u/Embarrassed-Koala225

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I (23F) am living in a 2B2B apartment with my coworker who is a bit older than me (I'll call her R). For some context I started talking and seeing this guy before I moved in and once me and him got to know each other more and met each other face to face several times in public. I had him meet my roommate and brought him over for a few hours to the apartment. And about two weeks later I let him stay overnight with her knowledge about the situation and he only stayed for one night (she was cool with it). Then the next time he came he stayed longer and met my parents and he did stay one day by himself in the apartment just staying in my room and only coming out to leave to have lunch with me while I was at work.

And lately R has been talking to 3 guys since she moved in 2 months ago one is someone we work with, another is her ex who is in jail, another is a guy who she only knows from tiktok who calls himself toxic, and another lives maybe 3 hours north from us who has been in jail but apparently she has been talking on and off for a couple of years (she didn't tell me this detail). She told me either this weekend or next she would drive up and bring him here to hang a few days (she didn't want me telling my mom) however in my opinion she can't afford that because she said she couldn't afford rent this month and has to do a payment plan for rent (when she gets paid more than I do) and she owes me almost $1100 (which she promised to pay me back several times and never did).

Due to her history of having not so great relationships (because she is into the toxic guys). I feel uneasy about the situation so I brought a key locking door knob and a camera both for my room.

However at work she heard a rumor that I didn't feel comfortable about this guy and that I bought a camera( which isn't her business about the camera) so she texted me about it and sounded very confrontational and I told her yes that I did feel uncomfortable with him coming here with her only talking to him online. And she started blowing up my phone texting me that it's unfair to her and that it's a double standard because I brought my boyfriend to the apartment, let him stay the night, and stayed one day while I was at work (my boyfriend has no criminal history my family did a background check on him). She was pretty much yelling at me through text.

I honestly do feel guilty but she said she was okay with it at the time and now she is throwing it my face. And I had went on her Facebook an hour ago (and she now has me blocked) and she posted a video about how I met my boyfriend online so I can't say anything about her bringing a guy over when I had no problem with the guy from work who I hadn't met it's just this guy because he has a criminal history that I have a problem with because a lot of times it's easy for people to go back into old and bad habits like with her she has had a sketchy past but I haven't said anything about that. I feel like I am in a bit of the wrong but my mom did say that she is manipulating me into guilt. I had told her previously to meet him in public and she had acted like she took my advice and turned around to tell me he is coming over for a few days.

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I (23F) am living in a 2B2B apartment with my coworker who is a bit older than me (I'll call her R). For some context I started talking and seeing this guy before I moved in and once me and him got to know each other more and met each other face to face several times in public. I had him meet my roommate and brought him over for a few hours to the apartment. And about two weeks later I let him stay overnight with her knowledge about the situation and he only stayed for one night (she was cool with it). Then the next time he came he stayed longer and met my parents and he did stay one day by himself in the apartment just staying in my room and only coming out to leave to have lunch with me while I was at work.

And lately R has been talking to 3 guys since she moved in 2 months ago one is someone we work with, another is her ex who is in jail, another is a guy who she only knows from tiktok who calls himself toxic, and another lives maybe 3 hours north from us who has been in jail but apparently she has been talking on and off for a couple of years (she didn't tell me this detail). She told me either this weekend or next she would drive up and bring him here to hang a few days (she didn't want me telling my mom) however in my opinion she can't afford that because she said she couldn't afford rent this month and has to do a payment plan for rent (when she gets paid more than I do) and she owes me almost $1100 (which she promised to pay me back several times and never did).

Due to her history of having not so great relationships (because she is into the toxic guys). I feel uneasy about the situation so I brought a key locking door knob and a camera both for my room.

However at work she heard a rumor that I didn't feel comfortable about this guy and that I bought a camera( which isn't her business about the camera) so she texted me about it and sounded very confrontational and I told her yes that I did feel uncomfortable with him coming here with her only talking to him online. And she started blowing up my phone texting me that it's unfair to her and that it's a double standard because I brought my boyfriend to the apartment, let him stay the night, and stayed one day while I was at work (my boyfriend has no criminal history my family did a background check on him). She was pretty much yelling at me through text.

I honestly do feel guilty but she said she was okay with it at the time and now she is throwing it my face. And I had went on her Facebook an hour ago (and she now has me blocked) and she posted a video about how I met my boyfriend online so I can't say anything about her bringing a guy over when I had no problem with the guy from work who I hadn't met it's just this guy because he has a criminal history that I have a problem with because a lot of times it's easy for people to go back into old and bad habits like with her she has had a sketchy past but I haven't said anything about that. I feel like I am in a bit of the wrong but my mom did say that she is manipulating me into guilt. I had told her previously to meet him in public and she had acted like she took my advice and turned around to tell me he is coming over for a few days.

I (23F) am living in a 2B2B apartment with my coworker who is a bit older than me (I'll call her R). For some context I started talking and seeing this guy before I moved in and once me and him got to know each other more and met each other face to face several times in public. I had him meet my roommate and brought him over for a few hours to the apartment. And about two weeks later I let him stay overnight with her knowledge about the situation and he only stayed for one night (she was cool with it). Then the next time he came he stayed longer and met my parents and he did stay one day by himself in the apartment just staying in my room and only coming out to leave to have lunch with me while I was at work.

And lately R has been talking to 3 guys since she moved in 2 months ago one is someone we work with, another is her ex who is in jail, another is a guy who she only knows from tiktok who calls himself toxic, and another lives maybe 3 hours north from us who has been in jail but apparently she has been talking on and off for a couple of years (she didn't tell me this detail). She told me either this weekend or next she would drive up and bring him here to hang a few days (she didn't want me telling my mom) however in my opinion she can't afford that because she said she couldn't afford rent this month and has to do a payment plan for rent (when she gets paid more than I do) and she owes me almost $1100 (which she promised to pay me back several times and never did).

Due to her history of having not so great relationships (because she is into the toxic guys). I feel uneasy about the situation so I brought a key locking door knob and a camera both for my room.

However at work she heard a rumor that I didn't feel comfortable about this guy and that I bought a camera( which isn't her business about the camera) so she texted me about it and sounded very confrontational and I told her yes that I did feel uncomfortable with him coming here with her only talking to him online. And she started blowing up my phone texting me that it's unfair to her and that it's a double standard because I brought my boyfriend to the apartment, let him stay the night, and stayed one day while I was at work (my boyfriend has no criminal history my family did a background check on him). She was pretty much yelling at me through text.

I honestly do feel guilty but she said she was okay with it at the time and now she is throwing it my face. And I had went on her Facebook an hour ago (and she now has me blocked) and she posted a video about how I met my boyfriend online so I can't say anything about her bringing a guy over when I had no problem with the guy from work who I hadn't met it's just this guy because he has a criminal history that I have a problem with because a lot of times it's easy for people to go back into old and bad habits like with her she has had a sketchy past but I haven't said anything about that. I feel like I am in a bit of the wrong but my mom did say that she is manipulating me into guilt. I had told her previously to meet him in public and she had acted like she took my advice and turned around to tell me he is coming over for a few days.