang inambag.

2. Pinalayas ako sa bahay nila dahil pinagtanggol ko yung tita kong nagpalaki sakin from her sister-in-law na naninira sa kanya sa harap ko. Hindi daw nya gusto akong palayasin but since nag-eenjoy sila na binubuhay sila ng sister-in-law nya wala daw siyang magagawa.

3. I came out to her as gay pero pinigilan nya kong mag-come out sa stepfather ko. Because guess what? Mas natatakot siya sa sasabihin niya kesa sa nararamdaman ko.

Ngayon nagtataka siya bakit daw ang layo ng loob ko sa kanya? There was a time na nangako ako na iaahon ko siya sa kahirapan. Kaso nadevelop front lobe ko and I realized that she was the problem. Nire-ragebait ko na lang siya sa chat na kesyo pano niya nasabi sakin na utang na loob kong magbigay ng pera sa kanya porket dumaan ako sa ekup niya? Sinabihan pa nya ako na kahit ibigay ko buong sahod ko sa kanya buong buhay ko di yun sapat sa mga non-existent na sakripisyo nya. Pati tita ko na nananahimik who I dearly love dinadamay pa sa usapan na kesyo bakit daw ako mas close sa kanya e siya ang nanay ko?

I already grieved my mom a long time ago. I realized na kahit anong gawin ko hindi ko na mababago ang mindset niya. It's eary how I am just calm and collected na nakikipagsagutan sa kanya sa chat over some stupid shit that she is saying. Hindi na ako apektado sa mga pagpapa-awa niya. Sinabihan ko pa siya na tigilan niya ang pagpapadaan ng messages niya about sa pera sa ibang mga kamag-anak namin dahil kahit si Jesus pa kumausap sakin same lang din isasagot ko compared sa kung siya mismo magsabi sakin.

I am now 26. I have decided to find my chosen family and keep an open arm to people who can become important in my life. Lately I make concious effort to socialize with people kahit sa mga group chats lang with random people. Mahigpit na yakap na lang talaga para satin na hindi na-blessed ng mga matinong magulang.

Today tamad akong magluto ng baon so I bought a 1 pc Dokito Chicken sa Andok's. While waiting for a passenger jeepney, a dog booped my hand and smelled my chicken.

At first iniwas ko yung plastic bag containing the chicken away from the doggo. I thought: "Sorry pero baon ko kasi to". The dog understood that I did not want to give my chicken and laid down the sidewalk right next to me.

5 minutes passed and the doggo was still right there with me. I realized how far I have come in life. Hindi ko na pinanghihinayangan ang 80 pesos worth of MoveIt just to get to work. I live in my own apartment now with the AC blasting for as long as I want. I have a career that doesn't suck the life out of me.

Then it hit me. If I am not getting any kinder as I move up in life, then what's the point? If I don't learn how to share to people/animals the things that I have in excess. Then am I really happy with who I am?

I took out the chicken in the plastic bag and slowly put it down the sidewalk. The dog smelled it but seems to not register it as food. He then smelled the plastic bag again thinking that the food was still inside.

The dog might have had a hard life that he doesn't know what a fried chicken is. Can you imagine living like that? I picked the chicken back up from the floor of the sidewalk and let the dog smell it. He then realized na yun yung laman ng plastic that he kept asking for.

As the jeep I was going to ride to approaches, he slowly tear down the chicken and ate.

I cried while I was in the jeep.

The 75 pesos that I gave away that night might have been nothing to me, but to that dog. It might have been what allowed him/her to survive another day.

After that, I promised myself to work harder to be able to afford a bigger apartment so that I can adopt a pet.

"If you weren't here, I would probably eat like a dog".

That's what I said to my bf after talking about an issue we had a few moments ago while he was staying at my apartment for about a week. I told him that I have been cooking the same three meals for the past three months because just thinking about what to eat exhausts me. I like those three meals but I know that I wouldn't be able to feed it to him since we have varying taste.

If I had a choice I would just eat like a dog and continue eating the same meals that I enjoy everyday just so I can allocate more decision making power to other areas of my life. But I wanted to make an effort since he is visiting me so I decided to prepare food that I would say too much work to do.

All those times that I have been going to the market sourcing the ingredients and adjusting my budget to accommodate the additional food expenses took toll on me. I didn't realize how little change my routine can tolerate. My friends have been telling me to get checked out because they are pretty sure that I probably have ADHD but I am honestly exhausted. I spent so much effort trying to be physically healthy considering my circumstances just a few years ago when I was broke and eating unhealthy cheap food just to survive.

I would probably still eat those same three meals that I have been eating for these past few months lol. All of them have beans, my new hyper fixation. What happened between me and my bf has opened my eyes. Some of my relationships would probably not survive have I not been regulating myself properly. Either I have ADHD or what I kinda need to have the courage to face the reality that while my physical body is in a good condition, my mental state is starting to take toll. I hope that I can get the help that I need in the next following months.

Problem/Goal: I am not sure if my AC is working properly

Context: I live in a 16qm studio apartment located at the top floor with a glass window facing east. I installed a TCL UB2 1.5hp window type thinking that it's enough to cool my room. I use the AC around 5am to 4pm since I am a nightshift worker and I noticed that most of the cooling happens only in the part where the AC is directly facing. Also, I hired a professional installation service. They are accredited service provider of TCL. The model has 3 vents both left, right and at it's top. For some reason the AC slot that my landlord built has a roof. I asked the installer if the AC not having enough space at top for the vent might affect the performance, but my guy said it's alright.

Previous Attempts: Currently experimenting with covering the windows and adding insulation. Maybe getting an air circulator in the future.

Need help, looking for 1.5 hp compact window inverter AC. Lumipat ako sa unit na to kasi nakita ko yung AC slot. I was planning to buy AC but was too naive to not take into account yung size ng butas ng AC slot. I was shook when I realized na magkakaiba sizes ng AC and some are double the size of others.

Length = 50cm

Height = 34cm

Width = 49cm

Now I opened up to the landlord about this but he seems hesitant to widen the AC hole.

I saw Midea Qube might fit into this but was wondering if there are other options?

Hi guys! Just passed the final interview for an analyst position in Vertiv. Can you guys share some insights or reviews of the culture and such? Thanks!

Hi guys, hoping you can help me find residence in Pasig! I'm currently eyeing Bagong Ilog and will do some occular visits there to get a feel of the area. Please feel free to suggest places where I can find apartments that are near Ortigas or Megamall.

Details:

-Budget is 5-8k

-Male 25, No pets

-WFH setup Nightshift

Nice to have:

-Aircon slot or an existing aircon they are willing to rent out

-Own Meter

Target Move in Date : 2nd week of May