u/Effective_Rub483

Might be a bit late to this but I recently saw the movie and I noticed ppl were talking about who’s the villain bear or Nikki. What about Ian tho….That dude was doing everything in his power to make bear as insecure and as stupid as possible. From the start he was feeding bear’s delusions while giving him garbage advice to make Nikki like him less.

I’m not saying bear is blameless, obviously, but literally nobody is talking about Ian at all. The dude was supposed to be bear’s friend, instead he was undermining him at every turn making him 2nd guess himself always, hell he couldn’t comprehend that Nikki liked bear even tho he had no reason to think anything is wrong at all, and has to go digging to find a reason because them liking each other wasn’t enough somehow…. And when he couldn’t find a reason he started to claim that Nikki is just doing this to get back at him, because in his mind anything but Nikki liking bear made sense…

real villain is Ian, he knew bear liked Nikki and he slept with her regardless and kept him in his delusions, bro could’ve been honest and nothing would’ve happened, instead he tried to make bear the weird dude so that he can seem better than he actually is, the biggest evidence was the billion dollar wish, even tho it was obvious bear wasn’t lying, he just didn’t care about Nikki so why would he waste his wish on her or bear.The only thing he cares about being better than bear… that’s why he still wanted bear in his life after he got the money that’s why he followed him home, he needed someone he can look down on, him sleeping with Nikki was just a way for him to do so, and the first part was him trying to make bear seem like an asshole to Nikki, for that exact reason, so he can seem like a good guy trying to be there for his friend meanwhile he’s the reason his friend is having dating troubles 😂

And while we’re at it, the only real victim in that show was Sarah. Because Nikki knew bear liked her and used that to her advantage (took the friendship but didn’t want to date bear even tho she knew his kindness is because he liked her). Ian was a garbage friend and partner to Nikki, a bad friend to bear, and sarah didn’t matter to him even tho he knew she liked bear….

Thank you for coming to my ted talk 😂😂

This can’t be some revolutionary thing I’m saying, if you get AS’d by someone, ur gender or theirs doesn’t change anything about the harm that was done to you, PERIOD.

Was having a convo with a dude that was saying that men being SA’d isn’t as bad a women being SA’d because it’s rare. I’m sorry what? So if it became rarer for the ladies we should stop caring or care less?

It’s so infuriating when u realize how reactionary and shallow thinking ppl are. Being harassed and/or SA’d is a terrible horrible thing to happen to anyone, gender literally has nothing to do with the effects of such events…

It pissed me off so much because as a guy that’s been SA’d by both men and women at different stages of my life, it makes all the hard work I’ve put into healing seem like I was just being a bitch rather than me having real trauma, and it’s so frustrating because if I say anything and point out the stupidity of the argument I get labeled as a bigot or a potential predator even though I’d rather die before I’d ever consider doing anything of that sorts to anyone…..

Thanks for reading my vent lol can’t really say this stuff to anyone but I wanted to let out because I don’t wanna let a dumbass ruin my day 😂

Why tf are ppl so one dimensional??? Especially when it comes to their diet, bro ur supposed to eat everything. Like wtf is wrong with u eating only red meat because vegetables have toxins?? Are you stupid?? Ur scared of lentil soup but don’t mind eating half cooked beef for breakfast lunch and dinner daily??? If ur gonna eat like shit that’s fine do that but don’t act healthy and blame toxins in vegetables for ur diet, nobody has died from eating vegetables, and ur absolutely stupid to be worried about something that has literally never affected ur life in any way WHATSOEVER. Ur literally more likely to choke to death on soup than to be affected by the “toxins” in it (which literally don’t exist post cooking) And for the love of everything don’t try to become a food influencer, we don’t need teens with more eating disorders, we have more than enough!!!

Sincerely a non vegan, just a person with 1 somewhat functional brain cell, working enough for me to at least enough to know that shit like this is stupid AS FUCK

I know I’ll get a lot of hate for this but that’s fine I honestly don’t care about anyone’s ego being hurt because wealth is mentioned as I’m not trying to flex anything, just trying to vent, as Im very private and don’t share my dating life with friends or family

Met this girl a while ago and things were going okay then I noticed her starting to become more materialistic and her expectations increased daily while she was acting shady…. So I decided to test it, for context we both come from completely different financial backgrounds so I decided to throw in a little lie about how many citizenships I have and see how she reacts. Well things went downhill fast 😂 she got dry and we pretty much cut contact, come to find out she had a dude on the side she was getting money from (found out by mistake because she put me in a group on insta with him by mistake after the fact and quickly deleted it 😂), low key felt bad for him so I reached out to let him know he’s not the only guy she’s talking to, turns out the dude twice my age and is married with kids 💀and he was flexing the things he got her to me for some reason lol at that point I just kept my mouth shut and blocked him too because they deserve each other 😂😂

There’s no way for me to contact his wife or family

I still don’t get how she believed me since she literally saw my passports and knows I travel constantly, because I literally invited her to come along😂

It’s become a funny memory for me because out of every gold digger I’ve had in my life (male and female, yes dudes are actually more gold diggers than the ladies lol) she was by far the most obvious and messy, although at the time I met her I legit didn’t think she was like that, which did hurt a little because it’s yet another person seeing me for what I can give not for who I am.

I used to write you poems, sonnets, metaphors, anything and everything to try to show you the love.

Idk this time I’m tried, and you’ll never read this so I can say whatever 🤪🤪🤪

Fuck u, but damn.
Also how come ur not hot? Like seriously u got the attitude of a 15/10 the actions of a 2/10 and somehow you really ain’t shit looks wise😂. But I’d love to see ur eyes, see u smile….

We over anyways so whatever, but damn u really changed my type somehow, like not worse but not better 🤔. I look for different things now, not because they remind me of u, but because they’re the parts I found with u I didn’t think were possible. Somehow I was blind because damn there’s so much of it out there lol.

Been almost a year since we met, fuck that day honestly, I look back and think I was low key stupid for not blocking you immediately 😂 it is what it is.

Not sure when my last letter to you will be but I feel it being near and it’s bitter sweet, but I did all I could and much more. I accept it as it happened even tho I don’t understand it fully and I never will. I do wish u the best but it’s not genuine, like Dave said “I can’t wish my ex the best, she’d end up with me”. It’s just facts(to anyone reading im not usually to is cocky but trust me ain’t nobody ever gonna treat her better lol she made sure of it)

We would’ve made such an awesome family, but hey it isn’t meant to be 💔

been lurking here for a while. Posted here too.

And honestly… I’ve noticed something.

Most of us aren’t actually heartbroken over just a person.
We’re heartbroken over the future we imagined with them.

The routines.
The conversations.
The version of life we thought we were building.

And now we sit here writing letters to people who don’t love us back, chose someone else, moved on, or simply never wanted us the same way we wanted them. And I don’t mean this cruelly, but at some point we gotta ask ourselves,why are we pouring all this love into people who are absent?

Because lowkey, everyone here wants the same thing:
To be understood.
To be chosen.
To feel safe with someone.
To stop feeling alone for five fucking minutes.

So here’s a dumb idea

Instead of crying over emotionally unavailable people together… maybe some of y’all should actually meet each other.

Drop:
- your age,
- gender,
- and one weird thing about you.

I don’t know.
I just think the people writing all these beautiful unsent letters deserve someone who actually wants to read them.

P.s be respectful of others plz no creepy comments 😅

And I’m saying this as a dude.

I genuinely think a lot of men don’t realize how weird they act online because holy shit, some of the interactions I’ve had over the years were genuinely uncomfortable.

And it’s not just one thing either.

You’ve got dudes catfishing people for attention, random strangers interrogating you about your personal life, people getting weirdly emotionally attached after two conversations, guys pretending to “just want advice” and then slowly turning the conversation into something deeply personal, people not respecting boundaries, and the absolute inability some men have to take “no” for an answer.

I left a random comment somewhere ages ago and some guy DM’d me asking for advice because he got broken up with by an Arab girl. Fine. Whatever. I tried being nice.

But then the conversation slowly turned into this weird interrogation “How many people have you loved?” “Where were they from?” “Tell me about your love life.” “Tell me more.” “Why not?”

Bro. I do not know you.

You DM’d ME. I never asked to talk to you. I’m not about to sit here giving a stranger intimate details about my personal life because you’re curious.

And the pushiness is the creepy part. The inability to take a hint or accept a boundary. That weird entitlement some people have online where they think access to your attention means access to your personal life too.

I’ve literally had gay guys continue contacting me from new accounts sending dick pics after being blocked because they were being creepy and pushy after I clearly stated I’m not interested in them like that. I’ve had random dudes insist on knowing intimate details about my relationships like they’re somehow entitled to that information because they decided to message me.

And honestly? Experiences like this made me understand women a lot more when they talk about feeling uncomfortable online, because even as a man I’ve had enough creepy interactions with other men online to know exactly what they mean.

If someone says they’re not comfortable sharing something, stop pushing. It’s not “opening up.” It’s not “deep conversation.” You’re just making people uncomfortable.

Learn boundaries.
Learn how to take rejection.
Learn that access to someone’s profile or attention does not mean access to their personal life.

Some of y’all seriously move like predators and don’t even realize it. Seek help (not from me or anyone online leave us alone plz 😭)

Fine I’ll finally admit it, I. FUCKING HATE YOU you’re such a cheating lying WHORE.( to anyone reading this I’ve never used that word in my life and I don’t say it lightly )

I hate that I met you I wish that day never happened I wish I never texted you I wish I blocked you. My life has been a living nightmare ever since, you ruined the peace I spent my whole life building, you ruined my self image and my confidence even tho I’ve never looked better. I feel worthless because of you even though I’m doing better than I ever thought…

I hate you i hate your best friend SO FUCKING MUCH I HOPE I NEVER SEE HER BECAUSE I SWEAR ITS ON SIGHT. I hate the way you talk I hate that u can’t hold hand it’s fucking weird (note: I never said anything and respected that while with her ofc I’m not an asshole, unlike her…) I hate how ur the most judgmental person in the world but complain about people’s lack of empathy… I hate how u lie to ur therapist just to make urself feel better about all the dick you’ve taken from ur patients while u were married (note:she works in the medical field, not a doctor although she likes to think she is 😂 and yes in the u.s lol)

I hate everything, everything about you….

But fucking hell I’d take you back in heartbeat and I’d fight the world for you and weather every storm for you….. I genuinely don’t care if it ruins me….

You are the dumbest human being on the fucking planet because wdym you find someone that accepts you fully even though they know the genuine worst parts about you and look you dead in the eyes and promise you the world, anything ur heart desires promises he’s with you no matter what, literally unconditional love all u have to do is take it literally just say yes and id treat you like a queen for the rest of ur life and you go commit to a guy while telling me to wait who you btw literally know would act like he never met you if he knew ONE thing of the more “tame” things you did and even worse ur planning on having kids with him 😭😭

I hate you because you left not because of everything else, even though I’d be more than justified. And I wish I never met you for the same reason…

Thank you for reading lol