u/EmptyWishbone8449

So my husband of 21 years asked for a separation a few months ago. These have been the most depressing and emotional months of my life. He refuses to go to counseling as a couple, stating that he doesn’t want to work on things. When I asked if he still loves me he said “as the mother of my children”. We recently spoke (which had been minimal this entirely time) he said he doesn’t like doing things with me or being around me. I didn’t want any of this and I want to at least try to repair. When asked if he wants a divorce he gets frustrated and just says he doesn’t know and it’s not a decision to take lightly. I have been a SAHM for pretty much our entire marriage and I have supported his career. He says he has no interest in selling our house, which we are living in separate bedrooms. He seemed to imply if we divorce he’ll move out and continue paying the mortgage so the kids and I can live here. This entire thing is weighing heavily on both of us and our two teenagers. I cannot live like this indefinitely. Is there any hope or should I just give up and file myself? I know no one can truly answer this but seeing others insight helps.

So my husband of 21 years asked for a separation a few months ago. These have been the most depressing and emotional months of my life. He refuses to go to counseling as a couple, stating that he doesn’t want to work on things. When I asked if he still loves me he said “as the mother of my children”. We recently spoke (which had been minimal this entirely time) he said he doesn’t like doing things with me or being around me. I didn’t want any of this and I want to at least try to repair. When asked if he wants a divorce he gets frustrated and just says he doesn’t know and it’s not a decision to take lightly. I have been a SAHM for pretty much our entire marriage and I have supported his career. He says he has no interest in selling our house, which we are living in separate bedrooms. He seemed to imply if we divorce he’ll move out and continue paying the mortgage so the kids and I can live here. This entire thing is weighing heavily on both of us and our two teenagers. I cannot live like this indefinitely. Is there any hope or should I just give up and file myself? I know no one can truly answer this but seeing others insight helps.

Husband of 21 years asked for a separation two months ago. We have two teenagers, 19 and 16, and I’m a SAHM. I have a BS but I haven’t really worked in 17 years. I’ve been actively looking since January with nothing but “we want experience”. My husband refuses to go to marriage counseling because he “isn’t interested in fixing our marriage right now” but gets upset if I question about a divorce. I’m in fucking limbo with no money, no job and no retirement savings to my name. I’m aware that I would get 50/50 in a divorce but that’s only after it’s finalized. My kids are definitely being affected by it, manifesting as attitudes and poor grades. Not to mention we have two German shepherds (that are my dogs) so it’s not like I could rent anywhere easily in the event of divorce. I’m left holding the emotional burden of the family and it’s quickly burning me out. I have a history of depression and I’m not in a good place mentally. I’m on an emotional roller coaster of depression, anger, indifference and giving up on everything. How do SAHMs navigate this?!

My spouse and I are currently separated going on two months, their choice, and are still sharing locations on life 360 mostly because of our two teenagers. They had an affair 12 years ago and although I choose to forgive them, I’ve had trust issues since. They assure me they’re not being unfaithful but I can’t get their past out of my head. I’m trying to give them the benefit of the doubt because they are still sharing locations. Is it wrong of me to ask who they are with if I see that they’re out to lunch or at a bar?

So I had my windshield replaced a year and a half ago (2017 F150). It started leaking in one corner, the company came out and “fixed” the leak. Fast forward to a year later and it’s now leaking across the front. It’s small leaks, but there is still water getting in. What can I use to seal the windshield at home? I don’t feel like arguing with the obviously incompetent company anymore.