u/Eastern-Climate2405

We always hear things like "we are feminists and we do care about men's issues! Quit lying about us!"

But then you look at most feminist groups and members and they are one of two things

1- the vast majority who simply don't care and are aware that feminism is a women-centered movement since day 1

2- feminists who do care, but their way of caring is done more out of wanting to increase their own ego about how their gender is so superior to yours, rather than actual sympathy and compassion towards troubled men.

"Let's fix toxic masculinity" as in "oh, you stupid losers. You deserve everything coming at you and it is all your own fault, but look at me, so compassionate and empathetic that I would like to help you due to my immense generosity despite you deserving all the bad things in your life" (read about the inherent hyper/hypo-agency semantic differences between "toxic masculinity" and "internalized misogyny")

Oh, you are heartbroken because you got rejected or broken up with or feeling lonely in general? Let me help you with that

But first, say it with me. 1.. 2.. 3.. go! Women don't owe me anything! Women don't owe me anything! Women don't owe me anything! I respect my ex's choice to leave me! I respect my ex's choice to leave me! I respect women's choices to reject me! I respect women's choices to reject me! (It sounds funnier when you imagine it as some fitness coach jumping up and down while teaching her male student to jump and say those things with her)

All their "care" is gynocentric in essence and is mentally modelled around how it should benefit women (a healthy man won't rape a woman, a successfully moving-on man won't assault his crush or ex) rather than how it should benefit the men they claim to care about.

They have to humiliate you first before the "help" part starts.

What are some arguments against the oppressor-oppressed model, especially as used by feminists?

The oppressor-oppressed model is a model that puts different groups of people into two opposing categories: oppressor and oppressed.

The oppressors are privileged and powerful, and dominate, exploit, and oppress the oppressed. They make the rules, and make the rules for their benefit, and at the cost of the oppressed.

The oppressor-oppressed model was originally used in Marxism, and applied it to classes. However, Critical Theory and other theorists expanded it to other groups of people, such as identity groups. Critical theorists started using it in this way in the 1930s.

This article explores sexual victimization by women, and also some of the reasons why people vastly underestimate how common it is.

Lara Stemple's research as well as studies by the CDC and other studies illuminate the issue.

Given that in many territories now, stealthing* is considered rape. Should a woman lying about her fertility status or lying whether is on the pill be considered a form of stealthing and similarly illegal on the same level?.

*Stealthing, defined as a man lying about using a condom or intentionally damaging a condom before sex.