u/Embarrassed-Fee4397

Met her on 2018 in a class because of common friends and then we got in touch through fb and all I was kindof introvert so never asked for number but eventually she shared and we continued our communication, her parents were forcing her to get married and she used to tell me all I was unemployed unsettled so didn't take any initiative even after she indirectly asked me sometimes. And then she moved to new city and new job and our communication faded as she was always busy but online so I figured someone else entered the scene. Then after a year I contacted her she never replied, after another year she contacted me and talked like nothing happened and casually said she had a breakup with a guy from her office and they are dating while we were also talking so that hit me hard as I expected that she would tell me if another person is there as we were pretty close. After her revelation I never contacted her again.

After a she again contacted me and I didn't replied and Last week she again called me I received as I had moved on from all our past little history,

Now the problem is for a week we talked continuously and last day she proposed me like if I am ready to forgive her about hiding her relationship while we were talking and if I trust her she wants to marry me. But I said I no longer has feelings for her as I moved on and thought she will be married or with someone else. They she told me that she will wait for me till I am over our past frictions. I told her I can't do that too politely.she told me she was hurt and her ego is hurt as she never proposed anyone. She was actively looking for marriage and matrimony sites are not working for her she said.

Even though I told her I don't have feelings for her there is a part of me who still cares for her and want's to take her hands, but our past frictions caused a trust issue with her for me Even though I forgot about it it may some time surface again.

And also I wasn't settled back then now I am pretty settled too.

I haven't talked to her after the i Said No. But my mind is not okay as I badly wants to reach out and check on her and if I go and talk now I will most probably will get back with her as some old feelings will surface again.

PLEASE advise me what to do as don't want to do anything foolish even though my heart bady wants to take her forgetting all our past frictions but I didn't have any idea whether I am just the best option she got now and that's why she is choosing me now ?? PLEASE ADVISE

Met her on 2018 in a class because of common friends and then we got in touch through fb and all I was kindof introvert so never asked for number but eventually she shared and we continued our communication, her parents were forcing her to get married and she used to tell me all I was unemployed unsettled so didn't take any initiative even after she indirectly asked me sometimes. And then she moved to new city and new job and our communication faded as she was always busy but online so I figured someone else entered the scene. Then after a year I contacted her she never replied, after another year she contacted me and talked like nothing happened and casually said she had a breakup with a guy from her office and they are dating while we were also talking so that hit me hard as I expected that she would tell me if another person is there as we were pretty close. After her revelation I never contacted her again.

After a she again contacted me and I didn't replied and Last week she again called me I received as I had moved on from all our past little history,

Now the problem is for a week we talked continuously and last day she proposed me like if I am ready to forgive her about hiding her relationship while we were talking and if I trust her she wants to marry me. But I said I no longer has feelings for her as I moved on and thought she will be married or with someone else. They she told me that she will wait for me till I am over our past frictions. I told her I can't do that too politely.she told me she was hurt and her ego is hurt as she never proposed anyone. She was actively looking for marriage and matrimony sites are not working for her she said.

Even though I told her I don't have feelings for her there is a part of me who still cares for her and want's to take her hands, but our past frictions caused a trust issue with her for me Even though I forgot about it it may some time surface again.

And also I wasn't settled back then now I am pretty settled too.

I haven't talked to her after the i Said No. But my mind is not okay as I badly wants to reach out and check on her and if I go and talk now I will most probably will get back with her as some old feelings will surface again.

Pls advise me what to do as don't want to do anything foolish even though my heart bady wants to take her forgetting all our past frictions but I didn't have any idea whether I am just the best option she got now and that's why she is choosing me now ?? PLEASE ADVISE

**Title: Experiencing ear pain and sound sensitivity after using TWS earbuds & IEMs — looking for safer headset alternatives**

Hey everyone,

I've been dealing with ear pain and headaches on one side of my head ever since I started regularly using TWS earbuds (Realme T310) and IEMs. The worst part is I've now developed sensitivity to sudden loud sounds — even a train horn nearby causes pain.

**My symptoms:**

- Ear pain during/after TWS and IEM use

- Headache on the same side as the affected ear

- Painful sensitivity to sudden loud sounds (horns, trains)

**What I'm looking for:**

- A headset/headphone type that won't cause this kind of pressure or damage

- Should be suitable for daily use (music, calls, maybe light gaming)

- Budget-friendly options preferred

**My questions:**

1. Are IEMs and TWS inherently more harmful than over-ear headphones?

2. Should I switch to open-back over-ear headphones?

3. Any specific models you'd recommend for someone with sensitive ears?

4. Any tips on safe listening habits?

I'm already resting my ears and planning to see an ENT. Just want to make smarter choices going forward. Would love to hear from anyone who has faced similar issues or has expertise in audio/ear health.

Thanks in advance! 🙏

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