u/Educational-Scene895

So my (19F) best friend is dating my roommate (20M) (they met through her coming over all the time during our hangouts) and a couple weeks ago she came to me (20F) asking for birth control advice as she needs to go get the morning after pill and had never done it before.

I offer her a walk 1-1 to the pharmacy up the road and on the walk I talk about doing research into the contraceptive rod (as I have it myself and can say nothing but positives about it - other than my periods inconsistent) as we get to the pharmacy she buys the morning after pill and asks the experts, they give her a pamphlet about the contraceptive rod, how it works, what’s the operation, and all the side effects that could happen. She’s reading it on the way home and asked my opinion/experiences on the side effects, and I speak my experience and she is now really keen to get it (especially as it’s free in my country till your 21).

We get home and her bf sees the pamphlet and reads into it and immediately comments on how he doesn’t like it and doesn’t want her to get it. Immediately I watch her face just drop. she refuses to do any conversation of the sort between anyone even just when I asked if she’s feeling ok on the morning after pill I got pushed away. Out of concern I go to my roommate like. “Hey sorry if I’m sticking my nose where it doesn’t belong, but why are you so against the rod?”

“I’m leaving the country in 4 months so she doesn’t need it”
“You know it works for up to 5 years right”
“Yeah. Why will she need it, I won’t be here.”
Coming off as like he has no effort to keep the relationship going after he moves which alone is setting off alarms to me.

I kinda speak the truth and ask him “do you think once you leave, if you guys don’t stay together that is, she will never have another sexual partner in the next 4 years?”
“We won’t be together. That’s why she doesn’t need it and she’s not gonna get it, now stop instigating me and f*** off.”

Because he yells at me my other roommate (M21) chimes in, and says to my face I shouldn’t be talking about birth control to a guy. Which yes admittedly I shouldn’t be asking him about his opinion on it, he’s not my bf, and so fourth i was concerned for my best friend.

But then I hear both of my roommates talk about it, and how it’s “disgusting how woman want to change their hormones so bad for so long when they can just take a pill”

This might just be because I’ve experienced a relationship were the partner was forceful on his beliefs to contraceptives. But imo no man should ever put their opinion towards woman’s birth control and their body’s.

I kinda snap and call him selfish, and that he should never put his opinion on what my best friends/his girlfriends does to her body.

Am I overreacting? Or is this genuinely just these guys being selfish and speaking on stuff they shouldn’t be speaking on???

Im planning on buying the set of the sleeping eeveelutions blind box (so i can guarantee all 9)

Now i feel they would look cute as anything all laid out on my dashboard in my car, but i live in a pretty hot country (New Zealand). Does anyone know if they are car safe - like they wont melt or stick to the car, fade/get damaged?

Image of the sleepy guys im talking about (to not be mistaken for the plushys)

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I was told by my local armory they are really good for custom playmats, so i believed them and did an order middle of April with the order telling me it will arrive may 8th. A week later i got an email saying there will be a delay for an increased amount of orders, yeah that makes sense delivery estimate will move to may 18th-27th.

On the first of may i got another "sorry for the delay" email telling me it should be here in 2 weeks, its now the 20th and ive heard nothing, not even any tracking updates.

so i reached out via support, and from the sounds of it they havent even made the playmat yet let alone started to ship it out.

I kinda needed it before the 6th of June so i could take it to the Auckland calling, but im losing hope 😞

Surely almost 2 months worth of time is enough to make and send a playmat out?

I run a pretty big Discord server, and we have come up with the idea that only some users can ping certain roles (game night ping, dead chat ping etc). We don't want everyone to have access to ping it, but we want those who aren't staff/mods to ping it without giving them access to ping everyone/here, only those roles. Is there any way around that?