When I saw posts or comments like these, I've been saving them to a separate folder in my bookmarks, and now I've decided to make a compilation to show that hate speech against men causes real harm.
Sources of screenshots — in comments.
The patriarchy is a power structure and like all power structures fundamental rely on balance between freedom and security. Historically women have benefited from increased security and men have benefited from increased freedom. The historical reason for the roles ending up this way is mostly to do with how each gender views risk and the value society places on people of that gender, a woman’s life traditionally being more valuable because of the ability to raise and nurture children. This rigid structure was and still is appealing to a lot of women because it not only gives a clear sense of purpose and an easy way for a lot of woman to feel like they are doing there role to better society but also that security that the patriarchy offers is very enticing to young women who live in such uncertain times. The patriarchy is and always has been a compromise between men and women that both sides agreed to and continue to uphold either because of familiarity or because of a fear of the unknown.
This was reposted by a real estate company urging women to buy plots/houses. Can we agree that the society has vilified men so much that they've become everyone's punching bag?
Why is empowering women primarily framed around gaining financial independence just in case marriage fails but empowering men is focused on leaving a legacy and inheritance for your wife and kids, in case something happens?
Men are even taught to have enough safeguards to protect their wives from their own kinsmen in case anything happens to them but women are continuously being told to achieve financial independence solely because 'your husband might leave'.
Attend men's spaces and seminars and you will find that the discussions are vastly different from what women discuss. Not once have I sat with men and heard them suggest siphoning money away from marriage to save for hidden assets. Not once have I heard men being fed marriage insecurity with phrases like 'she might leave at any time'. Instead, men are told that if that happens they need to get up, work on their frame, make more money and move on.
Meanwhile, in MOST women's seminars, attendees are told to conceal their income and secretly amass wealth just in case the husband leaves. But what happens to those assets if he stays? I don't ever recall hearing someone advice women to build wealth just in case the husband gets incapacitated. The reasoning is always rooted in the assumption that he might do something bad.
As a result, even well-meaning women enter marriage with a lot of insecurity unsure of their partner or their shared future. Not only does this lead to mistrust it also undermines the couple's collective financial potential since one partner actively saves independently for a rainy day.
I'm not oblivious to the fact that men have their own flaws in marriage. They have quite a list which includes adding to the number of side chicks and that is a discussion for another day.
When men gain more wealth, all they think about is building an even better house for the family, buying the wife a nice car and taking the kids to a better school. Most men will even build a better house for their in-laws.
When women gain more money they want to acquire more concealed assets rather than spend more on the husband and kids. I know some women who even refused to pay secondary school fees for their kids after their husbands lost their jobs yet they kept acquiring plots in secret.
The people telling you "siwezi someshea mwanaume watoto" will be the same people asking you to send your daughter to them as a house girl so that they can exploit her instead of empowering her.
My last shot...money in a marriage has a way of diminishing or magnifying trust...it just depends on how the two of you play it.
UK is introducing an entire curiculum to teach boys only to respect girls and women, someone suggested they also bring this education for the girls too (ya know, equality) and the comment section melts down because how dare a man call for equality.
Sure, this subreddit has been quite... Absent recently, although, I will reassure all my members that this community will continue! Men are targets of SA as well, men are stereotyped to hide emotions compared to sharing emotion, and men are definitely the targets of prejudice. Some might say that the men pointing this out after feminism began are just the few men trying to grab attention but guess what! Men also had problems just like men and if you didn't know the statement feminism is for everyone doesn't actually work in practice because it's specifically focusing on women's rights to the point they kept on accidentally taking some of the men's rights while protesting which are actually fair! So this community is needed until the equality for men is in movement as well!
If you want to support this movement, go ahead! Feminism is about helping women's rights while masculinism is about helping men's rights, together the world can obtain equality, so I do suggest helping this community grow.
So i just saw a video from a subreddit and I saw the comments there dissing the OP for it and telling them that young men are privileged and i was like: IN WHAT WAY ARE THEY PRIVILEGED???
so I kept reading the thread and I was flabbergasted by the amount of stupidity and coping that they had to do to believe that there was also another post that was the exact same as was in the last subreddit and I saw one comment and it was it was even worse than the last there was one person (whom was a parent) posted a comment that asks if the left care for people like him who are just trying to get by and try paying child support and helping another man out but it got met with downvotes and snarky and condescending comments from the leftists yiu know those who are there to help the little guy.
While the right just weaponize it just for their own political gain.
But that's just my thesis/vent.
>!That's al for today folks!!<
Not criticising women, nor men, and not all men and women are bad, in fact most are good. But there are some very disturbing issues the governments are creating that’s shaping the future in the wrong direction….
Why do we not have UN for men, but we do for women?
Why did UN take a 14 year old international men’s day and turn it into national toilet day?
Please take a look at the video and page I made on the topic; https://youtu.be/mrF0uWVLCNk?is=mpe_ddlSdPBznMAr
https://vm.tiktok.com/ZN88jv273/
Edit 2
Since everyone kept asking for sources, I spent the last day building the whole argument into one page:
Every number on it is from the UN, WHO, OECD or Eurostat, and every claim links to its primary source. There's a register at the bottom listing all of them. If any number is wrong, tell me and I fix it. That's the whole point of counting.
If you're short on time: unformentoo.org/?story is the 90 second version.
And if you genuinely want to do something, it costs you 1-2 minutes: read it, tap "add your voice" (anonymous, no email, no signup, it literally just counts), and send it to one person. That's it.
Prove the title wrong.
First off I’m not denying that granting everyone equal rights and access to opportunity is a bad idea, in fact I think that doing so is only fair and is a necessary basis for the success of modern society, however, living in the US and having traveled the world and especially to Korea and Japan frequently aswell as speaking to many Russians, I have noticed that Americans are really soft people who expect way more than they can provide to the world, in other countries people don’t think they deserve nearly as much as Americans think they do, they are willing to prove their worth and work hard in order to achieve what they want, and it ends up working way better for the integrity of their societies. The fact of the matter is everybody is created differently not equal, yes you can say something like beauty is subjective but then why did Neanderthals go extinct partially due to Neanderthal men electively choosing Homo sapiens over their own, fact of the matter is that in any society there is a majority opinion of what is beautiful, of what is successful, of what is right in the world, and the more a person meets those expectations the better they provide for the world around them, some are born more beautiful than others some are born with greater ability to gain muscle some are born taller some are born smarter some are born into wealthy families with better moral compasses willing to parent their kids in a superior way to the masses, the cruel truth of this world is that meritocracy is superior, the harder you work and the more valuable you are in the eyes of your fellow man, the more you should attain, it’s only fair that an attractive and intelligent man who works hard is treated better and is given more resources and privileges overtime than someone who is unintelligent with bad aesthetics, in any society class rules, I have always been a hard worker and someone who doesn’t believe I am owed anything I don’t think anyone nor me deserves anything I think that you should do the best you possibly can no matter how hard it is and in doing so you will achieve more than the majority of those around you proportional to your value over others! A society where we give support and free handouts to derelicts and non providing members of society is simply a waste of money they will blow through the money and never learn how to become self sufficient, I think it’s time to recognize that some humans are superior and some humans are inferior, but that obviously we should allow everyone equal rights from birth so that we can figure out who is superior and valuable to society and who is inferior and is a tax on the system, and those we are less valuable should be able to be treated as such, I’m sick of being told I have to pay social security and taxes in order to help a dying system of less functional human beings than myself. The only exception here is people who are disabled, that is our of their control and it’s only right we support them because they didn’t do anything wrong, I’m just tired of all the social underclasses of under achieving people living off of the welfare state and complaining that they deserve access to our tax money to subsidize a life that doesn’t benefit the rest of us! Change my view on this, I’m a cruel meritocratic mind
I’m making this post because lately I’ve noticed more and more people, including women, distancing themselves from feminism. One of the most common reasons I hear is that feminism is supposedly no longer necessary, or that it has simply become “man-hating.”
Honestly, I don’t think that makes sense.
Feminism is not about women being better than men. It is about women and men having equal rights, opportunities and freedoms. Of course, there are people who call themselves feminists while making hateful or insulting statements about men. But that does not make hatred of men the definition of feminism. A few people behaving badly do not define an entire movement.
And unfortunately, there are still plenty of reasons why feminism matters today.
Afghanistan is one of the clearest and most devastating examples. Since the Taliban returned to power, women and girls have faced severe restrictions on education, employment, movement and participation in public life. For many girls, going to school or university is no longer something they can simply take for granted.
To me, this shows why equality should never be treated as something that can never be lost. Rights can be restricted. Progress can be reversed.
People like Malala Yousafzai show why speaking up can still matter. Malala was attacked for advocating for girls’ right to education, but she continued campaigning for that right and became one of the most internationally recognized voices for girls’ education.
Emma Watson has also used her platform to speak about gender equality. Through her work with the #HeForShe campaign, she emphasized that gender equality should not be treated as something women have to fight for alone. Men are part of this conversation too.
And that is exactly why I think calling feminism “man-hating” is such an unfair simplification.
Saying “women should have the same rights as men” is not an attack on men.
Saying “girls should be allowed to go to school” is not an attack on men.
Saying “women should be able to make decisions about their own lives” is not an attack on men.
And men supporting gender equality does not make them less masculine. A society where people are not limited by their gender is ultimately better for everyone.
I’m sharing this because I don’t want feminism to become a word people are automatically ashamed of or afraid to use. Especially among younger people, where social media can sometimes reduce feminism to the loudest and most extreme examples of it.
Feminism is not perfect. No social movement is. There are things within feminism that can and should be criticized. But criticizing parts of a movement is very different from deciding that equality itself is no longer important.
We should be able to discuss what feminism means today, what needs to change, where its limits should be and how men can be part of the conversation.
But we should also remember why feminism exists in the first place.
As long as women and girls somewhere in the world have fewer rights, fewer opportunities or less freedom simply because they are female, feminism is not “unnecessary.”
And as long as people confuse equality with hatred of men, I think we still have a lot to talk about.
Let’s talk about the unspoken rule of public transit.If a train is dangerously overcrowded and chaotic, it is recognized as a crisis for women. The government steps in, builds a Women-Only Coach, and protects their safety. This is a good thing. Nobody should be unsafe.But here is the hypocrisy: Men face the exact same hostile environment, and we get nothing.When a train is packed like a tin of sardines, men endure:Suffocating heat, crushing pressure, and physical exhaustion.High rates of pickpocketing, stolen phones, and physical aggression.Severe psychological stress—having to freeze your body in painful, awkward positions just to ensure you don't accidentally bump into someone and face a false accusation.A crushing train car doesn't care about gender. It suffocates human lungs and breaks human ribs exactly the same way.Yet, when men complain, society tells us to "be a man and tough it out."Think about how twisted that is. If someone told an unsafe woman to just "be a woman and face it," they would be universally hated. Why is a man's pain treated as a personal failure instead of a systemic failure?A government that forces half its citizens to travel like disposable cattle has failed. If authorities insist on using gender segregation to handle safety, they must do it fairly.We need an equal system: Men-Only Coaches, Women-Only Coaches, and General/Mixed Coaches for families.Men need to stop staying silent to "look tough." Our comfort, safety, and dignity matter just as much as anyone else's. It's time to stop absorbing the misery of a broken system.
Both exist and are bad. But misogyny and its consequences is objectively more common and more serious than misandry.
I think most of misandry is internet based/online (tho I agree men suffer from it in real life as well) whereas women have been more directly impacted by misogyny ~ workplace, femicide, opportunities in general.