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My (19F) boyfriend (19M) of about a year has lied to me multiple times about his drug habits, and I don’t know how to feel anymore.

Some context: when we first started getting to know each other, he told me (completely unprompted) that he had quit all substances. I didn’t even ask — he just offered that information himself.

Now, I’m not naive. I know plenty of people our age experiment or use drugs, and that’s not even the main issue for me. What bothers me is the lying. If he does them, fine — just be honest about it.

Instead, what happens is I’ll suspect something, bring it up calmly, and he’ll deny it, tell me I’m being crazy or paranoid, and make me feel like I’m the problem for not trusting him. Then after I push enough, he eventually admits that I was right.

It’s happened more than once, and I’m starting to feel like I can’t trust anything he says. At this point, it’s less about the drugs and more about the pattern of lying and making me question myself.

Am I overreacting here, or is this as big of a red flag as it feels and what can I do in this situation?

My (19F) boyfriend (19M) of about a year has lied to me multiple times about his drug habits, and I don’t know how to feel anymore.

Some context: when we first started getting to know each other, he told me (completely unprompted) that he had quit all substances. I didn’t even ask — he just offered that information himself.

Now, I’m not naive. I know plenty of people our age experiment or use drugs, and that’s not even the main issue for me. What bothers me is the lying. If he does them, fine — just be honest about it.

Instead, what happens is I’ll suspect something, bring it up calmly, and he’ll deny it, tell me I’m being crazy or paranoid, and make me feel like I’m the problem for not trusting him. Then after I push enough, he eventually admits that I was right.

It’s happened more than once, and I’m starting to feel like I can’t trust anything he says. At this point, it’s less about the drugs and more about the pattern of lying and making me question myself.

Am I overreacting here, or is this as big of a red flag as it feels and what can I do in this situation?

TL;DR My (19F) boyfriend (19M) has lied to me multiple times about his drug use. I don’t even care that much about the drugs — it’s the fact he denies it, calls me paranoid, and only admits it when I push. It’s making me feel like I can’t trust him at all. Am I overreacting or is this a red flag?

Started taking 20mg fluoxetine 7 days ago and haven’t noticed a single thing so far aside from increased drowsiness & increased irritability/depression. After I’ve done 1 month on the new meds, they’re increasing my dosage slowly to reach 60mg (I have ocd). Why haven’t I noticed anything yet?

Started taking 20mg fluoxetine 7 days ago and haven’t noticed a single thing so far aside from increased drowsiness & increased irritability/depression. After I’ve done 1 month on the new meds, they’re increasing my dosage slowly to reach 60mg. Why haven’t I noticed anything positive yet?