u/ElrondTheHater

Can someone be born with depression, or at least start showing symptoms of depression in preschool (3-4 years old)?

Would someone who has apparently been depressed for this long behave or have different needs than someone who became depressed as a teenager or adult?

The thing is that I'm transmasc and in the situation where all the people who I was into as a "lesbian" also transitioned along with me, to the weird squishy space of kind of guy but kind of not and have this Experience that is very peculiar, like I was assigned dyke at birth and that was my Role and it was surprising when I tried dating men. I had to physically transition for my sanity and I've gotten what I wanted and I don't pass as a man most of the time, me and my trans man partner are usually taken as a lesbian couple in public (he also gets my identity and his experience is also a bit squishy and he has a desire To Be Understood among queer people which he doesn't often get). The closest description I've seen is fag dyke, and even if it's concise, I can't just say that in most places to most people. But something like that would clear so many things up, because there is this odd swirl of confusion around me even among friends.

I don't know, I'm babbling. It's tiring, though.

I want one of the 3d printed cases that snap around the device being sold on Aliexpress but I'm wondering if getting it out is difficult because I have another case I like, too.

Thanks.

Orange seemed to be the flagship color of the NaNo in all the adverts. I waited a little to try to purchase one on Aliexpress, there were listings for orange but by the time I tried to buy they were all sold out. When asked about the orange color on the Head-Fi forums, the Snowsky rep said that there were "no plans for orange at the moment" and asking people to vote on the post if they want orange. Is the rep confused (like maybe the original color was called "copper" or something and it's a translation issue?) or were these orange devices really never made in production? Why have listings if they never existed in the first place? I could understand if orange was planned and then never released (because it seemed like there was an orange sample in the live demos) but now they claim it was never planned?

I'm just wondering if anyone actually managed to get ahold of one.

See the thread title. Most treatments for depression seem to be about convincing people not to be sad because their sadness does not have any value. Must sadness be justified? Can a feeling have value of itself? Does one need to be talked out of it, or medicated out of it?

See the thread title. Most treatments for depression seem to be about convincing people not to be sad because their sadness does not have any value. Must sadness be justified? Can a feeling have value of itself? Does one need to be talked out of it, or medicated out of it?

Is the gottman method bad for people like me?

I was in couple's therapy for two years and the therapist would constantly send me into "freeze" to the point of being unable to speak and then berated me for being unable to speak. It is not new that I am unable to speak in conflict and it's not even really limited to conflict. If I am able to force myself to speak during these times my speech comes out slurred and confused. For years I would go to individual therapists and be unable to talk for 30-40 minutes and then talk about nothing, or let them talk at me, for the rest of the time, because I was literally unable to speak about anything important to them. Even once when I was 18 I left and never returned to a therapist because I was unable to speak and they berated me, telling me I was wasting their time by only being able to sob and not speak. The only way I've started to become comfortable with my current therapist was because they were able to read things I had written, which all my therapists before would refuse to do.

I recently learned that this therapist was probably practicing the "Gottman Method" and that this method considers this to be "stonewalling" and as the most dire sign of relationship failure, meaning all other relationship failure signs are present (and we were just hiding them?). So is that what this is, even when it occurs outside of relationships and outside of relationship conflict? Is there a type of couples therapy that can work with people like me, or is this a sign that I am just not cut out for relationships?

I was in couple's therapy for two years and the therapist would constantly send me into "freeze" to the point of being unable to speak and then berated me for being unable to speak. It is not new that I am unable to speak in conflict and it's not even really limited to conflict. If I am able to force myself to speak during these times my speech comes out slurred and confused. For years I would go to individual therapists and be unable to talk for 30-40 minutes and then talk about nothing, or let them talk at me, for the rest of the time, because I was literally unable to speak about anything important to them. Even once when I was 18 I left and never returned to a therapist because I was unable to speak and they berated me, telling me I was wasting their time by only being able to sob and not speak. The only way I've started to become comfortable with my current therapist was because they were able to read things I had written, which all my therapists before would refuse to do.

I recently learned that this therapist was probably practicing the "Gottman Method" and that this method considers this to be "stonewalling" and as the most dire sign of relationship failure, meaning all other relationship failure signs are present (and we were just hiding them?). So is that what this is, even when it occurs outside of relationships and outside of relationship conflict? Is there a type of couples therapy that can work with people like me, or is this a sign that I am just not cut out for relationships?