Hi all, I want to go to Oktoberfest during the weekday, any girls want to from a group? I’m 20F and I only know English, I’ll be here for the whole time so any day works for me. I also have not bought a Dirndl yet so if anyone wants to go shopping I would be so down!!
if the company 80% of interns a return offer but not doing too great this year. Would it look weird if I didn’t get a return offer since they typically give them out.
Hey all, looking to do a simple hike and see some fireworks, preferably start when the sun is setting like 7:30. I see some posts about this but they’re very old, any updated recommendations? Thanks!
I really need advice and don’t know where to look. I’m having a really hard time at my internship as a neurodivergent girl.
At the start of our internship all four of the girls decided to live together even though we never met each other, bad move. But the very first day two of the other girls kind of ignored me and all they spoke about were partying, their sororities, men, and clothes/makeup. Normally I’d just try to contribute wherever I could but I’m kind of a nerd and it was getting hard and they’d just ignore me. I get uncomfortable really easily and masking is already exhausting so I just stopped talking in general. Then when we met up with the other interns I kept being quiet and it felt very uncomfortable overall. I think they also got uncomfortable with how quiet I was.
Even so, we went on a trip together and during the trip, the girls went on hinge and would just make fun of the guys and call them ugly. One guy had a picture of a cat and they said the cat was ugly too for no reason. They’d also gossip about the other guy interns calling them insecure (tbf one was). Once they thought I wasn’t home and I heard them gossiping about me in the living room. The thing is I hadn’t really done anything so they were making fun of me for saying I’d pay one of them back for cotton balls $2. Even though the girl had asked for the $2, she didn’t add that context. They also made fun of a guy for sleeping early to get 8 hours of sleep.
At night, they’d always watch some stereotypical popular show like Off Campus or Love Island and would wait for each other to start it, but not for me. Even though I’d stated that I wanted to watch it with them even if it wasn’t exactly my typical show. They’d also stay up really late and get up early, which I can’t do because it messes with my meds obviously. So I’d request them to quiet down or turn whatever they were watching down, and they’d say yes but never do it. Or they’d do it and I’d go inside my room and they’d turn it back up and keep talking. I also had to take a room that wasn’t a typical “bed room”, just a room with a sofa bed and no closet. This one was on me as I should’ve never agreed to take it, or let them put it on me. But it was right next to the living room and Kitchen so I’d always hear everything. I agreed to it because earlier before moving in, we agreed to me paying less for it. But they stated that they wanted me to now pay the same rent as them. I let them know I was thinking on moving out, because if I’m paying more I might as well pay more for a new room, and they said okay it was fine with them.
This is also affecting my internship and I was performing really bad, people would give me feedback saying I was speaking too quietly and kept using filler and sounding disoriented (because I was). So I let the intern roommates know and they again just ignored me. One just said she was sorry about that and hoped things got better, which confused me because I was critiquing their behavior?? I was also reliant on them for carpooling (again bad move on my part) and they repeatedly left me at work to go somewhere else. They didn’t start caring until I told the other employees at work because that made them look bad.
There was this time I couldn’t sleep for two whole days because of the stress (I have insomnia too) and I let them know that I very tired. At night I cooked dinner but I was too tired to eat it so I told them I was going to sleep. I didn’t do my dishes because I hadn’t even ate! The next morning they started banging on my door and told me they wanted to talk about me wanting to move out. We had an argument because one of them didn’t want to pay the extra rent. The thing is that the rent was really low because it was technically a three person house, I just want sleeping in a bedroom. One of them insulted me saying I couldn’t even clean the dishes - how would I clean my room, and said moving out was a dick move. I sent the recording to my mom and she told me that I should move out asap. So, when they were out hanging out and drinking the next night, I did. They texted me saying I needed to sign a contract saying I’d pay the rent as well, but luckily I had evidence of them saying they’d agree to pay it. Eventually they did agree again.
A ton of other things happened but I don’t want this post to be too long so I just put the main issues.
Now, I don’t care about my friendship or whatever with them, but the issue is what it did for my internship. My first couple weeks were very bad because I had memory issues and hallucinations from the not sleeping. This made me behind in my projects and I had a very bad first impression on people. I literally fell asleep at my desk and the MANAGER woke me up and said this ain’t a good time to sleep. How do I fix this, what do I even do?? I’m almost certain I won’t get a return offer. This story I’m telling has happened in the span of the past month, I have one more month left.