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I’m not particularly religious (despite being baptized and confirmed Methodist) but I have this need to feel like my husband’s energy/soul is somehow around. Maybe he’s zooming around the cosmos or making the chimes on the front porch chime even when there’s no wind. He left this world November 2025 but I’d like to think he might come around to bug us.

Side note: right after he had passed I was subjected to many weird and random youtube shorts as if he was trying to tell me something. Even our adult kid said this was happening. We don’t get those anymore, though I kept a running list of them. For context, he had taken his own life in the UK and no one who knew the details wanted to tell me how he died (we live in the US). However these weird and random shorts told us exactly how he died. 😔 So when my mother in law warned me about the coroner report I told her I already knew what it would say. She was surprised/shocked that we knew though no one told us. Also I didn’t go googling ways people die or anything like that, which affects the videos I might see.

And I still see 111 and 1111 all the time. He was a busybody and liked to give his opinion about Everything. I feel like he still wants to say something sometimes.

Does anyone else hope or feel like their spouse’s spirit is lingering on the front porch or maybe zipping around the cosmos?

So I grew up in LA. Went to Disneyland often. Anyway I’m pretty sure it was 1986 when this happened. While on the haunted mansion ride, a cast member dressed in full knight armor jumped out at our buggy in the area with the hallways (towards the beginning of the ride). My friend and I were both 16 and with our all girl club from high school. After the ride we talked with our friends and apparently it only happened to us. My best friend and I were confused and a little freaked out about it.

Probably by today’s standards of fandom, people would say we were extremely lucky to have that happen.

I just looked it up and there’s a seven year old post about it in this same sub. However, no one chimed in saying it happened to them it was just an informational post.

Currently sitting in the waiting room of an auto repair shop. Getting the oil changed on his car. The first nice car he ever had. Bought it April 2025. I’m trying to take care of it. If he were around I know he’d appreciate it. It’s been 235 days since he left this world. I thought I was over public weeping. Geez I gotta get it together.

Last year was my first time attending so we only went on Sunday (because as you know only Thursday and Sunday were left for us noobs). So, we never ventured past the exhibition hall (aka shopping).

This year we have Saturday and Sunday. Yeah!

What do you guys do first? Do you study the schedule and have things all planned out? Do you just wander around and people watch? How early to get in line for panels? Are you off shopping in the exhibition hall?

I know my people really just want to shop. Do you stick with your people or just meet them throughout the day?

The biggest con I’ve been to (besides sdcc) was Supercon in Miami. We just stuck together and we wandered from room to room, no waiting in lines. Supercon was big but I feel like it’s a drop in the bucket compared to sdcc.

All advice appreciated! Thanks!

Last year was my first time attending so we only went on Sunday (because as you know only Thursday and Sunday were left for us noobs). So, we never ventured past the exhibition hall (aka shopping).

This year we have Saturday and Sunday. Yeah!

What do you guys do first? Do you study the schedule and have things all planned out? Do you just wander around and people watch? How early to get in line for panels? Are you off shopping in the exhibition hall?

I know my people really just want to shop. Do you stick with your people or just meet them throughout the day?

The biggest con I’ve been to (besides sdcc) was Supercon in Miami. We just stuck together and we wandered from room to room, no waiting in lines. Supercon was big but I feel like it’s a drop in the bucket compared to sdcc.

All advice appreciated! Thanks!

Hello, my dog Gobi (rhymes with ‘hobby’) who will be 4 years old next week is suddenly afraid of the porch/front yard. She and I have a routine of sitting on the front porch every morning, but since the fireworks on the 4th, she begs to be let back into the house. She is afraid.

We have had her since she was 5weeks old. She was abandoned in a shopping cart in front of a grocery store. She is almost always with someone in the house, apart from Saturdays when she is alone for about 4.5 hours during daylight hours. I take her for a walk every morning so she is familiar with our neighborhood.

She is pug/german shepherd. I know, I know, what a weird combination. (She looks like a tan shepherd puppy with a curly tail lol). She is friendly but barks at passersby like she’s going to harm them. Gobi is a car chaser and barks at cars too. She was always ready to defend our property but not anymore.

I don’t want her to be afraid of the front porch area. Help!

Our 23 year old kid (adult obviously) had a really hard time on Sunday. It was their first Father’s day since my husband left this world. I’ve suggested therapy but received no clear answer about wanting to do that. Did your children receive therapy specifically to talk about their parent passing? How did it go? Thanks in advance!

I just realized I do this and wonder if you all do it too. My husband left this world November 29 of last year. Every time I see a date for something (teeth cleaning appointment, change water filter for example) I think of it in terms of before November 29 or after. Today I was going to download an audio book I have listened to already. Last listened to October 5th according to the app. My first thought was, Oh about 7 weeks before he died. And then my mind wanders, especially if it was close to the day he passed.

It’s hard to say this but he took his own life and did it while in another country visiting his family. We were separated but friendly - we talked to each other at least a few times a week. I even spoke with him the day before he left this world and he seemed ok. So sad.

Please don’t shy away from commenting because of the way he died. I’m just wanting to know about the date thing. Thanks.

I have a friend (age 28) on the spectrum who will not use a public bathroom no matter how nice it is. We have driven 1.5 hours from our hometown (one way) for shopping. She has never told me but another mutual friend shared this info with me. Do I even bring it up? Should I never invite them to far away places? i have a feeling that a hotel bathroom is also a no go. And it couldn’t have always been this way because I know they went to amusement parks as a child. Insight, ideas, commentary- all is welcome. thanks

Well I have three cars and there’s only one driver (me) in the household. The two I don’t drive have dead batteries. He would have taken care of this. The yard needs the weed killer sprayed. I have beware of dog/no trespassing signs that need to go on the house. I think I bought the right screws for the stucco wall but idk. I’m not useless but these are not things in my wheelhouse. (I can cook, bake, clean, mend things) And though I know our neighbors by name, almost no one knows my husband is no longer in this world. (he passed in the UK) I feel like everyone knowing could possibly create a dangerous situation (home invasion, theft) since it’s just me and our adult child in the household now. I guess I watch too much true crime. My one close neighbor friend said she would send her husband over to help with the cars. It’s sweet of her to offer but I know he is Very busy and I don't want to bother him. Anyone else having these issues? I don’t really need suggestions to ”fix” my problems. I guess l’m hoping for a little verbal support and commiseration.

Well it’s been 164 days since my husband left this world. Just recently, I realized that I have been almost only thinking of him at his very best moments. I have somehow smoothed over the rough edges of his personality. I’m thinking it’s a common thing to do but it’s maybe not a helpful thing to do. Like he is a revered soul, an angel. Most times that’s how I feel, but not always. I mean he wasn’t necessarily a bad guy, just very opinionated and shared his opinions with anyone who listened (this got him in trouble on occasion). And sometimes he did disappointing things that were not exactly good for the well being of our family.

I mean I feel guilty for even writing ill of the dead. Everyone else here seems to talk so glowingly about their lost person, so maybe none of you can understand. I know I also speak highly about him too but he certainly was not perfect.

I have a memorized recipe for banana bread. I used to make three little loaves, one for each of us in our family (we have one kid). Mine has pecans, the kid’s is plain and my husband has chocolate chips. Well there was an old banana so I decided to make my recipe. You see where this is going don’t you? I ended up making them all plain and I can’t believe I feel terrible about banana bread. guess I need to get new recipes that he had no connection to. That doesn’t work either because I would think “Oh he would have loved these cookies.” I can’t win.

i can’t tell anyone else this stuff because it just makes things sad and awkward. btw it would be our 27th anniversary today, May 8th. It’s been 161 days since he left this world. I’m rambling. Feel free to ramble back. It’s 1:26am my time. Sleep and I aren’t friends recently.

Do you have weird little things that remind you of your person?