u/ElkRepresentative756

Hi everyone,

I live in Germany and I’m looking to order baklava from Turkey, mainly as gifts.

I’ve seen Hafiz Mustafa, but the prices are quite high. I also came across Güllüoğlu, especially their dry baklava, which seems much more affordable. I’ve never tried it, though.

For anyone who has ordered from Güllüoğlu: How is the taste and quality of their dry baklava? Is it comparable to Hafiz Mustafa or other well-known Turkish baklava shops?

I’m also interested in how long the baklava stays fresh when unopened. Ideally, I’d like something that can last around a month so I can give it as gifts.

Would love to hear about your experiences. Thanks!

I am getting married to my boyfriend. I’m Maharashtrian and middle class, while he is Tamil and from a much wealthier family. I love him and the main reason I chose him is because I feel completely free and myself with him.

But I’m really struggling with his family.

His mother is kind, but she loves grand things and cares a lot about what relatives will think. I’m a simple person. Whenever I show her something I like for the wedding, she says it isn’t grand enough. She bought me a ₹50k saree even though I said I wanted something simple. At one ceremony, I wore a Maharashtrian bindi that I loved, and she came and changed it because she didn't like it.

There was also an issue where his family initially expected gold from my parents because relatives would see what I was wearing. My family couldn't afford much, and after many arguments my fiancé spoke to them and they stopped asking. My parents are still scared I might be judged later.

My fiancé does support me and tells his mother to let me choose. But I’m scared this will continue forever. Today it’s the wedding, tomorrow it could be the baby shower, naming ceremony, house, etc. I worry that every major decision will become about what his family wants and what relatives will think.

I also struggle to say no to elders. I freeze and stay quiet because I don't want to be disrespectful.

I feel exhausted and sometimes regret my decision, even though I love my fiancé. I feel like I worked so hard to build my independence and freedom, and now I’m scared I’ll lose it after marriage.

I genuinely wanted a close relationship with his parents, but now I feel emotionally distant and scared.

Am I overthinking this?

I am getting married to my boyfriend. I’m Maharashtrian and middle class, while he is Tamil and from a much wealthier family. I love him and the main reason I chose him is because I feel completely free and myself with him.

But I’m really struggling with his family.

His mother is kind, but she loves grand things and cares a lot about what relatives will think. I’m a simple person. Whenever I show her something I like for the wedding, she says it isn’t grand enough. She bought me a ₹50k saree even though I said I wanted something simple. At one ceremony, I wore a Maharashtrian bindi that I loved, and she came and changed it because she didn't like it.

There was also an issue where his family initially expected gold from my parents because relatives would see what I was wearing. My family couldn't afford much, and after many arguments my fiancé spoke to them and they stopped asking. My parents are still scared I might be judged later.

My fiancé does support me and tells his mother to let me choose. But I’m scared this will continue forever. Today it’s the wedding, tomorrow it could be the baby shower, naming ceremony, house, etc. I worry that every major decision will become about what his family wants and what relatives will think.

I also struggle to say no to elders. I freeze and stay quiet because I don't want to be disrespectful.

I feel exhausted and sometimes regret my decision, even though I love my fiancé. I feel like I worked so hard to build my independence and freedom, and now I’m scared I’ll lose it after marriage.

I genuinely wanted a close relationship with his parents, but now I feel emotionally distant and scared.

Am I overthinking this?