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For context I am 23M who has been seeing this women for a few weeks now, at first it was nothing more then simply casual, we'd hang out hook up etc. as time has gone on there is clearly a lot more feelings involved then we both ever thought. We get a long great, she is honestly pretty much everything i've ever wanted in a woman, from looks to her entire personality.

The only issue is she has 2x kids ages 4 & 6 & i'm not 100% sure if this would cause complications when it comes to making us official as well as how my friends & family would react.

I work full time WFH, she works part time as a teaching assistant. She obviously has a lot of commitments with her kids, whilst I on the other hand still live at home and have total freedom.

We are both still very young obviously, but I want to know if anyone else has been in a similar position at my age & how it worked out for you in the future.

I've suffered from premature ejaculation for as long as I can remember. Looking back, I think it may have started because when I first began masturbating as a teenager, I'd always try to finish as quickly as possible to avoid getting caught. Over the years that seems to have become my default response.

To this day, I usually ejaculate in under 30 seconds, whether I'm masturbating or having sex. It's not just a sex-related issue; it happens when I'm alone too.

For years, alcohol was my workaround. When I was drunk, I could last much longer and actually enjoy sex. The downside was that recently alcohol has started having the opposite effect, and now I struggle to get or maintain an erection when I've been drinking.

So now I feel stuck:

• Sober = can get hard, but finish almost immediately.
• Drunk = can last longer, but often can't get hard.

Because of years of bad experiences, I've developed a lot of anxiety around sex. I'm now finding that even when sober, I'm getting nervous about performance and sometimes struggling to get or maintain an erection because I'm constantly worrying about whether I'll finish too quickly.

This has genuinely affected my confidence and has contributed to several potential relationships not progressing because sex became an issue.

I've already tried:

• Kegels
• Stop-start technique
• Priligy (30mg)
• Numbing creams/sprays

None of them have made a meaningful difference.

At this point I feel like I'm dealing with both lifelong PE and performance-anxiety-related ED, and I'm not sure where to go from here and I am starting to lose interest in sex & dating.

Has anyone been in a similar situation and actually found something that worked? Is there anything I haven't considered, or should I be looking at specialist treatment?

I’m a 23-year-old male from the South East of England and I’ve recently started a new fully remote job that pays £75,000 per year, Monday to Friday. For context, less then 2 years ago i was earning 29k a year.

I know this is an exceptional salary for someone my age, and I’m incredibly grateful for the opportunity. However, I’ve also had a strong desire for years to take 1–2 years out to travel the world while I’m still young, single, and living at home with relatively few responsibilities.

The dilemma is that the industry I now work in is extremely niche. Opportunities like this are rare, especially in the South East, and it’s highly unlikely I would find another role with a similar salary and flexibility if I walked away from this one.

So I feel like I’m faced with two potentially once-in-a-lifetime opportunities:

1. A career opportunity that could set me up financially for years to come.
2. The chance to travel extensively while I’m still young and free of major commitments.

Part of me thinks I should stay in the job for a few years, build up savings and experience, and travel later. Another part of me worries that life circumstances could change, and I may never have the same freedom to take an extended trip.

If you were in my position, what would you do?

I’d really appreciate any advice, especially from people who have faced a similar decision.

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